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Dating an older woman: Seeking advice for convincing strict parents?

Ravi Mittal |629 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 05, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 04, 2025Hindi

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Me and girlfriend we are in a relationship from last 3 year we have age difference of 1.5 years. She was 1.5 years older than me. Apart from this we both are financially stable and sure about our relationship we our parents are quite strict how to convince them?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
In today's date, age difference is not a big deal, especially 1.5 years, but I do see where your concern stems from. It can be tricky to convince parents and more so strict parents. But I believe if you explain to them how happy she makes you, how compatible you both are, they should understand. You have to start somewhere. Plus both of you are established adults. And, parents can surprise us too. It's possible that they might not react as badly as you are imagining. Start the convincing process. It will work out.

I suggest starting with the positives. The age thing is not important and that’s exactly how you should treat it. Bring it up casually in between conversations. I am sure they will ask why you had not started with it. To which, you should answer as nonchalantly as possible, making them realize that age is not a deciding factor in today’s relationship.
Hope this helps.

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Hello mam I also have intercaste relation for 1.5 years but how to convince parents

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