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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 13, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu..I m living in New Delhi for last 4 years with my husband and 9 years old son.We both basically belong to Tier 2 city.We both r working hence my child is going to creche which he hates now.My husband and i were thinking of returning to our hometown so that expenses will be reduced and kid will find his cousins and relatives. But we are afraid that he might not get exposure which he could get in Delhi in educationand sports. So we are in delima..what will.be best for him?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It depends on which Tier 2 city you are planning to relocate to...
Yes, it's a fact that some Tier 2 city schools may lack the infrastructure to support extra curricular activities or what a larger school in a Tier 1 city can offer. Also, since your son has been in New Delhi for the past few years which are the most impressionable years, please expect adjustment problems in terms of social adjustment within school and friends...

Do prepare him adequately for the major change and who knows he might also like it as much as you and your husband do...But plan and prepare him for this change...Take his opinion into consideration before taking the decision to make that shift...maybe you can use the summer holidays for your son to have a feel of what a Tier 2 city is like and what it means to live there long-term. This should also help you and your husband to take that final call on this...

All the best!

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Good morning Anu jiHope you are doing well. I am a working mother with two kids. My son is 18 years old and my daughter is 11.My office offered me to relocate to Malaysia and I opted for it.I moved with my daughter to Malaysia. My husband and son are in India. This is mutually accepted by family. The reason I chose this option was because the working environment in India office was very stressful with lots of corporate policies. My daughter has a creative mindset. She had to struggle in studies due to Indian education system. My son was in class 12 so I thought he will go to hostel for further studies. But after moving to Malaysia things got changed. My daughter goes to an international school but the standard of education is very low though fees is very high as compared to India. My son got admission in Delhi, which is good. Now, I'm confused if I should come back to India or stay in Malaysia with my daughter. My husband is very co-operative and his office is very supportive that he can work from Malaysia. Being a mother and a wife I am not able to manage this separation. But my husband wants me to grow in my career. I know in future I will have to pay a lot for my daughter's study. For the same amount she can go to a good boarding school. My son also needs my help but I want him to understand that life is not very easy, it is not for enjoyment. I didn’t want to spoil him so I decided that he will live in PG and become independent.I don't know if I am doing the right thing for my children. If I move back to India my husband will not be happy because according to him, I'm getting too emotional.I don't know what to do -- meet husband’s expectations or take the right step which is good for my family?Pls help.
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Dear NN,

Too much of confusion, mostly self-inflicted, if I may add.

You know why I say that, because there is not a mention in your letter/ email on: What is it that you want?

You have conveniently skirted it (the mind can trick you easily) and you are citing excuses to do what others want. What do you want?

Let’s out things into perspective:

1. You shifted for work and now you feel that your daughter’s education is getting impacted

2. You feel like coming back for her education, but you feel that your husband won’t be happy about it.

3. You know that your son might need you now, but then husband thinks you are emotional

It’s time the four of you as a family sat down and spoke rather than thinking and feeling.

Your children are practically adults and are capable of having a sane and conscious conversation that involves the family and their lives as well.

So there’s no more two way conversation between you parents causing more confusion.

Most families go round in circles without realising that who they are discussing about and making decisions on are not even involved in it actively.

In your case, it’s your children…involve them and let them express what they feel is right for them and what they want.

This can help clarify a lot in your mind and your husband also might be aligned to what comes through that 4-way conversation.

It will also bring all of you a while lot closer than before.

All the best!

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I have gone my job switch from Noida to Mumbai is banking industry. My wife works in IT firm Gurgaon require to go to office quarterly for 3 days. We have shifted to Mumbai and living in Kandivali east Lokhandwala township. I have daughter 2.5 yrs old we used to send her to playgroup in Noida which have live cctv camera access for parents. In mumbai, it is raining these days and playgroups don't have cctv access to parents. Also accomodation rent is high. Wife wanted to go to Noida and stay there with kid. They will hire maid also full time. My travelling time is also very high 2.30 hrs one side from office to home end to end. Struggling to adjust in mumbai. Because of small houses, playgroup quality, cultural issue , everything. We want advise whether we stay together in mumbai and how things are going or send family to Noida and i am shifting near by office in Lower Parel.
Ans: From a relationship perspective, it's crucial to balance the emotional and practical aspects of your decision. Staying together in Mumbai strengthens your bond and allows you to support each other daily. However, the high living costs, small spaces, and lack of quality playgroups with CCTV access can add stress, compounded by your long commute.

If your wife and daughter move to Noida, they would have a more comfortable environment and better childcare options. However, this means you'll miss daily interactions and could feel emotionally distant over time.

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Ultimately, prioritize what provides the most stability and happiness for your family. Open communication with your wife about your concerns and potential solutions is key. Whether you stay in Mumbai or consider temporary separation, ensure regular visits and communication to maintain your bond and stay involved in your daughter's upbringing.

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I moved to Dubai in 2012 with my family. My son is in class 9. My wife wants us to return to India so he can continue his studies in India. Do you think this is a good choice? My son is good at science and math. How can I prepare him for his student life in India?
Ans: Hi there,

Returning to India for your son's education can be a good choice, especially considering his aptitude in science and math. India has a robust education system with numerous opportunities for students excelling in these subjects. Here are some considerations and steps to prepare for the transition:

Considerations:
1. Curriculum Differences: The education system and curriculum in India might be different from what your son is used to in Dubai. Research the various boards (CBSE, ICSE, State Boards, IB, etc.) to find the best fit for him.

2. School Selection: Look for schools known for their strong science and math programs. Consider their facilities, faculty, extracurricular activities, and overall environment.

3. Entrance Exams: In India, competitive exams play a significant role in higher education. Start familiarizing your son with exams like the Joint Entrance Examination (JEE) for engineering, the National Talent Search Examination (NTSE), and the Olympiads for science and math.

4. Cultural Adjustment: Moving back to India will involve cultural adjustments. Engage your son in conversations about the changes and prepare him mentally for the shift.

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2. Extracurricular Activities: Encourage participation in extracurricular activities related to science and math. Robotics clubs, coding classes, and science fairs can be great platforms.

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- Social Skills: Engage him in group activities and social gatherings to help him build a network of friends.

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- Before finalizing the move, visit potential schools with your son. This will give him a sense of involvement and help him adjust better.

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Hello gurus.. I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...
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This is the primary step. Once done you can message again.
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