Anu Krishna |1494 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 27, 2021
I am working and we have a 5 year old son.
He is a very good guy but his parents and relatives who are staying with us are making things difficult for us now.
Like you suggested I tried talking to my husband but I feel he is being biased and taken for granted.
I tried to adjust and ignore some things but there is a lot of politics going on every day which is affecting both of us. From money issues to privacy and kitchen fights, we are dealing with a lot of things that I am not able to talk and solve.
This is affecting my career and my son’s studies too.
Every time I start a discussion it leads to a big fight in front of everyone. Ultimately I am cornered and blamed.
The patent response is: everyone adjusts. I’m not able to handle it well and no support from anyone. Also I don’t have anyone to talk to whom I can trust. Please help.
Too much mixing of thoughts and opinions that at times you feel that your thoughts are never valued.
Either, you ease into this and know that this will be your world; which means you start to ‘try’ to become happy which can be stressful.
If this is impossible and you want to change it, then STEP UP for yourself and for your son.
No arguments, no fights, but firmly asserting what you want.
Be kind always no matter what because your husband is just in the midst of his family and the family system that he has been raised with, your protests don’t matter much.
Making your point known doesn't need fights, but reiterating what you want and that your thoughts must be respected.
It’s possible that over a few weeks, this new calm behavior of yours might bring some change in your husband and he may start hearing and listening to what you have to say.
If that doesn’t work, yes you may have to take the help of a professional who will put you two together in a place and become a good third person who will facilitate the communication.
Whatever it is, be kind and calm and I am sure you are…it helps in ‘breaking down’ the stubbornness in other people and they maybe willing to calm down as well.
Be at peace.
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