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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu Mam, I'm 36 yrs. old my husband is 46 now we have 2 sons. Before marriage my husband was in love with another girl. under pressure of parents that girl married to someone else and left city. later few months we got married. For few days of marriage everything was good he used to treat me nice and use to take out for shopping outing etc. i got pregnant he same year during my pregnancy he had to go to abroad for office work for 8 months, so gap came between us. he completely changed he minimized talking, chatting with family. we ignored may be due to work pressure he became like that. later i came to know he is interested in meeting new ppl especially ladies going with them for lunch dinner n all. after few years he met ex-girlfriend without our knowledge stayed with her few days. so, years passed he ignored us and always scolding getting angry with little things he started maintain distance with us. after 8 yrs. again i got pregnant. He used to go for site visits to other places he stayed back at hotels going with other Females spending time with them. through Facebook he made lot of friends always doing videocalls and chatting with them. everything i knew but i confronted him he uses to scold and flies from the spot saying if u want to stay, stay or else get lost. because of kids i had to stay. now he is renting a house in a same city where we live, (agreement was in his laptop bag) and we don't know what is going on? he never shares and opens anything with us. I asked him many times if u don't want to live with me divorce. He never liked me in this marriage he is always treating me anger. I feel loneliness in my life. Need help what should i do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It must surely be shocking BUT over the years I am sure you would have felt it all slipping away...
He's just in the marriage with no great emotional connect with you; I don't know how he's with the children.
Knowing that over the years, he has not any great attempt to work on the marriage and bond with his family, do you feel that he is going to do that in the future?
Rather than 'BEG' for his time and attention, what if you started to focus on yourself and your children and start afresh? He's anyway living elsewhere...can you take this opportunity and actually figure out what you want from life, from your marriage?
Are you willing to be unsettled like the way you are now even 10 years from now?
A few answers will hit you hard; BUT don't waste anymore time waiting and watching for someone to accept you. It maybe an endless wait-game.
Of course, you do have an option of asking an elder member of the family to step in and intervene and hope that he will have a change of heart. But, be prepared to take a strong stance where required. He's doing this even more as he realizes that you are weak and won't object and 'anything goes' with you.
NO, it doesn't, right? Then buck up and speak for yourself. Whatever it is, come from a place of strength. Try the route of familial intervention first and then a lot will be clear as the way forward for you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
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Hi Anu, I am 36 year old woman. I am married for 9 years with two kids. My marriage was never a happy one. We had lots of arguments and fights even before marriage. I broke my engagement but later he convinced me that he will always keep me happy but it turned out to be an abusive marriage. He started beating me every now and then after my son was born. I also filed police complaint thrice. After which he improved a lot may be because of fear and shame. Meanwhile I also cracked government exam and got a very good job. Things were okay but after my daughter's birth last year his behaviour changed. He is not interested in physical relationship any more. He says that after our daughter's birth he's started to respect women. I tried to talk to him many times but all in vain. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to leave him for the sake of children.Now I want to live my life happily with my children and let him do whatever he wants. I don't know if I am right or wrong.He takes money from me whenever required but never spends money on my personal needs. Sometimes I feel he is with me only for money and doesn't love me. I am confused. Help.PS: He is taking good care of children and household.
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Dear SS,

It is hard to walk out of an abusive relationship and when children are involved, you want to stretch it on longer.

But have you considered how this has already affected their minds?

Children from violent and abusive backgrounds do not grow up steady and face a lot of challenges later in life.

Now, coming back to you…Hasn’t it hurt your ego and pulled down your self-esteem? I am sure it already has hurt you beyond and more.

Usually, I never ever tell people what to do, but make my suggestions and share perspectives so that the mind has clarity to decide what’s best for them in their context.

But here, I am telling you this and listen hard…Physical abuse is a NO NO.

If what you say that his behaviour has changed, then I believe that he isn’t physically abusive anymore.

I do understand you are giving him the long rope for the sake of the children, but when the parents are unhappy, what environment will the children grow in?

Ask your family to step in as you are going to need their care and support hereon.

Take one day at a time and evaluate on a daily basis what his presence in your life is doing to you.

Is it draining you and keeping you on the edge or is it getting better with him improving?

This will clearly indicate what you need to be doing as the next step.

Just remember to value yourself every moment and make yourself your own priority first.

All the best!

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Dear XY,

And may I ask what exactly are you waiting for?

Why did you think that by you going for counselling, your husband will change his behaviour towards you?

How is that he cheats on you and still you allow him to treat you this way?

This only shows that you have lost your strength which you need most right now.

What if you were a strong independent woman who has been working?

Would you still subject yourself to this? You know the answer!

Bring back that woman who had dreams, who knew how to walk the path, who knew how a man should treat her, who knew what a marriage really is.

Can you do this?

Your kids need their mother to stand up for herself and do the right thing.

Be the woman who will not settle for anything that disrespects a woman or another human.

Seeing this, they will also know how to treat a woman and what a woman can bring into their lives.

Do the right thing, for yourself and them. Bring back that strong, independent woman who knew this and more.

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Ans: Your husband's behavior, as you've explained, reflects patterns of control and a lack of empathy for your well-being. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, open communication, and partnership, not dominance or one-sided expectations. The idea that you should obey him like a slave is deeply concerning and goes against the foundation of a healthy and loving relationship. His unwillingness to engage in meaningful communication or to show care during your pregnancy exacerbates the emotional distance you feel.

