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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 03, 2024English
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नमस्ते, मैं एक शादीशुदा व्यक्ति हूं और मेरी दूसरी शादी को लगभग 7 साल पूरे हो गए हैं, पहली शादी एक आपदा थी और मेरे मानसिक स्वास्थ्य पर इसका असर पड़ा, मामला अभी भी चल रहा है, हाल ही में पिछले एक साल से और मैं अपनी दूर की चचेरी बहन के प्रति आकर्षित हूं, वह बहुत प्यारी है और मैं हमेशा मेरी मदद करता हूं, मैं उसके साथ सब कुछ साझा करता हूं और उसके लिए उपहार खरीदता हूं, हालांकि मुझे पता है कि हम एक साथ नहीं रह सकते, क्या यह ठीक है?

Ans: प्रिय अनाम,

यदि आप पूछ रहे हैं कि क्या किसी अन्य महिला से विवाह करते हुए किसी के साथ प्यार में रहना ठीक है, तो इसका उत्तर नहीं है। नहीं, यह ठीक नहीं है. बिना कहें चला गया। आप अपनी पत्नी के प्रति प्रतिबद्ध हैं क्योंकि आप उससे प्यार करते हैं और उसका सम्मान करते हैं। किसी अन्य महिला के प्यार में पड़ना बिल्कुल भी ठीक नहीं है। आशा है कि यह आपको स्पष्टता देगा।

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 04, 2023English
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नमस्ते। हालाँकि मेरी शादी को 12 साल हो गए हैं और मेरा 9 साल का बेटा है, लेकिन जब अंतरंगता की बात आती है तो मेरी पत्नी के साथ संबंध अच्छे नहीं हैं। माई लास्ट कंपनी में एक महिला सहकर्मी थी जो शौक और रुचियों के मामले में काफी हद तक मेरे जैसी ही थी। हालाँकि मैंने और उसने कुछ समय पहले ही वह नौकरी छोड़ दी थी, लेकिन आज तक मैं उसके संपर्क में हूँ और उससे बात करना पसंद करता हूँ। मैं रोज उससे व्हाट्सएप पर विश करते हुए बात करता हूं और कभी-कभी जिंदगी पर चैट भी करता हूं। लेकिन मुझे लगता है कि उसके मन में उसके लिए भावनाएँ विकसित हो गई हैं लेकिन मुझे यकीन नहीं है। मेरी शादीशुदा जिंदगी में सेक्स की कमी के कारण मैं कभी-कभी उसके प्यार करने के बारे में भी कल्पना करता हूं। उसे हमेशा मुझसे मिलना ठीक है लेकिन मुझे डर है कि अगर मैं उससे मिला तो कहीं मैं अपनी सीमा न लांघ जाऊं। क्या ऐसा महसूस करना ठीक है और क्या मुझे अपनी भावनाएं उसके साथ साझा करनी चाहिए?
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,

एक दीर्घकालिक रिश्ता कुछ समय के बाद सांसारिक और नियमित लग सकता है लेकिन यह आपको किसी और के लिए भावनाएं विकसित करने की अनुमति नहीं देता है। हालाँकि अपनी महिला सहकर्मियों से मिलना कोई बड़ी बात नहीं है, लेकिन जब आपके मन में उस सहकर्मी के लिए भावनाएँ हों और आपको संदेह हो कि आप एक सीमा लांघ सकते हैं, तब भी क्या आपको लगता है कि मुलाकात पर विचार करना उचित है? मुझे शक है कि।

मैं समझता हूं कि इस व्यक्ति के साथ आपका रिश्ता अच्छा है, और आप अपनी शादी में अधूरापन महसूस कर रहे हैं, लेकिन फिर भी यह आपको अच्छे विवेक से अपनी पत्नी को धोखा देने की अनुमति नहीं देता है। मैं तीन चीजें सुझाता हूं-

1) आत्मनिरीक्षण करें और मूल्यांकन करें कि आपकी शादी के बाहर ये भावनाएँ क्यों हैं।
2) अपनी पत्नी से इस बारे में स्पष्ट चर्चा करें।
3) मुद्दे पर एक-एक कदम पर काम करें और उस पर मिलकर काम करें। यदि आवश्यक हो, तो विवाह परामर्शदाता से मिलें। हम सभी को कभी-कभी थोड़ी अतिरिक्त सहायता की आवश्यकता होती है।

हर शादी में एक या दो झटके लगते हैं। एक बार जब आप अपना ध्यान सही जगह पर केंद्रित कर लेंगे तो यह ठीक हो जाएगा।

शुभकामनाएं!

