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I'm 23old now I was in a 2yr relationship,she was from caste and we know each other since school time once we started our relationship it went well we were committed to each other but when shifted to her native place things got rough she started ignoring me and given reason of college. once her uncle found out about our relationship and told her father about us her father warned her not to talk with anyone then she refused to continue our relationship citing of not having future together now it's been three years now she moved on and I still don't what was her actual reason why she left me ....after one year of break up she contacted me and I assured her of getting government job and talk to her parents but she said she didn't have much time her father liked his friend son but she hasn't talk to him I don't know what to do I can't stop thinking about her everyday should I try again... please help me

Ans: Dear Saurav,

I understand the appeal of trying once again, starting over. The relationship you shared with her was comfortable and familiar. We are all drawn to comfort and familiarity. But, are you sure she is still the person you fell in love with? It's been some time since you two have been together. People grow, and change. If you do want to give it another try, I suggest meeting up in person or spending enough time together to understand if you two are still compatible. Next, she has left you once for her family; while we understand the pressure, the reality is still the reality- she chose her family over you. You should discuss the matter before getting into the relationship once more. Even if you successfully start over, it would be naive to expect things to be just as they were before- some things will be better and some different. Go ahead only after you acknowledge all of these.

Best Wishes.

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I started a relationship with a girl. First we thought it just a relationship no marriage. But as days going we fell deep into each other that we cant live without each other. I found one thing that she loving more than needed. Im so scared of her, what will she do if i run out of her life for my marriage. This thought killed me. So I decided to leave her without telling a reason. I left her with a small issue. I really dont want to loose but i had to. I just said good bye, she also said good bye. Later i never texted her. She too never texted me. But after 2 months i felt guilty of leaving so i came back to her. Previously her parents decided to marry her to their son in law. I know this when were in relationship. So after our breakup i came back to her. But she said no to me because she is committed with her brother in law. I cant take this. Its killing me. After i said good bye she never tried to contact me for patch-up. Even no texts. Her brother in law told her that im ready to marry you. So she too said i too like you and im also ready to marry you. But their marriage will happen in 2026. I told her that untill marriage please be with me and this is our deal when we started our relationship. But she said no. I begged her many times but she always said no to me. And still now i cant believe that she said no to me. All this happened 3 months ago but still i cant forget her. Recently she deleted my number also. Everything making me feel low. What should i do now?
Ans: Dear Srikanth,

To me, it sounds like you broke up with her. No, you ghosted her. How you put her on trial isn't clear to me, given the fact that you stopped contacting her after a mere goodbye and no proper explanation. Why did she not try to contact you? Maybe she has enough self-respect to restrain herself from doing so; I cannot speak for her but judging the events, you were the one who broke up and you need to own up to it.

Moving on to her deciding to get married- I am assuming she told you she's happy to marry her intended; if so, please accept the reality and move on. Next, why is she not agreeing to be in a relationship with you till the time she gets married? To expect otherwise from any sane, self-respecting person is delusional.

You knew that the two of you could not end up together and took a decision; immature as it was, your intentions were good. Similarly, your ex chose to move on. I don't see either of you making any considerable mistakes here. Both were right in their ways, except for the "you leaving her without a word" part. It is time you move on, and let her live her life in peace. You might feel low for a while, but nothing feels worse than hurting the people you once loved, and compelling your ex to commit to you when she doesn't want to is the same as hurting her. Make the right choices.

Best Wishes!