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Hi Anu I need advice for my marriage. Ours was love cum arrange marriage 14 yrs ago.For first few years all was good .I am financially independent with good salary. My spouse s self employed. We hav one child 10 yrs old.My married s become more like a suffocating situation which I am not able to change.My husband is not at all interested in me now.He treats me invisible when it comes to husband wife relationship. He s good father and human being.But since last few yrs i am not having any emotional relationship with him.We spent so many days and time together yet not a single word of love emotions between us.He s busy with his calls mobile netflix all night while i keep awake all night.I have confronted him many times everytime he says you are always fighting with me and Want all this nonsense. He seem to avoid me all day. He want to discuss about his son and finances since i am earning more than him. its been years i cant handle it now.I want someone to look at me talk to me praise me love me.I deserve happiness but since my son is too small i can't think of living separately but i will die like this one day.I dont knw whats wrong with me seems its like he dont want to touch me as there s no physical relationship between us if we are home alone also.He tortures me mentally but remails happy.I failed as a wife despite giving my everything. I have none to discuss such embarrassing life .Pls advice what shall i do ?Should i found someone else as i dont have capacity to beg again and again?Its very difficult to imagine such long life with a partner who treats u invisible since years ?shall i shift to another city with my son?I am completely lost.Pls help everything. I cant beg for love and attention everytime
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's almost and always a reason for any behavior change. Maybe you might want to understand what exactly made your husband lose interest in you. Did something happen for him to look the other way?
It's really hell living with a spouse who cold shoulders and stone walls you...My suggestion: Rather than blame yourself, have a discussion and not confrontation with him. Confrontations invariably lead you nowhere as you will be caught in an ego tussle. Discussion is where you try and understand what's on his mind and share how you feel.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 21, 2025Hindi
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I am 38 years old , I have my own house, plus 2 flats worth Rs.2 crores. I have 15 lacs in stock and mutual funds. I have ongoing loan of 35 lakhs for home loan. Now i am planning to buy one more flats in my society which is bigger then I m living now and want to shift there. I just want to ask should i buy it to take one more home loan or sell off one flat and take this bigger one. I have no issue for emi as I have ongoing rent of rs 60 to 70k. I have some self saving apporox. 40 lakh and the flat is 1 crores so I will be needed approx 60 as home loan. Pls suggest I m little confused
Ans: You are 38 years old.
You own a house plus two flats worth Rs. 2 crores.
You have Rs. 15 lakhs in stocks and mutual funds.
You have Rs. 40 lakhs as self-savings.
You are paying EMI for a Rs. 35 lakh home loan.
You are getting rental income of Rs. 60,000 to Rs. 70,000 monthly.
You are planning to buy a bigger flat worth Rs. 1 crore.
You are confused between taking a new home loan or selling one flat.
Let us now guide you in a detailed 360-degree manner.

First, Understand Your Current Asset Position
You already own 3 properties including your current home.

Their combined value is around Rs. 2 crores.

You have Rs. 15 lakhs in financial investments.

You have Rs. 40 lakhs in self-savings.

You have an ongoing Rs. 35 lakh home loan.

Your monthly rental income is strong.

Your age is just 38, you have time ahead.

This is a solid financial base.
But more real estate may not be a wise decision now.

Do Not Keep Increasing Real Estate Exposure
You already have 3 properties.

Buying one more adds to concentration risk.

Real estate is not a liquid asset.

It gives no monthly income unless rented.

Maintenance cost, tax, and legal issues can also increase.

Selling it in emergencies is difficult and slow.

Better to reduce real estate, and build financial assets.

Why You Want a Bigger Flat – Emotional or Financial?
Bigger house is good if family is growing.

But it should not hurt your future goals.

More house means more expenses.

You need more furniture, interiors, maintenance.

These hidden costs may hurt long-term savings.

You must balance comfort and financial health.

Option 1: Buy Bigger Flat Using Rs. 60L Loan
Pros:

You keep all 3 flats.

Your rental income continues.

You move to a more spacious home.

Cons:

One more loan increases your EMI burden.

Total loan becomes Rs. 95 lakhs (35 + 60).

You already have Rs. 70,000 EMI likely.

Additional Rs. 55,000–60,000 EMI will hurt liquidity.

Two loans will reduce your monthly surplus.

You already have Rs. 40 lakhs with you.

You will have to use it all to fund new flat.

Your emergency savings and financial investments will be zero.

That is not safe in the long term.

No financial cushion will remain for future.

Option 2: Sell One Flat and Upgrade
Pros:

You unlock money from an illiquid asset.

You reduce overall real estate exposure.

You reduce EMI stress by taking a smaller loan.

You may only need Rs. 20–25 lakh loan.

This EMI will be just Rs. 15,000–20,000.

You can keep your Rs. 40 lakhs savings.

You can reinvest Rs. 40 lakhs wisely in mutual funds.

This can build your child’s education and retirement corpus.

You also avoid high EMI stress.

Cons:

You lose one rental income source.

Property appreciation may stop on that unit.

Some emotional attachment to property may exist.

Ideal Recommendation – Sell One Flat, Shift to Bigger Flat
Don’t hold 3 flats just for feeling rich.

Selling one flat reduces EMI and risk.

It also improves cash flow for future investing.

Use your Rs. 40 lakhs partly for new flat.

Take small loan of Rs. 20–25 lakhs only.

This keeps EMI light.

You keep financial freedom and comfort.

Avoid Overexposing Yourself to Home Loans
You are already repaying one loan.

Don't take one more large loan.

It may be okay now, but future is uncertain.

