Is my husband loyal to me ?

Ans: Dear Helen,
I don't know what your question is. But I can safely assume that his doubting you bothers you.
Two scenarios here to consider:
1. Has any repeated behavior of yours that he feels responsible for causing him to doubt you?
OR
2. Has he always felt insecure if any man/male friend talks to you?

In the first case, it may just help to sir=t with him and clarify this, so that you give a voice to his concern about you. It maybe that he is worried about society or your safety. Whatever it is, he's coming from a space of concern, so appreciate it and do what it takes to bring back harmony.

But if it's #2, you have married someone who is insecure and builds stories around this. He seriously needs to work on this, else he will suffocate you with his doubts and slowly it will lead to him stalking you on social media and making sure he knows your every move. Work through a close friend or family member of his who can be neutral and can show him a different side of the story. It may work; but make sure to nip it right away, else it can break down the foundation of your marriage which is built on trust and love. If this doesn't work, seek professional help to help him combat his fears and insecurities of losing you to another man.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Helen,
I have answered this question of yours yesterday.
You can find it by clicking on this link below:
https://gurus.rediff.com/question/question-details/5136075

Best wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
No, you are not overthinking this. One way to find out is to actually 'Call Out' his behavior without actually complaining to him. He needs to understand that you did not marry to look after his family.
Also, what made you leave your work life? Kindly get back to working and as you engage with people at work and outside, he will realize that you are not just someone who is a going to take on his responsibilities at home. It's time you balanced home and work now. Now, whether he has an affair or not is something that is left to evidence of the matter. Till then, it will only be guess work. But, you do need to re-establish your identity as a working woman who also cares for her home. Possibly, this change in you, will bring him back on track as he will no longer have the comfort of 'dumping' the house work onto you AND going about hsi own business. Try this and see what happens.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Your concerns are valid, and it’s important to address them rather than dismiss them as overthinking. While some men do get comfortable and less expressive after marriage, a sudden shift in behavior—like avoiding calls, staying late at work frequently, and increased travel—should not be ignored. It’s not about being paranoid but about seeking clarity.

The best way to find out what’s going on is to have an honest, calm conversation with him. Express your feelings without accusations. Let him know you’ve noticed the change and that you miss the closeness you once shared. Observe his response—whether he reassures you, avoids the conversation, or gets defensive. His reaction will give you insight into whether there’s something deeper happening.

At the same time, take a step back and focus on yourself. Reconnect with your own aspirations, hobbies, and friends. A strong sense of self will not only help you cope emotionally but also give you the confidence to make informed decisions about your relationship.

If you suspect infidelity, look for patterns rather than relying solely on your fears. Changes in phone habits, secrecy about his whereabouts, and emotional detachment can be red flags, but they don’t always mean an affair. If you feel you need more clarity, trust your intuition but avoid jumping to conclusions without evidence.

Regardless of the outcome, you deserve a relationship where you feel valued and heard. If his behavior continues to make you feel lonely and unimportant, you may need to consider what you truly want from this marriage. Seeking support from a counselor or someone you trust can help you navigate your emotions and options more clearly.