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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 18, 2025

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Question by Work on Dec 13, 2025Hindi

Mam, I know some ways by which i can change my state of mind from lazy to working.. and having pressure/deadline helps to move on. But still I'm get trapped in guilt of actions and don't feel confident that next time i will be able to control myself..( cuz some actions give short pleasure/gratification easily.. but guilts also). And in all those silent, sad, depressed emotional time my Real working time gets wasted.. and feels like I just live in more guilt and saddness..even if it hurts. But don't wanna live like that!! What I do?

Ans: Dear Work,
Focus in any area of Life comes only when you realize WHY you are doing WHAT you are doing in that area.
For eg: If you decide to lose weight and just randomly join the gym without understanding WHY you are in the gym, a few days later, you will drop out. Mind you, that LOSING WEIGHT is not your reason; WHY do you want to lose that weight is the only thing that will keep you focused and motivated.
Hence, if you are giving into short term distractions, then obviously whatever it is that you are doing is not interesting you and so you get easily distracted.
Take one area of your life at a time; drop your goals in paper and mark a strong WHY against each. If it isn't motivating you enough, go back to the Drawing Board and do the exercise until you find that fire in your belly.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Asked on - Jan 10, 2026 | Answered on Apr 02, 2026

I tried it, and somehow I was able to overcome external distractions, and giving into instant gratification. I wanted to improve by coding field as it is my main field.. but also I induced some health related things also.. and i found about "zeigarnik effect", and i got strssed with some failures of question, or failed to do some other task.. gets ended into no work for all day. I searched and found somethings but the main thing was "To Calm the Mind".. I searced it also.. meditation, breathing doesn't work that good as gone into thoughts.. Is there any other ways to take my control back from emotions to mind, and make it calm.. and do all my work again.

Ans: Dear Work,
Your mind either enslaves you OR liberates you!
Sadly, all the theories and jargon that you are subjecting you mind to is only going to further enslave you.
The internet can keep you in a research mode permanently; if you are fine with that, it's a choice that you make...If not, take action by simply commanding your mind to do certain things in a certain way and you know what; it actually listens!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/