You may face income drop, job change, or medical emergency.

EMI pressure can impact your peace of mind.

Also reduces your ability to invest monthly.

Big loans steal your ability to grow wealth.

Use Surplus to Build Mutual Fund Portfolio
Rs. 40 lakhs is a powerful amount.

Don’t exhaust it in property.

Keep Rs. 10 lakhs as emergency fund.

Invest Rs. 30 lakhs in mutual funds through STP.

Use mix of equity, hybrid, and debt funds.

SIP monthly from STP over 18–24 months.

Use different fund categories for different goals.

Suggested Mutual Fund Strategy
For Retirement Goal:

Invest in Flexi Cap and Aggressive Hybrid Funds.

These give steady compounding over long term.

For Child Education (if applicable):

Use Flexi Cap and Large & Mid Cap Funds.

Also use Balanced Advantage for safer allocation.

For General Wealth Creation:

Use Aggressive Hybrid and Mid Cap Funds.

Keep STP in place from arbitrage or ultra-short funds.

Why Not to Use Direct Mutual Funds
Direct plans look cheaper.

But no one guides you when market falls.

You may stop SIP or withdraw at wrong time.

Regular plans via MFD with CFP offer safety.

They do review, rebalancing, and hand-holding.

Their service helps avoid costly mistakes.

Pay little more, but gain much more over years.

Why Not to Choose Index Funds
Index funds just follow index blindly.

No human decision-making.

No protection during crashes.

No smart exit or stock-level analysis.

Index funds are not meant for goal-based investing.

Active funds with good manager do better in India.

If You Hold LIC, ULIP or Endowment Plans
Check if any of your Rs. 15 lakhs is in such products.

Most of these give only 4%–5% returns.

They lock your money for years.

If no lock-in, surrender them.

Shift to mutual funds with proper guidance.

Take pure term insurance separately if needed.

Medical Cover is Not Enough
You have Rs. 10 lakhs health insurance.

Add top-up plan of Rs. 25–30 lakhs more.

Medical inflation is rising fast.

Hospital costs can cross Rs. 10 lakhs easily.

Better to be prepared now itself.

Keep Long-Term Investing Discipline
Do not stop SIPs during market correction.

Use goal-wise mutual fund tracking.

Increase SIP every year by 10% minimum.

Review your portfolio yearly.

Do not chase latest fund or trend.

Use CFP and MFD for regular help.

Finally
You already have large exposure in real estate.

Don’t increase it more.

Selling one flat and buying bigger one is wise.

Keep loan low and liquidity high.

Use remaining savings for wealth creation.

Don’t invest randomly in stock market.

Mutual funds are better with right guidance.

Don’t go for direct or index mutual funds.

Use regular plans through MFD with CFP support.

Stay on track with financial goals.

Don’t build more property, build more financial freedom.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 20, 2025Hindi
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Hello Sir. I have been investing Rs. 1500/- per month in Post office RD since about 58 months with the tenure getting over in 2 months. I used to get a confirmation sms from Post Office department every month on investing. But the balance in the sms showed only the amount invested. Never did it show the amount with the interest or the interest on the amount invested. For example it shows only invested amount of Rs. 87000/-. Post Office RD interest is calculated quarterly. With changes on interest rate in last years how will I come to know about the interest earned every year? How to know how much interest I earned on my investmenst?
Ans: You are investing Rs 1500/month in Post Office RD for 60 months. The current balance shows only the total invested amount. You want to know how to check the total interest earned.

Let’s understand this clearly and solve it fully for you.

How Post Office RD Interest Works
Post Office RD gives quarterly compound interest.

The rate changes every quarter by the government.

But for your RD, the rate is fixed on opening date.

So your entire 5-year RD will earn the same rate.

Even if interest rate changes later, your RD stays locked.

Why You Receive SMS With Only Invested Amount
The SMS system only updates with fresh deposits.

It does not show the interest earned in each message.

That’s why total balance seems lower than actual maturity value.

What Is Your Total Invested Amount
You invested Rs 1500 per month for 58 months.

Total amount invested = Rs 87,000 (as per SMS).

How To Know Interest Earned
There are two methods to know the interest earned:

1. Visit Post Office With Passbook
Go to your branch with your RD passbook.

Ask them to print or update your RD passbook.

It will show all entries and interest added quarterly.

You can see total interest credited till date.

2. Check Online (If Account Linked)
If your RD is linked to India Post internet banking, login there.

Go to the RD section.

It will show the total interest earned till now.

Some accounts are not online yet. Then use passbook method.

Approximate Estimate For You
If your RD started around 5 years ago, rate was about 7.1%.

On Rs 87,000, you may get Rs 17,000 to Rs 19,000 as interest.

Total maturity amount may come to Rs 1,04,000 to Rs 1,06,000.

Exact amount will be given by Post Office after maturity.

How Interest Is Calculated
Interest is compounded every 3 months.

Every quarter, interest is added to the principal.

That’s how your returns grow faster over time.

The formula is fixed and applies from the date of opening.

Why RD Passbook Is Very Important
It shows correct principal and interest.

SMS does not show full picture.

Online account may have delays.

Use updated passbook for tax or financial planning.

Taxation Of RD Interest
RD interest is fully taxable.

It is added to your income every year.

Post Office may not deduct TDS.

But you should declare it in ITR.

What To Do After Maturity
Collect full maturity amount.

Do not reinvest in another RD blindly.

Instead, invest in better growth options.

Better Option Than RD After Maturity
Mutual Funds via SIP are better for long-term.

