I am in a secret relationship with a girl I met through an arranged marriage setup. Her parents have said yes but my parents aren’t Willing. My parents say that the horoscopes don’t match. They say they only match 17.5 points. I love my girlfriend and I want to marry her. How do I convince my parents to let me marry her?
Ans: Dear Ankit,
I am sorry you are in this situation. I understand how challenging familial expectations can be. Here are some things you can try to convince your wishes- First off, try to communicate your feelings; if horoscopes do not matter to you, you should be able to directly convey that to your parents. Yes, being respectful and fulfilling your parent's wishes are of utmost importance but so is standing your ground when you are not in the wrong. When you express your feelings for your girlfriend, highlight the positives. Let it get etched in their mind and every time they think of her, they associate her with the positives you mentioned earlier. Mention her values, qualities, compatibility with her, how happy she makes you, and everything that is far more important than matching horoscopes. Ask a close family member to mediate. A third party's perspective can change their mind.
Here's the most important thing- patience. Deep-rooted beliefs and customs aren't easy to change. It will take time and a considerable amount of effort from both of you. Sometimes, repeated conversations can gradually shift their perspective.
Best Wishes!
