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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 12, 2023

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Juris Question by Juris on Apr 11, 2023Hindi
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I'm poor communicator and don't know how to maintain relationships so I like this guy and I don't know if he like me bcse we don't talk but on my bday he sent me a song for me by my friends request and we messaged that's first time talking...and then we never talked he ignored and I also did being an introvert now we don't follow each other but there's always a tension

Ans: Dear Juris,
Be YOU but if being YOU is being rigid and not allowing you to socialize the way that leads to making bigger connections, then do something about it:)
Hobby classes, meet up groups for like minded individuals, gyms, writing clubs...are great places to meet new people and socialize. Initially you can piggy back with your friends till you slowly become your own chaperone.
So, go out there and while still being YOU, also know that's there's so much to life and the joy that people can bring into your life as much as you can in their lives:) Explore slowly but surely...
As for this guy, he's young and playing the social media scene his way at his level of maturity. Off and On connections, ghosting, constant texting...all these are part of these platforms...you will get used to it as unwanted as it may seem. You will learn to safeguard your sanity while you are on these platforms.

All the best!

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Hi Anu; I had an altercation with a friend which was followed by him apologising about the same. The next day he stopped all communications completely. However when we met a month later he was absolutely sweet as if nothing had happened. At the same time he didn't keep much contact at all. He is very nice and courteous on watsapp and at other times when ee meet in person looks through me as if I dont exists at all. On phone whenever we have spoken with each other; he is absolutely charming. It is obvious that he doesnt want to be in touch. Let me add that there is no romance involved. Why do people behave the way they do? Hot one moment and cold the next? Its obvious he cannot stand me; but I wish he would stop playing games and be his normal self at all times. Keeping watsapp conversations charming but not interacting face to face is pretty confusing for me since I am straightforward person. Can you give your opinion regarding the same? Frankly speaking I feel he is a drama king and thrives on it. And honestly I dont really want to keep in touch but sometimes we do meet because of common friends. Just thought of asking you about this. Do some people always like to play mind games? Take care!
Ans: Dear Rajani,
Firstly let me put all your thoughts (assumptions) in one place. Assumptions are statements based on perceptions and not facts which sour connections and breaks relationships.
These have been picked from your question to me.
1. It is obvious that he doesn't want to be in touch
2. I wish he would stop playing games
3. I feel he is a drama king and thrives on it

This is your reading of the situations based on the way you have understood it. How much of this is true? Could it be your version of the truth?
Also, you have stated that you don't want to keep in touch; then why are you?
And if you really didn't want to, why is his playing games bothering you?
My suggestions:
1. Be clear if you want an association with him. If Yes, please clear out the air, so that there is no room for assumptions anymore.
2. Do understand that sometimes people are on eggshells after an altercation; he possibly is also carrying a lot of assumptions about you in his mind and that's why he's hot and cold alternatively.
3. Give the benefit of doubt to people; they might be going through something that you makes them behave in an odd way.
3. Drama King or not, there's a lot of unsaid discomfort between the two of you; do get into a non-judgemental space so even if the two of you don't patch up, it can be an amicable goodbye.

Steer away from assumptions and it makes room for either rebuilding a relationship or part ways on a good note.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2026Hindi
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Currently , I am in 2nd year of my clg , btech CCE in MUJ .... Studies are fine. After my breakup with my first bf( 3 years back) it really shook me of as I got to know he cheated on me and I wasted my precious time thinking about him though I have overcame from this .... So I met this guy online .... We are from same clg but diff department... Class are on the same floor so we met a few times but that was also an eye contact or simple hi hello .... We started talking from 2nd sem .... And in 2nd-3rd sem it felt like he liked me but I wasn't ready. And he never brought this topic it was simply friendly banter or thoda bahut flirting and now from the starting of 4th sem things have changed like in his behaviour, way he used to talk, holding the convos ..it's like he's cutting me.... though I talked about this and he cleared like it's nothing like that but yeah many things are changed .... We dont talk like we used to , he seems non interested, late replies ... And here as soon as I started liking him he got off ... I even gave him slight hints but now it feels like I am desperate to talk it is making me feel clingy distracted that I can't just stop thinking about it ... It's becoming a hindrance in my studies . .. I feel like whenever I start to like someone that other person gets off like he's not interested it has happened a many of times .. it makes me feels o dumb and stupid like do I even have something that the other person would like me or even just stop being non interested or giving mixed signals
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how you are feeling and it is very normal to question yourself when you notice the pattern more than one time. But trust me, it is not you. Sometimes people have fleeting feelings for each other. It can also be that since the guy did not feel you reciprocate the same feeling, he moved on to protect his heart. Or some people with casual feelings just lose interest as soon as the chase is over. The reason does not matter; what matters here is that it's not your fault. This clingy, distracted feeling will pass soon. This is not love; you just miss feeling important to someone and it's completely normal. Don't think of this as a loss. He was never the right person for you to begin with if he wants to cut you off suddenly. You deserve to be loved completely, not just when it's convenient for them.

Hope this helps.

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Dear Sir, I had a flat whose cost was 34 lac, bought in the year 2015, I had sold my flat for 1.2cr in March 2026 Then I bought another flat for 76 lac in April 2026, Pls explain me the capital gain on the sale and purchase, also I request you to suggest ways to save my tax. Thanks
Ans: You have already taken a very good step by purchasing another residential flat immediately after selling the old one. This can help you save a substantial portion of capital gains tax.

» Nature of Capital Gain

Since the flat was purchased in 2015 and sold in March 2026, the gain will be treated as Long Term Capital Gain (LTCG)
LTCG on property is taxed at 20% with indexation benefit

» How Capital Gain is Calculated
Capital gain is not calculated simply as:
Sale Price – Purchase Price

You will get:

Indexed cost benefit on your original purchase cost
Deduction for eligible expenses like:
Registration charges
Brokerage
Major renovation/improvement expenses

This indexed cost significantly reduces taxable gain.

» Benefit of New Flat Purchase

You sold old property in March 2026
Bought new flat in April 2026 for Rs 76 lakh

This qualifies for exemption under Section 54.

Meaning:

Amount invested in new residential property can be reduced from capital gains

So your taxable capital gain will reduce substantially.

» Important Clarification

Tax exemption is linked to the capital gain amount, not entire sale value
If full capital gain is not invested, balance gain becomes taxable

» Additional Tax Saving Options
If any capital gain still remains taxable, you may consider:

Investing in specified Capital Gain Bonds within 6 months
This can further reduce tax liability

» Important Conditions

New property should not be sold within 3 years
Keep all purchase/sale documents safely
Maintain proof of payment and registration

» Finally

Your gain will be treated as Long Term Capital Gain
You will get indexation benefit
Purchase of new flat for Rs 76 lakh will help reduce tax significantly under Section 54
Remaining taxable gain, if any, can be managed through capital gain bonds

A proper indexed calculation by a Chartered Accountant will give exact tax liability.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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