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helen Question by helen on Mar 13, 2023Hindi
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my husband doubts me with any guy

Ans: Dear Helen,
I don't know what your question is. But I can safely assume that his doubting you bothers you.
Two scenarios here to consider:
1. Has any repeated behavior of yours that he feels responsible for causing him to doubt you?
OR
2. Has he always felt insecure if any man/male friend talks to you?

In the first case, it may just help to sir=t with him and clarify this, so that you give a voice to his concern about you. It maybe that he is worried about society or your safety. Whatever it is, he's coming from a space of concern, so appreciate it and do what it takes to bring back harmony.

But if it's #2, you have married someone who is insecure and builds stories around this. He seriously needs to work on this, else he will suffocate you with his doubts and slowly it will lead to him stalking you on social media and making sure he knows your every move. Work through a close friend or family member of his who can be neutral and can show him a different side of the story. It may work; but make sure to nip it right away, else it can break down the foundation of your marriage which is built on trust and love. If this doesn't work, seek professional help to help him combat his fears and insecurities of losing you to another man.

All the best!

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Hello sir, we have completed 8 months of marriage and still my husband has trust issues about me, like I would have relation or contact with other person but I'm not having any relationship with anyone after marriage and even not connecting to anyone nor any ex person called or contact me from any media or app, . Since then I'm trying to clear my husbands doubt every time he asks me about it ...plzz tell me how do I make him to trust me .
Ans: The first thing to consider is that trust is something that takes time to build, and it is not something you can simply “prove” by answering his questions or explaining yourself over and over again. Trust is a process that requires consistent actions over time, and both partners need to contribute to that process. While you’re being open and transparent, it’s also important that your husband acknowledges that trust is a two-way street. He may have unresolved issues or past experiences that make it difficult for him to feel secure, and these need to be addressed if you want to move forward in a healthy way.

One of the challenges you face is the need for patience—both with him and with yourself. Reassuring your husband is important, but it’s equally important to create a space for deeper conversations about the root of his insecurities. Have you been able to sit down with him and gently ask what specifically triggers his doubts? You may want to approach this from a place of curiosity and care, without getting defensive. Understanding the underlying causes of his fears can give you both a clearer sense of how to work together to address them.

At the same time, it’s important to set emotional boundaries for yourself. While you want to support your husband, you shouldn’t feel like you need to constantly prove your loyalty or justify your actions. If you find yourself repeating the same explanations or feeling pressured to give constant reassurances, it can be emotionally draining. It’s okay to acknowledge his fears, but also to let him know that trust is something that needs to be built over time, and you need space to nurture the relationship without feeling constantly questioned.

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