You can get higher returns with proper asset allocation.

Don’t use direct plans.

Take help of CFP-qualified MFD to plan it properly.

Actively managed funds do better than index funds.

RD gives fixed low returns. MF grows your money faster.

Future Actions You Must Take
Go to Post Office after 60 months.

Ask for maturity value in writing.

Confirm interest amount earned.

Decide whether to withdraw or reinvest.

For kids' education, SIP is better than RD.

Start small SIP with Rs 2000 every month.

Simple Tips For You
Always ask for interest slips yearly from Post Office.

Keep track of total investment with a notebook.

Never rely only on SMS for financial planning.

Don’t wait till last month to check maturity.

Plan what to do with the money at least 1 month in advance.

Final Insights
Your RD has worked safely for 5 years. But now, it’s time to upgrade.

You must move from fixed interest products to growth investments.

A good SIP for education, retirement, and future goals is must.

Your RD interest is easy to find — either online or by passbook.

After maturity, don’t continue in RD again. Money will sleep there.

Let your money grow, not sleep.

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I am 58, with wife earning 7.5L per annum and son independent but living with us. I retired in Jun from corporate job. I am expecting 30L retirement benefits. Have 10 L savings, wife has her own savings but no use for me. I am a defence veteran too so I earn 40k pension. My job now gives me Rs.1.23L salary. I expect 3-4 L income tax. I have no loans, two houses one in Mumbai anther at native place. All loans paid for. I have an office of 1000 sqf under construction which has already been paid for.I do not own car as in Mumbai parking n cleaning costs almost 8-10K. So I use cab. My goles now are to have peaceful future, wedding expenses of around 30L for son, buy a car for family in due course and have substantial say 2Cr savings/hold in coins post 7 years. Presently I have started 30k RD. I have Rs.20L Insurence which is already paid for. I also have defence health scheme covering myself and my wife. My son is independent advocate. Kindly guide
Ans: 1. Current Financial Snapshot
You are 58 and recently retired from a corporate job.

Pension: Rs. 40,000 per month from defence.

Current job salary: Rs. 1.23 lakhs per month.

No loans. That’s excellent. You're debt-free.

Rs. 30 lakhs expected from retirement benefits.

Rs. 10 lakhs in existing savings.

Wife earns Rs. 7.5 lakhs per year. Her savings are independent.

You have two residential properties and one office space (paid).

You have Rs. 20 lakhs insurance (already paid).

Family is covered under the defence health scheme.

A recurring deposit of Rs. 30,000/month has been started.

Your son is financially independent.

This profile reflects good financial discipline and asset creation.

2. Key Life Goals Identified
Son’s wedding expenses: Rs. 30 lakhs.

Car purchase: In the near future.

Achieve Rs. 2 crores in corpus within 7 years.

Ensure peaceful and financially secure retirement.

These are reasonable and achievable goals. Let us now assess how to get there.

3. Retirement Corpus Planning (Rs. 2 Crore in 7 Years)
To build Rs. 2 crore in 7 years, you need a strategic asset allocation:

Sources of Funding:
Rs. 30 lakh retirement benefits.

Rs. 10 lakh existing savings.

Rs. 1.23 lakh monthly salary (for next few years).

Rs. 40,000 monthly defence pension (lifelong).

Rs. 30,000 monthly RD (just started).

Instead of using RDs, which offer low post-tax returns, consider:

Recommended Actions:
Discontinue RD after current cycle.

Begin investing Rs. 50,000 monthly in mutual funds (explained below).

Allocate Rs. 30 lakh retirement corpus in a lump sum manner – 50% now, 50% in phased manner over 6–9 months.

4. Mutual Fund Strategy (No Direct or Index Funds)
Avoid index funds. They just mimic the market. They do not outperform.

Also avoid direct mutual funds unless you are experienced in selecting and reviewing funds regularly.

Problems with Direct and Index Funds:
No personal guidance or review.

Underperform during market volatility.

No access to portfolio rebalancing advice.

Index funds don't outperform inflation meaningfully in short periods.

Instead, Choose:
Actively managed funds.

Use Regular Plans through a SEBI-registered Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD).

Choose one who works with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP).

These professionals will help:

Set goals and choose suitable funds.

Monitor and rebalance your portfolio.

Provide tax-efficient withdrawal strategies post-retirement.

5. Suggested Asset Allocation
You should follow a 60:30:10 allocation strategy:

60% in Mutual Funds (for growth).

30% in Fixed Income instruments (to preserve capital).

10% in Gold (preferably digital or sovereign bonds for long term).

How to Allocate:
Equity Mutual Funds – 60%:

Use diversified actively managed funds.

Allocate across large, mid and flexi cap funds.

SIP Rs. 50,000 monthly.

Invest Rs. 15–18 lakhs in lump sum in mutual funds using STP (Systematic Transfer Plan) to reduce entry risk.

Debt Instruments – 30%:

Fixed deposits (for short-term needs).

Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (if preferred).

Short-term debt mutual funds (through regular plan).

Ensure liquidity for 2–3 years' expenses.

Gold – 10%:

For diversification and protection.

Invest in sovereign gold bonds or digital gold.

Avoid jewellery as an investment.

6. Emergency Fund Strategy
You already have Rs. 10 lakhs in savings.

Out of this:

Keep Rs. 4–5 lakhs in liquid fund or sweep-in FD.

This should cover 6–9 months of expenses.

Do not mix this with long-term investments.

