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Lakshmi Question by Lakshmi on Apr 08, 2023Hindi
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I actually like someone..... but the guy,he is like sometime he cares alot about me but sometimes make fun of me......but not infront of orhers.....i like him so much that i always want to talk to him i try to find reason to speak or chat with him

Ans: Dear Lakshmi,
The easiest thing to do is to express yourself to him.
What will happen? Either he will say that he also likes you or he doesn't! But no point playing guessing games in your head; it too straining. If you feel awkward in doing this, seek the help of a mutual friend who will play the role of a messenger. Whatever the outcome, be prepared for it BUT do express this feeling. Now, why he makes fun of you is something I don't know; maybe he feels comfortable enough to be himself with you OR he deviates his feelings for you into humour.

Best wishes!

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It seems you're experiencing a relationship with mixed behaviors from your boyfriend. On one hand, he supports you financially and shows affection, but on the other, he becomes verbally abusive and dismissive when angry. This duality can be confusing and emotionally draining.

It's important to recognize that his abusive behavior, even if it's only during moments of anger, is a significant issue. Such behavior can erode your self-esteem and sense of safety over time. Abuse isn't just physical; verbal and emotional abuse can be just as damaging.

When someone shouts at you or dismisses your feelings, especially in public, it indicates a lack of respect and self-control. This kind of behavior is unacceptable and should not be excused or normalized, regardless of the moments of kindness and support he shows.

Consider discussing your concerns with him during a calm moment, emphasizing how his behavior affects you. If he's willing to listen and seek help, such as anger management or couples counseling, there might be a way to address these issues. However, if he dismisses your concerns or refuses to change, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship for your own well-being.

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