Anu Krishna |1293 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 06, 2021
I was in love from 6years our love life was very good . We were very happy and promised to get married also but suddenly my boyfriend said we can’t marry because of his family issues so I accepted that with a big heart. He asked me to marry another guy I accepted that also. And after some days my marriage got fixed with another guy and I got married also.
But soon after my marriage my boyfriend realised my love and started crying.
He started calling me and soon after 2 days of my marriage he was continuously calling me and this created a very big problem.
My husband saw his calls and msgs and started chatting with my boyfriend pretending to be me only. They both talked and my boyfriend told my husband everything about our past things.
My husband got angry he started beating me getting angry on me started following me and due to all this he left me.
After my husband left me I called my boyfriend and said: Now my husband left me so what to do. You are also not accepting me.
My boyfriend said: I don't have anything to do with you I don't need you at all and plz go away from my life. Now I don’t know what to do. Can you plz help me or guide me.
One man (husband) judges your situation and as hard as it is for any person, it would have been great if he didn’t play peeping Tom and instead confronted you to work things out with you. And the other man (boyfriend) dumps you in sheer fright and runs for his life.
Do you seriously want to beg either of them for a place in their lives?
They have both displayed total lack of maturity! But in their defense, they have felt cheated and not known how to deal with the situation. BUT nothing justifies physical abuse…
I do work with couples to bring them together where it seems possible. Reconciliation with your husband is possible both of you choose that path. Involve a senior member from both sides of the family and bring it to a neutral place; shedding egos along the way.
Work with a Marriage Therapy expert who can then help you re-evaluate your priorities and put things in perspective.
Work as a team (if both of you want that) and rebuild the marriage. It might seem like a lot of work, but it’s possible…So, move in that direction if you see that glimmer of hope as well.
Best wishes.
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