7. Wedding Planning for Your Son (Rs. 30 Lakhs)
This is a significant short-term goal.

Suggested Strategy:
Avoid using mutual fund investments for this.

Use proceeds from:

Maturing RDs (if continued).

FDs or debt funds.

Or allocate Rs. 5 lakh per year for 6 years.

Keep this in separate earmarked investments.

Avoid disturbing your retirement investments.

8. Car Purchase Plan
You may consider:

Budget of Rs. 10–12 lakhs.

Use short-term debt mutual funds to accumulate this.

Target timeline: 2–3 years.

Avoid loan. Keep this expense cash-based.

Car is depreciating in nature. Don't let it disturb long-term goals.

9. Health and Insurance Coverage
Excellent that you have:

Rs. 20 lakhs insurance (already paid).

Defence health coverage for family.

No further life or medical insurance needed.

Avoid ULIPs or Investment-cum-Insurance products.

If you have any such policy, surrender it and shift proceeds to mutual funds.

10. Taxation Guidance
You mentioned Rs. 3–4 lakh annual income tax.

This can be optimised by:

Investing Rs. 1.5 lakh under Section 80C (PPF, ELSS, etc.).

Investing Rs. 50,000 under NPS Tier I (Section 80CCD(1B)).

If you have taxable mutual fund gains:

Equity mutual funds: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

STCG taxed at 20%.

Debt funds taxed as per income tax slab.

Ensure a Certified Financial Planner guides your withdrawals to reduce tax impact.

11. Income Strategy Post-Retirement
After 7 years, your job income may stop.

Prepare income sources now:

Use mutual fund SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) after 65.

Combine pension + SWP for monthly expenses.

Keep Rs. 25–30 lakhs in debt funds for stability.

Rent from office space can supplement income once completed.

Plan cash flows properly for 20+ years of retired life.

12. Real Estate Holdings
You already have:

One house in Mumbai.

One in native place.

One commercial property under construction.

Avoid any further real estate purchases.

They have:

High maintenance costs.

Poor liquidity.

Low post-tax returns.

Focus on financial instruments for further wealth creation.

13. Role of Your Wife’s Income
She earns Rs. 7.5 lakhs annually.

If not dependent on you, encourage her to:

Invest in her own name.

Maximise tax deductions.

Create a separate retirement corpus.

This ensures financial independence for both.

14. Estate Planning
Start documenting:

Will creation.

Nomination across all financial assets.

Joint holdings where possible.

This prevents disputes or delays in future.

Include your wife and son in this discussion.

Finally
You have shown wisdom in your planning.

From this stage, please focus on:

Peaceful wealth growth.

Balanced asset allocation.

Avoiding low-return products like ULIPs, traditional insurance.

Using mutual funds (regular, active) via an MFD and CFP.

Having tax-efficient withdrawal plans post-retirement.

Fulfilling personal goals without taking fresh loans.

Involving your family in planning and documenting all decisions.

You're at a comfortable stage financially.

Let a Certified Financial Planner guide your implementation professionally.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Hi Im 41yr old, with take home salary of 3L, current SIPs of 80,000. Homeloan of 80L. Monthly expenses of 1L. I have kids aged 9yr & 6yr. Also,occasionally investing in Stock Markets. I want to create a huge corpus for retirement for comfortable luxurious living & kids higher education & marriage& other expenses Have medical Insurance of 10L Kindly guide me for investing & saving better.
Ans: You are 41 years old with Rs. 3 lakh monthly income.
You invest Rs. 80,000 per month in mutual funds.
You have an Rs. 80 lakh home loan.
Your household expense is around Rs. 1 lakh monthly.
You have two kids, 9 and 6 years old.
You also invest sometimes in stock markets.
You have Rs. 10 lakh health insurance cover.
You want to build a large corpus for retirement, children’s education, marriage, and more.
Let us now create a 360-degree financial action plan for you.

First, Understand Your Present Financial Strength
You have high income and good savings habit.

SIP of Rs. 80,000 is very impressive.

You are balancing loan, SIP, and expenses well.

This discipline will create long-term wealth.

You have taken health insurance.

This is also a strong and responsible move.

But more structure is needed in your investments.

Map Your Key Life Goals First
You have four clear long-term goals:

Retirement corpus – From age 60 onwards

Child 1 higher education – in 8 to 10 years

Child 2 higher education – in 11 to 13 years

Marriage for both kids – in 15 to 20 years

You also want:

A comfortable and luxurious retired life

To manage all future lifestyle expenses

These goals are all heavy on future money needs.

Allocate Your Rs. 80,000 SIP Properly
You are investing Rs. 80,000 monthly in SIP.
But the right allocation is more important than the amount.
Break this into 3 goal-specific buckets.

Bucket 1: Retirement (Rs. 40,000/month)
This is your longest-term goal.

So, it can take the highest equity exposure.

You can invest in:

Flexi Cap Fund

Large & Mid Cap Fund

Aggressive Hybrid Fund

Use at least 3–4 fund categories.

Focus on growth-oriented funds.

Retirement needs steady SIP for 15–18 more years.

Increase SIP every year by at least 10%.

Bucket 2: Child Education (Rs. 30,000/month)
Split this between both kids.

You have around 8–12 years for this.

Use mix of safety and growth funds.

Choose:

Flexi Cap Fund

Balanced Advantage Fund

Short Duration Fund (closer to goal)

In last 2–3 years, shift funds to safer options.

Don’t keep 100% in equity during college start.

