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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on May 18, 2022Hindi
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Dear Mayank Sir,
I am facing a difficult problem both personally and professionally.
Last year, I took the decision to move back home, which is in a small town, because both my parents had survived COVID but have been facing major health issues since then.
I am their only child.
As a result, I had to leave a job where my prospects were very good and I was enjoying my work very much. Also, I was living in a big city, independent of my parents whom I love very much.
It is a struggle to be back at home with them. They still treat me like a small child with advice and questions at every step.
Workwise too, the job is a huge stepdown and the money, though decent, is less that what I used to earn. Responsibilities and challenges, which I used to enjoy, are less too.
I have to stay here for one more year at least before I can make plans to move out again.
The stress from home is spilling out at my job and the irritation at work is spilling out at home.
How do I handle this? Am going crazy.
Please help.

Ans:

Hi.

I appreciate the fact that you sacrificed your job to take care of your parents.

Ideally, you should go back to a larger city and restart your career. I am sure your past employer would be open to taking you back.

If that is not possible, then you need to have a candid discussion with your parents and make them understand that their constant involvement in your life is not acceptable.

They may be doing it out of love but, since it is negatively impacting you, they need to give you space.

Please don’t change your job in your hometown as that will further complicate your situation.

 

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