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Hello . I had a physical relationship with my first cousin sister in my teens .We were in love and wanted to marry too. But obviously it was not possible.Now we have started talking again . And I want to have this relationship again as I really desire her . Is it ok to go ahead ?I am 58..She is 53. I am divorced . She is married . Please advise .
Ans: Dear Aasheesh,

You’re 58 now, divorced, and perhaps seeking a meaningful connection or revisiting something that felt unfinished. She, however, is married. This is an important factor to consider deeply. Any attempt to reignite a romantic or physical relationship would not only involve her but also impact her spouse, her family, and potentially her sense of stability and well-being. While your feelings are valid and deserve acknowledgment, so too are the commitments and responsibilities she has in her life now.

It’s also important to reflect on why these feelings are resurfacing now. Is it about her specifically, or is it more about reconnecting with a time in your life that felt exciting, safe, or deeply connected? Sometimes, our desire to rekindle a past relationship stems from wanting to recapture the emotions and experiences associated with it, rather than the person themselves. Understanding this distinction can help you clarify what you truly want and whether pursuing it is the right path.

If you feel the urge to express your feelings, I would encourage you to do so with honesty and respect, but only in a way that doesn’t cross boundaries or disrupt her life. You could share how much that connection meant to you and how happy you are to be back in touch. However, I would advise against pursuing a physical or romantic relationship unless her circumstances change, and even then, it would require careful consideration from both of you.

Ultimately, this is a moment to reflect on what you truly need and value at this stage in your life. If you’re yearning for love and connection, there are ways to explore this that honor both your past and the present realities of your lives. Perhaps it’s worth exploring these feelings further with a therapist or counselor, as they can provide a safe and supportive space to delve deeper into what this relationship represents for you and how best to navigate it.

You deserve happiness and fulfillment, and so does she. The key is finding a path forward that honors both.

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Hi,my son has got 96% in his icse class 10 exams this year.he is not inclined towards a career in sciences (b.tech/med).he has thus opted for commerce and maths.with an initial inclination towards finance and mathematics we have shortlisted ipm and law and enrolled him for a coaching for ipm.would he be able to prepare for clat as well along with ipm.and with 96 % how are his chances to clear both ?
Ans: Yes, your son can prepare for both CLAT and IPM exams simultaneously, especially given his ICSE score. With a 96% score, he has a strong chance of success in both exams. CLAT and IPM share some common ground, which could make preparation more manageable.
Preparation for both CLAT and IPM:
CLAT:
CLAT requires a strong foundation in English comprehension, logical reasoning, quantitative reasoning, and legal reasoning. IPM exams also test similar skills.
IPM:
IPM exams focus on quantitative ability, analytical reasoning, and verbal reasoning. CLAT also assesses these skills.
Overlap:
The core skills tested in both exams, such as quantitative reasoning, verbal reasoning, and logical reasoning, provide common ground for preparation. Your son's coaching for IPM can help him develop a solid foundation in these areas.
Legal Reasoning:
CLAT specifically requires legal reasoning, which is not part of IPM. Your son can focus on preparing for this section separately.
Scheduling:
Balancing preparation for both exams requires careful planning. He can allocate specific time slots for each exam's preparation.
Chances of Clearing Both:
IPM:
With a 96% ICSE score, your son has a strong chance of clearing IPM exams. His high marks indicate a strong aptitude for quantitative reasoning and problem-solving.
CLAT:
CLAT is a highly competitive exam, but with his current scores, your son has a very good chance of clearing CLAT.
Factors affecting success:
Preparation efforts, effective time management, and consistency in studying will play a crucial role in determining success in both exams.
Tips for Preparation:
Structured Approach:
A structured study plan that includes regular practice, mock tests, and detailed analysis of mistakes will be beneficial.
Mock Tests:
Regular mock tests for both CLAT and IPM will help him assess his progress and identify areas for improvement.
Time Management:
Developing effective time management skills is crucial for balancing preparation for both exams.
Focus on Fundamentals:
Ensure he has a strong foundation in the core subjects of both exams.
Practice:
He should solve a variety of questions and practice problems to build confidence and improve his speed and accuracy.
Best of luck. Professor

