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Dating My Cross Cousin - Can I Convince My Parents?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 28, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 17, 2025Hindi
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Hello Mam/Sir I’m in relationship with my cross cousin and we both want to get married . How should I convince my parents as in Northern India it is prohibited but southern side it is accepted.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Consanguineous marriages (between people who are related by blood) can increase the chances of genetic disorders in their offspring. This could be the reason that your parents may not accept the marriage. It's a matter of understanding what your parents are saying and what makes them refuse the marriage. I suggest finding out from your parents what is going on in their mind.

All the best!
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Asked on - Feb 26, 2025 | Answered on Feb 26, 2025
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Ma’am there are so many conflict that my father’s sister passed away due to some serious health issue and she died very early and my father does not trust on him because he is kind of debauchery person , can sell her daughter too to whom I’m in love with since we’re together from 5years and can’t end up or give up I know there will be lots of consequences to face but I have a hope that may be my father accept it
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you have decided to anyway go ahead, then there is no discussion that is needed on it, right? Like I had suggested, do find out what your parents have to say...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - Jun 01, 2025 | Answered on Jun 02, 2025
Hello Mam Good afternoon My father today came to know about my relationship Cause of some chaos and lots of allegation is rising on her because of her father’s past conflicts my parents are thinking that she works in bar and all as her brother is twin of her so parents also stated that they trying to make relationship and abducted our money and properties , my sibling went Goa to enjoy and there he met both of them so her brother just kidded him to have drink and my sibling took it serious and today he told that thing to dad and dad was like how ridiculous but brother knows it was just a joke nothing else.. I know both of them twin , her brother is kind of funny and kidding kind of person And she is hardworking lady she works in PNG Jewellers of Panaji Branch along with her brother both have a clear intention to build their own house and live happy and they both are working too on it They both know about their father so they discussed about it and later they visited Goa from UP Than they started their job and soon afterward her father along stepmom shifted Goa as her father did the same past chaos So they are living in Goa I know my parents are just trying to end this but I can’t it’s been 5year long relationship with lots of ups down but healthy My mother and brother they both are of same mindset they bluffed into my dad’s ear and today in evening I have to do discussion with dad How should I start as I know this phase is really heavy and painful cause I’m 21 year old an aspirant and just met with this consequence My plan was to first achieve my job and than I’ll reveal but destiny have some other plans Please mam help me out… I’ll be very grateful to you please reply as soon as possible you can please
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I have been very clear on my suggestions to you in your initial question to me. Have an honest conversation with your parents and see what comes out of it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
Asked on - Jun 02, 2025 | Not Answered yet
I had shared my everything after all of that I have to end according to my family and she also don’t want her family get to know this issue and I’m unable to anything this pain this shiver though which I’m going is disaster Everything which I made in this 5 year of emotions love I lost it all

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I am my cousin sister are in serious relationship with each other for 7 years. My and her mother are cousins. We both want to marry with each other but we know our parents never agree for this at any cost. I am a government employee. We want to marry against our family how can we approach it? Plz tell.
Ans: Given your long relationship of seven years, your bond seems strong, which is a good foundation for moving forward. However, it’s also important to be realistic about the potential fallout from family disapproval. You may want to try having a calm, private discussion with your parents, explaining that this relationship has developed over time and is not a rash decision. Focus on expressing your genuine commitment to each other and the values that you share, rather than just defending the relationship itself. They may still oppose, but at least you've shown maturity in your approach.

If family opposition remains intense, and you both are determined to move forward, you might have to proceed independently and elope or register the marriage without their blessing. Understand that this could create a rift for some time, so you’ll need to rely heavily on each other for emotional support. Over time, many families soften when they see their children are happy and stable, but that’s not always guaranteed. It’s important to make sure you're both fully prepared for the consequences, both emotionally and socially.

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