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27-Year-Old Woman Feeling Pressured to Get Married in Arranged Marriage

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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 18, 2024Hindi

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Hi I am a 27f. My parents are looking for arrange marriage alliances. I am not looking to get married right now. However, my parents feel pressured and because of that I’m feeling pressured. I kept on saying no to all the rishtas that have come by taking out one or the other problem in family or guy. But now this rishta has come where the family is nice and the guy is super nice too. I’m not able to find any reason to say no to this guy and he seems really interested in me yet I don’t want to get married, not at least this year I feel. I need this year for myself. Moreover I am in love with someone whom I know I won’t be able to get married too. I want this year with him. I feel I cannot betray my bf and be selfish and say yes to this man just because he feels fine to me to get married to. Next year I have decided to give in to my parents demands. Also the man I am dating is wonderful. It’s just we cannot get married because of our age gap. He is 10 years older to me and he never wants to get married. He knows what he wants. I am in such a dilemma what should I do? I feel trapped.

Ans: if you really are looking for suggestions here they are 1) shut all doors with the man who you are dating but you know you have no future with him. 2) get to know the man you have been introduced to and like him and tell him that you wish to know him for a year before you marry him. And let him know your plans on how you wish to know him through the year - all the best.

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Dear Love Guru, I'm 30 and my parents want me to get married. I have a boyfriend but I am not interested in getting married at the moment. Neither is he. I tried talking to my parents, but they are very adamant. Sometimes, my boyfriend and I feel we should pretend that we got married; the pressure is so much. What can I do? I want to travel, enjoy my life and then settle down. How do I handle this?

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You handle this by not caving in to pressure and living life on your own terms.

I wouldn't go about pretending, but I certainly would stand my ground if I were you.

What's the big deal if you get married at 32 or 33 instead of 30? It's just a number at the end of the day.

Rather than deception, choose determination. And your parents really need to cool it with the forcing business! It's your life and you should get a say in when you marry.

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