I am in a secret relationship with a girl I met through an arranged marriage setup. Her parents have said yes but my parents aren’t Willing. My parents say that the horoscopes don’t match. They say they only match 17.5 points. I love my girlfriend and I want to marry her. How do I convince my parents to let me marry her?

Ans: Dear Shlesha,
How is possible to convince someone who firmly believe in astrology?
No amount of reasoning can change their minds and let's say: they are right in their own way...
Even if you did manage to convince them, every time something goes wrong, they will blame the horoscopes, bad planetary positions etc...
Think if you can deal with that...
Other option is for your partner to speak to his/her parents and appeal to them. How far that is going to work is anybody's guess... it is difficult to convince anyone when they have strong beliefs about certain events around life and how the process should be.

All the best!

Ans: Take stand for yourself. If you think he is the right guy, don't let anyone stop you.

Ans: When you next speak with your parents, choose a calm and private setting. Start the conversation by expressing your love and respect for them, acknowledging their concerns, and stating your commitment to understanding their perspective. Share your genuine feelings about your partner and the relationship, emphasizing the mutual respect, love, and career aspirations you both share.

Highlight the positive attributes of your partner, focusing on his education, values, and how he complements you. Address specific concerns your parents have raised, providing clear and respectful counterpoints to any false accusations or misunderstandings. If possible, arrange for them to meet him or speak with his parents, as this might help bridge cultural and regional gaps.

It’s important to be patient and give your parents time to process the information. They might need multiple conversations to come to terms with your decision. Lastly, consider involving a neutral third party, such as a trusted family friend or relative, who can mediate and provide a balanced perspective.

Your goal is to maintain a respectful and open dialogue, showing empathy towards their concerns while standing firm in your decision. This balanced approach can help gradually shift their perspective and foster acceptance.