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Sir I have been in a relationship of 2 yr now it's been a three yr she's gone now,she said our caste is not same so we don't have future together when his father found out about our relationship,we already known our caste already when we started our relationship now I wonder why did she said that.later,she said I moved on I don't want to be with you and don't contact me ever.. it's been 3 years now can't stop my self from thinking her everyday there is lots of thoughts coms into my mind what could be reason that she left me I'm dying thinking of her but don't care what I suffered from this.. sometimes I think ,is she found someone we living in a different cities know I think I should get hai government job which I promised to her and then go to meet her and talk about our marriage...is it right to do now.. please help me I ..... what could I do now
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Breakups are rough. I understand how painful it is, and all your feelings are valid. But hoping that a government job can sort everything out, is that the right thing to think? She did not break up with you for your job, she did so because of your caste. And wondering why she said all the harsh things will get you nowhere; it will not give you any closure. She could have meant it all or might have said it just to make sure you don't come back again. Whatever the reason, you should respect her wishes and find a way to move forward. I know it hurts to think that she has found someone else, but if you allow yourself to move on, soon you will find someone too- someone who loves you for who you are and someone who loves you completely. I can't force you to move on; the decision is yours. But don't rush- take a little time to think your plan through. If you get a government job, it's great; not because you will get her back but because you will have achieved something substantial. I strongly suggest focusing on yourself, because no one else will.

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Hello sir, My income is 20. I took 3lakh gold loan Roi 13% PA flat interest. My monthly expenditure is 15k. I have done 5k sip and now 1.6lk accumulated. Should I continue sip or should I redeemed sip and prepay gold loan.
Ans: You are already showing a strong habit of investing despite having a loan.
You have built Rs. 1.6 lakh corpus through SIP.
This shows commitment to long-term financial health.

» Understanding your current position
– Monthly income is Rs. 20,000.
– Monthly expense is Rs. 15,000.
– SIP of Rs. 5,000 has accumulated Rs. 1.6 lakh.
– Gold loan is Rs. 3 lakh at 13% flat interest.
– Flat rate means effective cost is much higher than it appears.

» Assessing the gold loan impact
– Gold loan interest is high and constant each year.
– Flat rate makes repayment costlier than reducing balance loans.
– The longer you keep it, the more interest you pay.
– Prepayment will save significant interest outflow.

» Comparing SIP returns and loan cost
– Equity SIPs can give higher returns long term.
– But short-term returns are not guaranteed.
– Loan cost is fixed and much higher than current SIP gains.
– Paying off high-cost debt is safer than chasing returns now.

» Why prepayment makes sense here
– Prepaying gold loan will give risk-free saving equal to loan interest rate.
– It frees monthly cash flow used for EMI.
– This extra cash can restart SIP after loan closure.
– It reduces financial pressure and mental stress.

» Emergency fund consideration
– Current cash is not mentioned beyond SIP corpus.
– Ensure you keep at least 3 months’ expenses in safe liquid form.
– This avoids taking fresh loans in emergencies.
– Use part of SIP redemption only after securing this fund.

» Redeeming SIP for loan closure
– Redeem the accumulated Rs. 1.6 lakh from SIP.
– Use it to part-prepay gold loan immediately.
– Continue paying regular EMI for reduced loan balance.
– This will cut interest outgo and shorten loan term.

» Restarting investments after loan closure
– Once gold loan is cleared, restart SIP without delay.
– Increase SIP amount by what was earlier paid as EMI.
– This will recover the lost investment period faster.
– Equity SIP works best over long term with uninterrupted contributions.

» Avoiding high-cost loans in future
– Gold loan flat rate is costly compared to many other credit options.
– Always compare reducing balance rate before taking loans.
– Build an emergency fund to avoid such borrowings again.
– Plan large expenses in advance to fund them through savings.

» Maintaining insurance protection
– Even small income earners need life and health cover.
– A basic term plan protects dependents from future liabilities.
– Health insurance avoids medical emergencies draining your corpus.
– Premiums are small compared to the risk of not having cover.

» Building wealth after debt clearance
– With loan gone, invest more towards future goals.
– Divide investments between equity for growth and debt for stability.
– Use actively managed funds over index funds.
– Index funds blindly follow market, including bad-performing stocks.
– Actively managed funds have research-driven selection and timely exits.
– This improves risk-adjusted returns when guided by a Certified Financial Planner.

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– Direct funds may look cheaper but lack ongoing guidance.
– Wrong asset allocation can harm returns more than expense ratio savings.
– Many investors exit at wrong time due to market fear.
– Regular plans with a CFP ensure timely rebalancing and monitoring.