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Hello sir, I'm a DASA student applying to IIITH for the 2025-26 batch. My current curriculum is the NSW HSC from Australia, which includes Mathematics and Physics but not Chemistry. IIITH requires Maths, Physics, and Chemistry for DASA eligibility, and I need to figure out how to add Chemistry.I've been looking into taking Chemistry through NIOS (National Institute of Open Schooling), AP or IB board but I'm concerned because IIITH's brochure specifies that the subjects must be completed "outside India". I've emailed IIITH for clarification, but I'm still waiting for a response. Is this acceptable for DASA?
Ans: It is unlikely that IIIT Hyderabad would accept NIOS Chemistry for DASA eligibility because the DASA brochure states that the subjects must be completed outside India. Since NIOS is an Indian board, it does not meet this requirement. However, you could consider taking AP or IB Chemistry to meet the requirements, as these are often recognized as international qualifications. It's best to wait for IIITH's response to your email for official clarification.
Elaboration:
DASA Requirements:
DASA (Direct Admissions for Students Abroad) at IIIT Hyderabad requires applicants to have completed 11th and 12th grades or equivalent outside India, with a minimum of 60% marks in Physics, Chemistry, and Mathematics.
NIOS and IIITH:
While NIOS is a recognized board in India, it's unlikely to be accepted for DASA at IIITH because the DASA brochure specifies that the subjects must be completed outside India.
AP or IB Chemistry:
You could consider taking AP or IB Chemistry through a foreign board to fulfill the requirement for Chemistry. These are often recognized as international qualifications.
Waiting for IIITH's Response:
Since you've already emailed IIITH, it's advisable to wait for their response to your query for official clarification on whether NIOS Chemistry would be accepted.

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Dear Sir, My age is 33 year now. I was working in financial sector for 5year as a recovery agent. I have done intermediate in Arts and Diploma in mechanical engineering. Passed out in 2012. Now i want to change my job sector to technical line. I have no experience before in technical line. Please guide me which technical job will be best suitable for me And What Salary Range Should i expect?.
Ans: For you AMIE ( Mechanical) will be the best option. You will be equivalent to B.E./B.Tech Mechanical. The details are given below.
The AMIE (Associate Member of the Institution of Engineers) exam is a professional qualification in engineering, equivalent to a B.E./B.Tech. degree. It's conducted by the Institution of Engineers (India) (IEI) and is offered as a distance learning program. The exam is held twice a year, in June and December.
Exam Structure:
Stage I (Section A): Focuses on fundamental engineering subjects.
Stage II (Section B): Covers a specific branch of engineering like Civil, Electrical, or Mechanical.
Eligibility:
Educational Qualification:
Candidates must have completed a recognized course of study in engineering or technology.
Age:
No upper age limit, but candidates must be at least 18 years old on the first day of the examination.
Other:
Indian citizens or foreign nationals with at least two years of residence in India.
Exam Pattern:
The exam is based on multiple-choice questions (MCQs).
It can be taken online (CBT) or offline (PBT).
Benefits:
Becoming a graduate engineer with the same qualification as a B.E./B.Tech. degree.
Recognized by government and private sectors.
Least expensive compared to traditional degree programs.
Application Process:
Download the application form from the IEI website.
Fill out the form and attach the required documents.
Pay the application fee.
Submit the application form along with the fee.

But since you did the recovery work in Finance sector you are totally detached from Mechanical Engineering. So it is not possible to say what kind of job you will get and what will be your salary.

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I'm preparing for Neet and wanted to take a drop but my parents wanted me to do something with it like a partial Drop......And right now I'm totally confused what to do and what not.........i think I should take BSC zoology in private colleges , can anyone suggest me something..........
Ans: Hi Prirhvi,

Based on your query, there are two main issues to consider:

1. You want to take a break (which may be partial or full).
2. You want to pursue a BSc in Zoology.

Before making any decisions, take some time to think and analyze your situation.

Firstly, evaluate your marks in the HSC and your recent NEET exam scores (if you have appeared for NEET 2025). If you have completed both exams, focus on turning your weaker subjects into strengths. Be prepared to answer any questions someone may pose. Without this preparation, taking a break may not be effective.

Secondly, if you decide to take a gap year, you should not also consider studying another course concurrently, as this could divert your attention and hinder your main goal. Remember, undergraduate courses are semester-based, meaning you will need to manage both NEET preparation and your regular UG courses (including internal exams, semester exams, etc.). Juggling both can be quite challenging.

If you believe it is possible to manage both, I suggest that instead of choosing Zoology for your UG, you consider subjects like Chemistry or Physics. These subjects are foundational and can be better understood through regular UG coursework. Therefore, you should not worry too much about that particular subject. However, it’s not advisable to select Zoology and take a break for NEET preparation at the same time. If you have doubts in Physics or Chemistry, you can seek clarification from your lecturers.

In summary, my suggestion is to concentrate on one goal and work towards achieving it.

BEST WISHES.
POOCHO. LIFE CHANGE KARO.

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