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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 12, 2023

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Lakshmi Question by Lakshmi on Apr 08, 2023Hindi
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I actually like someone..... but the guy,he is like sometime he cares alot about me but sometimes make fun of me......but not infront of orhers.....i like him so much that i always want to talk to him i try to find reason to speak or chat with him

Ans: Dear Lakshmi,
The easiest thing to do is to express yourself to him.
What will happen? Either he will say that he also likes you or he doesn't! But no point playing guessing games in your head; it too straining. If you feel awkward in doing this, seek the help of a mutual friend who will play the role of a messenger. Whatever the outcome, be prepared for it BUT do express this feeling. Now, why he makes fun of you is something I don't know; maybe he feels comfortable enough to be himself with you OR he deviates his feelings for you into humour.

Best wishes!

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Smoking and drinking are bad habits, but if they aren't highly addicted to them, breaking up might have been a bit extreme. But I understand that it might have been unacceptable for you at the moment.

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Hey mam I am just 23 I have a boyfriend and my family accepted him but I can't understand his behaviour sometimes he behaving like a no one can love me like him he supported me always by financial he is a soft heart person but ???? sometimes when he is in angry he can't understand anything sometimes I abused by him and behaving like I am nothing for him he shouted among people he can't think what I can feel what is this ma'am ????what can I do
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It seems you're experiencing a relationship with mixed behaviors from your boyfriend. On one hand, he supports you financially and shows affection, but on the other, he becomes verbally abusive and dismissive when angry. This duality can be confusing and emotionally draining.

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