» Psychological benefit of being debt-free
– No loan means more peace of mind.
– Cash flow feels lighter and more controllable.
– Investments can grow without debt cost eating into returns.
– You feel more confident in taking bigger financial decisions.

» Finally
– Your priority now should be clearing the gold loan.
– Redeem SIP corpus after keeping small emergency fund aside.
– Prepay as much as possible to reduce high-interest cost.
– Resume and increase SIP after debt clearance.
– Build insurance and emergency corpus to avoid future costly borrowings.
– Use actively managed funds with CFP guidance for long-term growth.
– This will give both financial safety and wealth creation over time.

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age 39mand 38f with 2 kids (5yr and 1yr) , combined income 2.5 lac per month post tax( in IT) , Home loan with 18 lac balance with 55k emi balanced tenure 3 year , 40k sip with current value 4.2 lac, term ins 2cr, 6k ppf and 11k nps combined, 1 lac cash. no other corpus createx, getting worries about savings and kid's edu and fin future. pls advise with fin planning.
Ans: You are already doing well by having a high savings habit.
You have a home loan that will end soon.
You have term insurance for protection.
These are strong pillars to build further.

» Understanding your current position
– You earn Rs. 2.5 lakh per month after tax.
– You have a home loan of Rs. 18 lakh with Rs. 55k EMI.
– Tenure left is only 3 years, so closure is near.
– You invest Rs. 40k SIP monthly with value Rs. 4.2 lakh.
– You contribute Rs. 6k to PPF and Rs. 11k to NPS monthly.
– Cash available is Rs. 1 lakh.
– You have two kids aged 5 years and 1 year.

» Home loan strategy
– Your loan interest is a guaranteed outgoing.
– Since tenure is short, continue EMI as planned.
– Avoid prepaying aggressively unless interest rate is very high.
– Use extra surplus for other goals instead.
– Once EMI stops, channel Rs. 55k to investments.

» Building emergency fund
– Current cash reserve is Rs. 1 lakh only.
– You need at least 6 months’ expenses as emergency fund.
– This may be around Rs. 10-12 lakh for your family.
– Build this in liquid and safe options.
– Do not use risky assets for emergency fund.

» Securing children’s education
– Education costs rise faster than inflation.
– Start separate goal-based investments for each child.
– Match investment duration with age and goal timeline.
– For long-term goals like higher education, allocate higher equity share.
– Review plan every year to ensure target corpus is achievable.

» Retirement planning priority
– You have NPS, but it may not be enough alone.
– Create a separate retirement corpus with diversified investments.
– This avoids over-dependence on mandatory schemes.
– Invest with growth focus for the next 20 years.

» Insurance cover review
– Current term cover is Rs. 2 crore.
– With your income, you may need 10-12 times annual income.
– Consider increasing cover after home loan closure.
– Ensure both spouses have adequate cover.
– Maintain separate health insurance apart from employer plan.

» Optimising your investments
– Continue SIPs but ensure they are goal-linked.
– Avoid investing without linking to a future need.
– Prefer actively managed funds over index funds.
– Index funds cannot avoid poor performing companies in the index.
– Actively managed funds use research and can limit downside risk.
– Work with a Certified Financial Planner to select and review funds.

» Avoiding direct fund pitfalls
– Direct funds have lower cost but no expert guidance.
– Without professional review, wrong asset mix is common.
– Many investors exit at wrong time due to emotions.
– Regular plans through a CFP offer ongoing monitoring and rebalancing.
– This ensures better long-term results despite slightly higher cost.

» Balancing debt repayment and investing
– You already invest 40k despite home loan.
– This is good discipline.
– Once EMI ends, invest most of that amount instead of lifestyle upgrades.
– This will double your investment rate quickly.
– Debt-free and high investment ratio will accelerate wealth creation.

» Tax planning efficiency
– Use Section 80C fully with PPF, NPS, and other eligible options.
– Avoid locking excess money only for tax saving without liquidity.
– Plan mutual fund redemptions to minimise tax under new capital gains rules.
– Use both debt and equity funds for tax efficiency and risk balance.