Bucket 3: Marriage & Lifestyle Fund (Rs. 10,000/month)
These goals are 15–20 years away.

So, can be fully equity focused.

Choose:

Mid Cap Fund

Flexi Cap Fund

Aggressive Hybrid Fund

Also usable for travel, luxury, business, or future dreams.

Avoid Investing Randomly in Stocks
Direct stock investment needs full-time research.

You may buy high and sell low unknowingly.

One wrong stock can wipe out 10 right ones.

Keep stock exposure limited to 5%–10% only.

Don’t rely on tips or social media stock advice.

Use stocks only after you finish all SIPs for goals.

Mutual funds are safer, flexible, and professionally managed.

Do Not Go for Index Funds
Index funds only copy market, not actively managed.

They cannot protect when market crashes.

You ride full ups and full downs.

No human brain involved in decision making.

Better to invest in actively managed funds.

Skilled fund managers will adjust portfolio wisely.

Use proven funds with consistent track record.

Avoid Direct Funds – Choose Regular Plans
Direct mutual funds look cheaper but come with no service.

You will have no advisor to help or guide.

Portfolio may become unbalanced or underperform.

Regular funds give you service via MFD with CFP.

They help with asset allocation and yearly review.

They guide during corrections and market shocks.

Their cost is small, but value is very high.

Always work with MFD who is also a CFP.

Plan for Home Loan Management
Rs. 80 lakh loan is large.

Don’t rush to close it fully.

Keep EMI comfortable within your cash flow.

You can prepay slowly after building emergency fund.

First focus should be on funding your goals.

Don’t sacrifice retirement to close loan early.

If interest rate is below 9%, continue paying EMI.

Create an Emergency Fund Now
Your monthly expenses are Rs. 1 lakh.

So, keep Rs. 6 lakh to Rs. 9 lakh for emergencies.

Use FD, liquid fund, or sweep-in account.

This is only for job loss or health issues.

Don’t mix it with investment goals.

Review Your Health and Life Cover
Rs. 10 lakh medical insurance is good, but may not be enough.

Medical inflation is 12–15% per year.

Add a top-up health cover of Rs. 20 lakh.

Buy it early while you are healthy.

Also, take pure term insurance for Rs. 1.5 crore to Rs. 2 crore.

This protects your family in case of sudden death.

If You Hold LIC, ULIP or Endowment Policies
Check your current insurance-cum-investment plans.

See past 5-year return, often less than 5%.

These products are low-return and high-lock-in.

If no lock-in now, surrender the policy.

Reinvest into mutual funds for better growth.

Buy pure term cover instead of combo policies.

Yearly Review of Portfolio is Important
Don’t forget your SIPs after starting them.

Review all funds once a year.

Replace only if underperforming for 3 years or more.

Rebalance between equity and debt if needed.

Take help from your MFD with CFP every year.

Avoid investing emotionally or based on market news.

Understand Tax Rules for Future Withdrawals
Equity fund profit over Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term equity gains taxed at 20%.

Debt and hybrid funds with

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Dear Sir, I am 36 years old and have 2.8 lacs salary per month. Currently I have home loan of 25 lacs for which I pay emi of 37,000. I also invest 1.5 lacs in following mutual funds every month and currently have 11 lacs portfolio. I have 1.44 lacs in NPS for which 13000 is paid additionally. I save the remaining money in household expenses which is about 60000 per month. I want to know how is my investing strategy and way to improve my investing to achieve 50 crores at the age of 60
Ans: You earn Rs.2.8 lakhs monthly. You also service a home loan EMI of Rs.37,000. Plus, you invest Rs.1.5 lakhs per month in mutual funds. You contribute Rs.13,000 to NPS monthly, and have saved Rs.11 lakhs so far. You manage household expenses within Rs.60,000. That's a smart, responsible way to handle income, saving, and repayment.

Your commitment and disciplined approach deserve appreciation. You are building a solid financial foundation—keep it up!

Review of Your Current Investment Strategy

Your savings pattern shows good diversity:

Mutual Funds (Equity Focus): Rs.1.5 lakhs monthly

NPS Contributions: Rs.13,000 monthly

Emergency Savings: Implicit, though not captured separately

This mix gives growth potential from equity, tax benefits via NPS, and a cushion from household expense management.

But there are areas to improve further to reach your ambitious goal of Rs.50 crores by age 60.

The Rs.50 Crore Goal—Is It Realistic?

You want Rs.50 crores in 24 years (age 36 to 60).

To reach Rs.50 crores from current Rs.11 lakhs, you'd need:

About Rs.2.5 lakhs investment every month

A return of about 13–14% annually

That's ambitious, but not impossible with disciplined savings, high equity exposure, and smart investment strategy.

However, it requires us to review your strategy in detail.

Step by Step: Bringing Clarity to Your Goal

Let’s break your goal down:

Define key goals and timelines

Assess income and expense clarity

Revisit home loan strategy

Review mutual fund allocation and taxes

Reassess NPS and alternate long-term vehicles

Ensure emergency fund adequacy

Consider health and term cover

Plan for periodic review

Clarifying Your Financial Goals

Align your Rs.50 crore plan with life goals:

Retirement at 60

Children’s education and marriage

Lifestyle expectations (travel, health, hobbies)

Legacy plans

This clarity will guide how to manage portfolio risk and growth.

Home Loan Strategy

Your home loan EMI is Rs.37,000. Continue to pay it diligently. It offers benefits:

May improve your credit score

Provides an inflation-adjusted deduction

Interest component reduces gradually

But don't over-prioritise prepayments unless surplus is consistent and goals are on track. Your current surplus is best used to grow wealth.

