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The heart can be strong and weak at the same time! Depends on what you have been feeding it through the mind.
When you have understood the difficulties of inter-religion marriages, you still choose to focus on it and pain yourself more.
Do inter-religion marriages work? Yes, they do but it does take a lot of work and keen understanding. And he has already succumbed under family pressure and moved on…So, move on…How?
Focus on things that appealed to you before he stepped into your life.
What interested you back then?
What were these dreams that took a backseat once you started a relationship with this person?
What were the promises that you has made to yourself before this commitment?
Revive them all…Live each one of them in a larger-than-life manner and most importantly, tell yourself: I am my best friend and I know what’s best for me! You are heart is with you; safe and sound!
All the best!
Imagine that all that you have shared with me is something that your friend is sharing with you.
What will you tell her? To forgive this person for their hurtful behaviour or to take charge of her life and do what’s right for her?
Have you thought of how much this must be messing with your mind and to not want to meet your parents with no real reason; is he even serious about the relationship?
And further complicate it by being with other women (I assume that this is something that you have evidence of) is disrespectful towards you and the relationship.
Doesn’t this prompt you to make a decision that brings back your peace of mind and allows you to be free to live life with more dignity and joy?
Be right by you and love yourself!
These are your words that stood out for me.
‘I miss myself being in love and happy.
'I miss my own very smile.'
So, who is stopping you from these? Be in love, be happy, smile when you want.
You have tied these things to your marriage and have hoped that putting things together will bring a smile back on your face. As much as it’s true, it won’t be long lasting.
Now let’s focus on your marriage. What is this ‘being sent here, sent back there’?
What are you, some parcel/courier package to be sent here and there at will?
The first time that you felt that this being sent here and there was NOT OKAY, that would have been the time to voice it out.
Situations of a husband and wife being physically apart can come in anytime during a marriage. But this has to be handled with a lot of love and communication and not keeping silent and controlling it his way.
What has caused your hurt is the fact of non-communication from him, inability to validate your feelings, making you feel guilty for expressing your feelings and his unwillingness to work on this?
Request a person known to both of you to mediate to set up a meeting if both of you want to be in this marriage and live in peace and harmony. If you don’t step up now, things will be emotionally draining.
Also, as a woman, you don’t have to feel guilty for saying that something is not alright and that you want things to be different. You do not have to mask it with a statement that ‘he is a good man’ etc.
Be honest to yourself about what you feel and what you want. It helps putting things into perspective faster. STEP UP NOW and SPEAK.
Do that favour onto yourself please and also expect things to go the other way especially if he does not want to mutually set things right.
No matter what, know that strength from within is what will help you sort things for the better.
Be strong and value yourself. All the best!