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Lakshmi Question by Lakshmi on Apr 08, 2023Hindi
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I actually like someone..... but the guy,he is like sometime he cares alot about me but sometimes make fun of me......but not infront of orhers.....i like him so much that i always want to talk to him i try to find reason to speak or chat with him

Ans: Dear Lakshmi,
The easiest thing to do is to express yourself to him.
What will happen? Either he will say that he also likes you or he doesn't! But no point playing guessing games in your head; it too straining. If you feel awkward in doing this, seek the help of a mutual friend who will play the role of a messenger. Whatever the outcome, be prepared for it BUT do express this feeling. Now, why he makes fun of you is something I don't know; maybe he feels comfortable enough to be himself with you OR he deviates his feelings for you into humour.

Best wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2026Hindi
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Currently , I am in 2nd year of my clg , btech CCE in MUJ .... Studies are fine. After my breakup with my first bf( 3 years back) it really shook me of as I got to know he cheated on me and I wasted my precious time thinking about him though I have overcame from this .... So I met this guy online .... We are from same clg but diff department... Class are on the same floor so we met a few times but that was also an eye contact or simple hi hello .... We started talking from 2nd sem .... And in 2nd-3rd sem it felt like he liked me but I wasn't ready. And he never brought this topic it was simply friendly banter or thoda bahut flirting and now from the starting of 4th sem things have changed like in his behaviour, way he used to talk, holding the convos ..it's like he's cutting me.... though I talked about this and he cleared like it's nothing like that but yeah many things are changed .... We dont talk like we used to , he seems non interested, late replies ... And here as soon as I started liking him he got off ... I even gave him slight hints but now it feels like I am desperate to talk it is making me feel clingy distracted that I can't just stop thinking about it ... It's becoming a hindrance in my studies . .. I feel like whenever I start to like someone that other person gets off like he's not interested it has happened a many of times .. it makes me feels o dumb and stupid like do I even have something that the other person would like me or even just stop being non interested or giving mixed signals
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how you are feeling and it is very normal to question yourself when you notice the pattern more than one time. But trust me, it is not you. Sometimes people have fleeting feelings for each other. It can also be that since the guy did not feel you reciprocate the same feeling, he moved on to protect his heart. Or some people with casual feelings just lose interest as soon as the chase is over. The reason does not matter; what matters here is that it's not your fault. This clingy, distracted feeling will pass soon. This is not love; you just miss feeling important to someone and it's completely normal. Don't think of this as a loss. He was never the right person for you to begin with if he wants to cut you off suddenly. You deserve to be loved completely, not just when it's convenient for them.

Hope this helps.

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