Mutual Fund Strategy—Are You on Track?

You currently invest Rs.1.5 lakhs per month. That’s excellent.

To check alignment with Rs.50 crore target, use a hypothetical return of 13%:

Rs.1.5 lakhs SIP monthly for 24 years can grow close to Rs.15–17 crores.

With disciplined increases and market performance, Rs.50 crores is still quite a stretch.

Hence, you’ll need to:

Increase investments gradually

Choose high?growth, actively managed equity funds

Add small and mid-caps opportunistically

Keep reviewing performance annually

Active vs Index Funds

You didn’t mention index funds. Let’s address it:

Index funds have drawbacks:

No flexibility to exclude weak stocks

No defensive allocation in downturns

No attempt to outperform market

Actively managed funds provide:

Continuous market research

Ability to shift away from volatile sectors

Aiming to outperform benchmarks consistently

To build Rs.50 crores, we prefer a high-quality actively managed portfolio.

Fund Allocation for High Growth and Risk

Your current Rs.1.5 lakhs SIP can be allocated as:

Large/Flexi-Cap Funds: 30%

Mid-Cap Funds: 30%

Small-Cap Funds: 20%

Opportunity/Thematic Funds: 20%

As you get closer to 60, rebalance toward safer categories.

NPS Contributions—Are They Enough?

You invest Rs.13,000 monthly in NPS. That's commendable for tax benefits and retirement corpus.

NPS offers a mix of equity, corporate bonds, and government securities.

To strengthen its benefit:

Take full advantage of Section 80CCD

Consider increasing contribution—if surplus exists

Keep track of exit tax and withdrawals

This helps build a larger retirement corpus but may not push you fully to Rs.50 crores.

Building Emergency Funds

You currently manage household expenses well, but it's unclear if you have a separate emergency fund.

Ensure at least 6 months of expenses (Rs.3.6 lakhs) is kept in a safe liquid fund.

This prevents disruption of your long-term investments during emergencies.

Insurance and Protection Planning

You haven’t mentioned term insurance. At 36, you likely need:

Adequate term life cover for your loan and family

Health insurance for both you and family

Consider rider health or income protection

Protecting against risk ensures your retirement goal is unimpeded by unforeseen events.

Tax Efficiency of Investments

You have:

NPS investments with tax benefit

Mutual fund returns which face equity capital gains tax

LTCG above Rs.1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

STCG taxed at 20%

To maximise returns:

Hold equity funds beyond 1 year

Track redemptions to manage gains within threshold

Use NPS withdrawals strategically

Use tax-advantaged withdrawal plans at retirement

A Certified Financial Planner can assist with smart tax planning.

Periodic Portfolio Review and Upscaling

To hit Rs.50 crores:

Increase SIP annually with income growth

Rebalance asset mix based on performance

Exit underperformers and add high-conviction picks

Consider direct equities/hybrid in later years

Review your portfolio every 6–12 months with professional help.

Avoiding Common Pitfalls

Steer clear of:

Impulsive investment decisions

Excessive concentration in single funds

Frequent switching without reason

Overreliance on regular income

Blind faith in market timing

Discipline and consistency matter more than chasing quick gains.

A Realistic Roadmap to Rs.50 Crores

Over 24 years, you can strengthen:

Monthly SIP: Rs.1.5 lakhs (year 1) → Rs.5–6 lakhs (by year 24 as income scales)

Healthy asset allocation tilt toward equity growth

Effective use of NPS for tax and retirement savings

Rebalancing and withdrawal strategy at age 60

With average annualised return of around 14%, these steps can get you near Rs.25–30 crores realistically. Reaching Rs.50 crores needs significant future income and discipline—but remains a strong ambition.

Life Beyond Investments—Your WellBeing

While building wealth, remember:

Maintain work-life balance

Spend time with family

Save for travel and wellness

Continually learn and upgrade skills

True wealth is not just money—it’s freedom, health, security, and joy.

Finally

You invest wisely now. That is your strength.

Going ahead, increase equity exposure smartly while managing risk.

Use actively managed funds for consistent growth.

Strengthen NPS and consider gradual SIP hikes.

Build emergency corpus to de-risk.

Secure your physical and financial health with insurance.

Review portfolio with Certified Financial Planner regularly.

Stay away from index, direct, and risky investment temptations.

Keep family, purpose, and well?being in focus.

With consistent effort and guidance, Rs.50 crores is ambitious but within sight. You have both conviction and habits to reach there.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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How to set 47000 salary with home loan emi 17000 and keeping in mind good future of kids education and futuristic saving.
Ans: With a monthly salary of Rs 47,000 and Rs 17,000 EMI, your financial space is limited. Still, with a disciplined approach, you can build a secure future for your children and yourself.

Let’s create a simple and practical financial plan.

Understand Current Situation
Salary: Rs 47,000

Home loan EMI: Rs 17,000

Remaining: Rs 30,000

This balance must take care of expenses, kids’ education, and your savings.

Smart Budgeting Is First Step
Keep fixed household expenses within Rs 20,000.

Leave Rs 3,000 for unavoidable personal expenses.

Save at least Rs 5,000 each month without fail.

Track every rupee spent using a notebook or app.

Build Emergency Fund First
Target 3 months of expenses as your first goal.

Save Rs 1,000 from your Rs 5,000 monthly saving towards this.

Keep the emergency money in a separate savings account.

