Ans: Dear NN,
Too much of confusion, mostly self-inflicted, if I may add.
You know why I say that, because there is not a mention in your letter/ email on: What is it that you want?
You have conveniently skirted it (the mind can trick you easily) and you are citing excuses to do what others want. What do you want?
Let’s out things into perspective:
1. You shifted for work and now you feel that your daughter’s education is getting impacted
2. You feel like coming back for her education, but you feel that your husband won’t be happy about it.
3. You know that your son might need you now, but then husband thinks you are emotional
It’s time the four of you as a family sat down and spoke rather than thinking and feeling.
Your children are practically adults and are capable of having a sane and conscious conversation that involves the family and their lives as well.
So there’s no more two way conversation between you parents causing more confusion.
Most families go round in circles without realising that who they are discussing about and making decisions on are not even involved in it actively.
In your case, it’s your children…involve them and let them express what they feel is right for them and what they want.
This can help clarify a lot in your mind and your husband also might be aligned to what comes through that 4-way conversation.
It will also bring all of you a while lot closer than before.
All the best!