» Protecting lifestyle stability
– Maintain clear monthly budget to track surplus.
– Keep expenses controlled even after income increases.
– Avoid large discretionary spending until key goals are funded.
– Teach children about money habits early for future stability.

» Monitoring and reviewing
– Review your goals and progress every 6 months.
– Adjust SIPs if income or expenses change significantly.
– Track each goal separately instead of mixing all investments.
– Stay invested during market volatility to achieve long-term returns.

» Psychological benefits of a clear plan
– Having a defined path reduces financial anxiety.
– Goal-linked investing brings motivation to stay disciplined.
– Each milestone achieved boosts confidence for the next.
– You gain more control over your family’s financial future.

» Steps for the next 3 years
– Maintain current loan EMI and SIPs.
– Build emergency fund to at least 6 months of expenses.
– Start children’s education goal investment with equity bias.
– Increase insurance coverage where needed.
– Avoid taking new long-term debt.

» Steps after home loan closure
– Redirect Rs. 55k EMI to retirement and education funds.
– Increase SIP amounts and diversify across assets.
– Keep lifestyle inflation minimal so savings rate stays high.
– Review asset allocation to ensure right mix for each goal.

» Finally
– You are already on a good savings track.
– The home loan will end soon, giving large surplus.
– Focus on building emergency fund and kids’ education corpus now.
– Increase term and health cover to protect family.
– Invest through actively managed funds with CFP guidance for all goals.
– Maintain strict goal tracking and review schedule.
– This approach will secure your retirement, children’s education, and overall financial stability.

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Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 10, 2025Hindi
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Hello. I am 30 years old and currently employed in a Public Sector Undertaking, earning a net monthly salary of approximately 75,000 rupees. I would like advice on reducing my monthly loan repayment burden. My current liabilities are: Personal loan with an outstanding balance of 380,000 rupees, monthly EMI of 7,191 rupees, interest rate of 12.5%, with 73 months remaining. Overdraft against my Provident Fund of 540,000 rupees, interest rate of 5.95%. Long-term personal loan with an outstanding balance of 480,000 rupees, monthly EMI of 6,600 rupees, interest rate of 7%. Consumer loan with an outstanding balance of 55,000 rupees, interest rate of 5.95%, monthly EMI of 1,800 rupees. My monthly expenses are approximately 20,000 rupees for household needs, 8,500 rupees for house rent, and 5,000 rupees for miscellaneous expenses.
Ans: You are already showing discipline by tracking your loans and expenses clearly.
You are also managing multiple liabilities without default.
This shows strong commitment towards financial stability.

» Understanding your income and liabilities
– Your net monthly salary is Rs. 75000.
– You have four active loans.
– Personal loan EMI is Rs. 7191 at 12.5% interest.
– Overdraft against PF is Rs. 540000 at 5.95% interest.
– Long-term personal loan EMI is Rs. 6600 at 7% interest.
– Consumer loan EMI is Rs. 1800 at 5.95% interest.
– Household needs take Rs. 20000 monthly.
– House rent is Rs. 8500.
– Miscellaneous costs are Rs. 5000.

» Assessing EMI burden
– EMI total is over Rs. 15000 monthly.
– EMI share of income is around 20%.
– This is manageable but can be improved.
– High-interest personal loan is the biggest cost burden.
– Overdraft and consumer loan have low interest but still add pressure.

» Strategy for reducing interest cost
– Focus first on highest interest loan.
– Prepay personal loan at 12.5% whenever surplus is available.
– Even small prepayments reduce interest over time.
– Avoid using fresh personal loans for any purpose.
– Do not prepay low-interest loans before closing high-interest ones.

» Role of overdraft against PF
– Overdraft rate is much lower than personal loan.
– If possible, increase PF overdraft slightly to close part of high-interest personal loan.
– This is beneficial only if repayment discipline is maintained.
– Once personal loan is closed, focus on reducing overdraft gradually.

» Handling the long-term personal loan
– This loan is at 7% interest, which is not high.
– Do not rush to close it before clearing costlier loans.
– Maintain regular EMI without delay.
– Prepay later only after high-interest loans are cleared.

