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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 06, 2025Hindi

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Hi All, I'm 28 M working in IT sector. My parents and relatives are asking me to get married. I've always been single and I like that way and the way marriage as an institution is failing for men in India. I do not wish to be married. I have already said this to my parents and everyone in family a lot of times that I do not wish to be married, yet they are not understanding my situation and telling me that everything will be fine. Please just let me know how can I handle this situation.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your concern, and if you do not wish to get married, you should not. People will continue to tell you that everything will be fine, and maybe it will be fine, but if you are not mentally prepared for marriage, you should never go ahead with it.

Try to express your concerns and let your family know that the thought of marriage does not make you happy. If they still insist, ask them how they would feel if the marriage doesn't work out and you not only end up alone but also have a divorced tag on you. I want you to understand that their insistence is coming from a place of love and concern but I would still suggest you not to get married till you are ready.

Best wishes.

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I am sam i am 20 yr old . When I was 17 my parents talked an alliance i said I don't want to get married but they talked about the groomed so much that I accepted to get married then after 1 month i lied to him that I love someone but so he stopped after 2 yrs they are coming back thinking that I am mature now they want me to get married my dad said he want me to get married to that groom and I am flip flopping . I still don't want to get married but no one seems to understand me or let me be single . I don't know what to do anymore

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