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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 29, 2021

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
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Question by VG on Oct 29, 2021Hindi

Relationship

Dear Anu, I have a ten year old daughter studying in 5th std in a reputed school of Delhi.

I think the Covid lockdown has had a negative impact on her behaviour.

She has become notoriously obstinate and her behaviour has become a real concern for us.

She has become a compulsive liar and lies mostly for no reason at all. Also she quarrels and fights with other children in the colony.

Please help us to get her back to what she was before lockdown.

Ans: Dear VG, the online structure has messed up the minds of many children and adolescents.

I don’t have much information from you and have to assume that nothing significant has happened after which her behaviour has changed.

Lying and hiding is common when children are scared of doing something that they have been warned against and it could be something that excites her and gives her immense pleasure.

Quarrels and fights is common assuming that your daughter must be around 10 or 11 which is when their struggles for creating their identity causes much ruffles in their minds.

It could also be because of increased usage of the internet as there is enough there to mess with the minds of kids; violence, bullying…the list is endless…

Also, I have been noticing that with the lockdown, kids have forgotten what socialising means and it has become convenient to live at home with free WiFi and food. Convenient pleasure…

Try and be out of home with her every day, good amount of physical activity is a great one too, dancing and pottery are good things for her to indulge in.

It will be a struggle initially; but persist and if necessary one of the parents can become her hobby buddy to help her transition into the ‘normal’ way of life.

Whatever you do, be really patient.

Happy transitioning!

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