» Clearing the consumer loan
– Consumer loan is small and low interest.
– Closing it early will free Rs. 1800 monthly.
– This extra can go to personal loan prepayment.
– This creates psychological relief as well.

» Balancing loan closure and savings
– Avoid using all savings for loan closure.
– Keep at least 3 to 4 months expenses as emergency fund.
– This ensures no fresh loans during sudden needs.
– Allocate surplus after this for aggressive loan prepayment.

» Creating a surplus for prepayment
– Your expenses are Rs. 33500 including rent and misc.
– After EMI and expenses, some surplus remains.
– Track this surplus and direct it towards high-interest loan closure.
– Avoid lifestyle spending until loans are reduced.

» Managing monthly cash flow
– Maintain a clear monthly budget sheet.
– Categorise expenses into essential and optional.
– Reduce optional spends for 12 to 18 months.
– Use savings from reduced spends for prepayments.

» Avoiding future debt build-up
– Do not take new consumer loans for non-essential purchases.
– Avoid buying on EMI unless unavoidable.
– Plan purchases with savings instead of credit.
– This prevents repeating current loan situation.

» Protecting yourself with insurance
– Ensure you have adequate term insurance cover.
– Cover should be at least 10 times your annual income.
– Have a good health insurance plan beyond employer cover.
– This avoids using loans for medical emergencies.

» Using investments wisely for debt management
– If you hold low-return deposits, consider using them to close high-interest loans.
– Avoid touching PF principal as it is for retirement.
– Only interest or overdraft from PF can be considered strategically.
– Do not break long-term high-growth investments unless debt cost is much higher.

» Long-term debt-free goal
– Set a clear target to be debt-free in 3 to 5 years.
– Focus on one loan at a time for faster results.
– Celebrate each closure to maintain motivation.
– After becoming debt-free, redirect EMI amount to investments.

» Maintaining credit score during repayments
– Always pay EMIs on time, even during prepayment phase.
– Do not miss payments to avoid credit score drop.
– High score will help if you ever need future low-cost loans.

» Psychological impact of loan reduction
– Reducing EMI burden improves peace of mind.
– Surplus cash gives flexibility for emergencies.
– You can focus on wealth creation sooner.
– Debt freedom increases confidence in financial decisions.

» Building financial discipline for future
– Follow strict budgeting until all high-cost loans are cleared.
– Save first, spend later every month.
– Keep track of all loan balances to monitor progress.
– Avoid emotional purchases that harm cash flow.

» Finally
– You are already handling your loans responsibly.
– Start by closing consumer loan and then high-interest personal loan.
– Use PF overdraft wisely only to replace higher interest debt.
– Maintain emergency fund before aggressive prepayments.
– Keep long-term personal loan for later closure as cost is low.
– After becoming debt-free, invest EMI savings into growth assets.
– This approach will steadily reduce your EMI burden while protecting financial stability.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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My monthly salary is 88000 thousand, personal loan EMI is 31500,I invest 24000 monthly,household expenses is 10000,child education almost 5000,rent 4500,left with only 10000 in hand,How can I manage,plz suggest
Ans: You are already doing something very positive.
You have fixed investments every month.
You have kept expenses under control.
This is a very good starting point.

» Understanding your cash flow
– Your salary is Rs. 88000 per month.
– Loan EMI is Rs. 31500.
– Monthly investments are Rs. 24000.
– Household expenses are Rs. 10000.
– Child education is Rs. 5000.
– Rent is Rs. 4500.
– This leaves you with Rs. 10000 in hand.

» Assessing your current challenges
– Loan EMI is taking a high share of income.
– Investments are also high compared to surplus cash.
– Your fixed expenses are reasonable.
– Surplus of Rs. 10000 is too low for emergencies.
– This creates risk if unexpected costs arise.

» Reviewing your loan repayment
– EMI is almost 36% of income.
– Ideal EMI share is under 30% of income.
– Try to prepay small parts when you get bonuses.
– Even small prepayments reduce loan term.
– Avoid taking any more personal loans.
– Avoid refinancing unless rate reduction is good.

