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Relationships Expert - Answered on Sep 09, 2022

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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Sep 09, 2022Hindi
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Dear Love Guru,
I'm 30 and my parents want me to get married.
I have a boyfriend but I am not interested in getting married at the moment. Neither is he.
I tried talking to my parents, but they are very adamant.
Sometimes, my boyfriend and I feel we should pretend that we got married; the pressure is so much.
What can I do? I want to travel, enjoy my life and then settle down.
How do I handle this?

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You handle this by not caving in to pressure and living life on your own terms.

I wouldn't go about pretending, but I certainly would stand my ground if I were you.

What's the big deal if you get married at 32 or 33 instead of 30? It's just a number at the end of the day.

Rather than deception, choose determination. And your parents really need to cool it with the forcing business! It's your life and you should get a say in when you marry.

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When he does not want to marry you, then what makes you waste so much time on him?
Move on with your life; it's not about getting married like the way your parents intend BUT more a signal to yourself to stop in your tracks and focus on what's important to you; your life...

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Hi. I'm 45 years married 16 years with 2 kids . In short my wife has anger issues . She gets annoyed if anything happens against her wish. No one in family can talk to her. She dosen't want to listen anyone's advice or opinion. I work 7 days a week to financially support my family. Also help her in kitchen and household works, Buy groceries. She still complains and get angry. Her behavior becomes rude wherever my parents visit us. She hides all the food or not to buy. I aways tried to calm and relax her to keep our relationship happy. There are months passes without sex She still complain I'm doing nothing for family. I love her and my kids so keep on tolerating. I tried to talk to her but she never cared and told if i wush can leave her as I'm selfish. I need your advice and opinion to bring my meaningful
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Well, if only she could appreciate all your efforts towards the family and her. But you know what; what she could be missing is the emotional connection with you especially when you work 7 days a week...it leaves you very little time with the family or for her. This can cause a lack within your relationship. Is it possible for you take a day off so that you have time for yourself and your family? It maybe the same job or something else. I know that changes are hard to make BUT at the end of the day, relationships especially the core ones matter the most, don't they?
This change can definitely put things back together and give your wife the opportunity to be with you and appreciate you even more...

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