Don’t use it for routine or luxury expenses.

Child Education Planning Must Start Now
Start a monthly SIP of Rs 2,000 in a good mutual fund.

Do not use direct plans. Take help from an MFD with CFP certification.

Actively managed funds perform better than index funds over the long term.

Continue SIP for at least 10–15 years without stopping.

Use Government Schemes Wisely
If you have a daughter, use Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana. Contribute Rs 250/month minimum.

PPF is good for safe wealth creation. Invest Rs 500 to start.

Increase this every year with salary hike.

Review Insurance Protection
Make sure you have term insurance of at least Rs 25–30 lakhs.

Don’t mix insurance with investment like ULIPs or endowment plans.

Check if you have health insurance for your family. If not, buy one soon.

Control Debts And Avoid Personal Loans
Your home loan is good debt.

Avoid new EMIs unless unavoidable.

Don’t fall into credit card debt trap.

Increase Income If Possible
Consider part-time online work or weekend freelance tasks.

Ask spouse if they can support income or manage small business from home.

Every extra rupee must go into savings or kids’ future.

Automate Your Savings And Investments
Set up auto-debit for SIP and PPF contribution.

This avoids emotional spending.

You don’t miss your goals because of forgetfulness.

Discipline Matters More Than High Returns
Even Rs 1000 invested consistently can grow big over 20 years.

Stay away from risky investments or chit funds.

Don’t chase fast returns. Wealth is built slowly.

Review Financial Plan Every 6 Months
Check if your savings rate can increase.

Revisit SIP amount once your loan EMI ends.

After EMI closure, invest that Rs 17,000 towards kids and retirement.

Focus Areas For You
Emergency fund – First priority.

Insurance – Life and health both.

Kids’ education SIP – Rs 2000 minimum now.

No new debts – Absolutely avoid.

Monthly budget review – Every 15 days.

What To Avoid
No direct mutual funds.

No index funds.

No insurance-cum-investment policies.

No gold purchase as an investment.

No real estate investment now or near future.

Future Steps
After home loan ends, use Rs 17,000 fully for investments.

That alone can create Rs 1 crore+ in 15–20 years.

Review kids’ education cost yearly and adjust SIP if needed.

Make retirement planning your priority after children are settled.

Best Way To Use Annual Bonus Or Extra Income
First, pay off any small dues.

Add to emergency fund.

Invest rest in mutual fund SIPs.

Do not spend on luxury or non-urgent things.

What Will Happen If You Stick To This Plan
In 5 years, your emergency fund and child fund will be in place.

In 10 years, you will have a decent education corpus.

In 15–20 years, you can retire with peace.

Your kids will thank you for disciplined planning.

Finally
It’s not the salary that decides the future.

It’s what you do with your salary every month.

Even with Rs 47,000 income, you can build a powerful future.

Only if you plan carefully and avoid mistakes.

Start small but be consistent and stay invested.

If you want, we can help you build a detailed action plan with specific monthly targets.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 08, 2025Hindi
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IIIT Kanchipuram any branch including Mechanical or NIT, Tier 1/2 lower branch ,- Which is better in terms of salary package through campus and better career prospects.
Ans: IIIT Kancheepuram’s campus placements across B.Tech disciplines have yielded a 73% placement rate with an overall average package of ?9.37 LPA. Mechanical Engineering graduates at IIITK average ?6.54 LPA, while CSE and ECE branches command higher averages of ?12.95 LPA and ?11.36 LPA respectively. By contrast, Tier-1 NITs place lower-tier branches more strongly: NIT Surathkal’s Mechanical Engineers average ?12.57 LPA with a 93% placement rate, and NIT Durgapur’s Metallurgical & Materials Engineering posts an 83.64% placement rate with an average package of ?8.79 LPA. Tier-2 NITs show similar trends, with lower-demand branches averaging ?7–9 LPA and placement rates of 70–85%. Each institution offers robust accreditation, experienced faculty, modern labs, industry internships, and dedicated placement support, but NITs leverage stronger national branding and deeper recruiter networks for core engineering roles.

For higher average packages and broader recruiter engagement in core engineering, the recommendation is to join NIT Surathkal Mechanical Engineering. If you prefer a balanced mix of computer-oriented roles at a growing IIIT with solid internships, I recommend shifting to IIIT Kancheepuram CSE. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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IIT Bombay civil or RVCE CS?
Ans: Indian Institute of Technology Bombay’s B.Tech in Civil Engineering is consistently ranked among the top three engineering programs in India (NIRF #3 2024) and its department features 55 faculty, PhD-led research in seven specialization areas, world-class laboratories (structural, geotechnical, water-resources, transportation, remote sensing) and strong industry–academia linkages through consultancy projects. The program reports an 82.47% placement rate over the past three years with core and interdisciplinary recruiters and a median package of ?17.92 LPA. In contrast, R.V. College of Engineering’s B.E. in CSE is NAAC A+ accredited, staffed by over 30 research-active professors across AI/ML, networks, cybersecurity and big-data, supported by 47 specialized computing labs and 104 corporate MoUs for internships. It sustains a 97% placement consistency with an average package of ?19 LPA and regular campus drives by Oracle, Microsoft, Cisco and Goldman Sachs.

For unparalleled global reputation, multidisciplinary research infrastructure, and assured core-civil placements, the the recommendation is IIT Bombay Civil Engineering. If your priority is cutting-edge software engineering, higher average packages and robust industry internships in technology, recommendation shifts to RVCE Computer Science & Engineering. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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