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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 08, 2022

Dear SS,
It is hard to walk out of an abusive relationship and when children are involved, you want to stretch it on longer.
But have you considered how this has already affected their minds?
Children from violent and abusive backgrounds do not grow up steady and face a lot of challenges later in life.
Now, coming back to you…Hasn’t it hurt your ego and pulled down your self-esteem? I am sure it already has hurt you beyond and more.
Usually, I never ever tell people what to do, but make my suggestions and share perspectives so that the mind has clarity to decide what’s best for them in their context.
But here, I am telling you this and listen hard…Physical abuse is a NO NO.
If what you say that his behaviour has changed, then I believe that he isn’t physically abusive anymore.
I do understand you are giving him the long rope for the sake of the children, but when the parents are unhappy, what environment will the children grow in?
Ask your family to step in as you are going to need their care and support hereon.
Take one day at a time and evaluate on a daily basis what his presence in your life is doing to you.
Is it draining you and keeping you on the edge or is it getting better with him improving?
This will clearly indicate what you need to be doing as the next step.
Just remember to value yourself every moment and make yourself your own priority first.
All the best!
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