» Emergency fund importance
– Surplus cash each month is low.
– Keep at least 6 months of expenses as emergency fund.
– This means around Rs. 1.5 lakh minimum.
– Keep this in a liquid option with quick access.
– Build this before increasing other investments.

» Balancing investments and cash flow
– You are investing Rs. 24000 every month.
– This is almost 27% of income.
– Investments are good but liquidity is low.
– For next few months, reduce monthly investment slightly.
– Use freed amount to build emergency fund.
– Once fund is ready, resume higher investments.

» Prioritising child education planning
– Education cost rises faster than inflation.
– You are spending Rs. 5000 now.
– For higher education, plan separately.
– Use a goal-based investment approach.
– Allocate to a mix of diversified equity and debt.
– Review progress every year.

» Optimising household expenses
– Your household expenses are already low.
– Still, review bills every quarter.
– Negotiate for better rates on utilities if possible.
– Avoid lifestyle inflation until loan is reduced.
– Avoid large purchases on EMI or credit card.

» Insurance protection review
– Check if you have enough life cover.
– Cover should be at least 10-12 times annual income.
– Take pure term insurance for low cost.
– Review health insurance coverage for whole family.
– Adequate insurance prevents breaking investments for emergencies.

» Investment strategy refinement
– Continue disciplined investing but with balance.
– Focus on goal-based planning, not random amounts.
– Prefer actively managed funds over index funds.
– Actively managed funds can beat inflation and offer better downside protection.
– They have experienced fund managers making decisions, unlike index funds which follow the market blindly.
– Index funds cannot avoid poor-performing stocks in the index.
– In volatile markets, this can hurt returns.
– With a Certified Financial Planner, you can choose the right active funds for each goal.

» Avoiding direct fund pitfalls
– Direct funds give lower expense ratio but no guidance.
– Many investors choose wrong funds and wrong exit timing.
– Wrong asset mix can harm long-term returns.
– A regular plan through a Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP guidance gives proper monitoring.
– This helps in rebalancing and course correction.
– Professional tracking prevents emotional investment decisions.

» Tax planning alignment
– Review investments for tax efficiency.
– Use eligible options under Section 80C only after basic goals are funded.
– Avoid locking too much in long-term tax products without liquidity.
– Keep capital gains tax rules in mind for mutual funds.
– Plan redemption in a way to reduce tax impact.

» Building surplus gradually
– Current surplus is Rs. 10000 per month.
– After reducing investment slightly, you can raise surplus to Rs. 15000-18000.
– This will help in building emergency fund faster.
– Once fund is ready, channel extra into goal investments.
– Surplus also gives peace of mind during unexpected expenses.

» Psychological advantage of balance
– Too high investments with low liquidity cause stress.
– Balanced approach builds both future wealth and present safety.
– You can handle emergencies without breaking long-term plans.
– This improves your confidence in financial planning.

» Monitoring progress
– Review your financial plan every six months.
– Check if EMI share is going down.
– Check if emergency fund is growing.
– Track if investments are aligned to goals.
– Make small adjustments instead of large changes.

» Planning for loan closure
– Once loan is closed, you will free Rs. 31500 monthly.
– Allocate half to investments for faster wealth building.
– Keep the other half to increase lifestyle and savings.
– This will give a big positive boost to cash flow.

» Avoiding common mistakes
– Do not stop investments completely for long periods.
– Do not take new loans for discretionary spending.
– Avoid investing in unregulated products.
– Avoid mixing insurance and investment in same product.

» Building long-term wealth
– Wealth comes from discipline over decades.
– A steady plan with flexibility works best.
– Your current savings habit is strong.
– Add liquidity and goal clarity for full effectiveness.

» Finally
– You have a strong start with high savings habit.
– Adjust investment amount temporarily to build emergency fund.
– Focus on reducing loan burden over time.
– Keep child education and retirement as separate, clear goals.
– Use actively managed funds with CFP guidance for long-term growth.
– Review and adjust every six months to stay on track.
– This approach will improve cash flow now and wealth later.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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