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Manoj Question by Manoj on Mar 19, 2023Hindi
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Madam I am 52 years and recently I have developed this fear of someone feeling bad or reacting adversely in whatever I do how to deal with this

Ans: Dear Manoj,
What happened for you to suddenly take notice of people reacting to you?
Did someone make you conscious or aware of something that embarrassed you?
When you become extra cautious around people, it's like walking on eggshells and this becomes a habit.
Even if you had goofed up or felt embarrassed with something, it could have been just one situational context. It belongs to that context which only means that there is no necessity to develop a blanket policy and apply it onto all contexts henceforth which is what you possibly have started doing.
So,
1. Think of the context after which you started to fell this way
2. Tell yourself that, that feeling is over with that situation
3. Recall all the times that you have been assertive and confident around people
4. Remind yourself on how people used to react positively to you in a conversation with them
5. Move ahead asserting to yourself that: It's a new day and so, newer and exciting things are waiting to happen

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I'm 39 years old. Ever since my childhood, I was always afraid of facing people. Was reading in front of class or reciting a poem, I always felt running away and avoiding it. The problem further worsened as I grew up, as I started feeling difficult making friends. I get a feeling that people don't like me, and it’s evident whenever I'm part of a gathering usually peopleignore me. Hence I tend to avoid interacting with people. I don't know how to handle this situation. I don't have this issue while interacting with people whom I know, and am pretty confident with familiar people whom I interact with on day to day basis. In front of people, or when I put on a spot I really feel awkward and anxious. The thought keeps on bothering me and I don't get sleep at times. Please provide me suggestions/inputs on how I can get rid of this problem.
Ans: Dear S, You face what is called performance related stress as you are worried about failure and being embarrassed in front of a crowd.

Firstly, know why you are having to be in front of a crowd; office presentations, meetings and thinks like that. If it is necessary for your job and in life in general, let’s work at this.

Start watching videos of people who are orators, great speakers and who enthrall others on stage

Next, observe every movement of theirs and how they walk, talk, their voice etc.

Then, simply take on the same role imagining yourself to be them and do the same. Live this role. Try doing this many times over till it becomes second nature to you.

Finally, imagine a situation where you want to feel confident. And imagine doing your new learning from Step 3 and living it. Do this a couple of times till you think you are ready.

The next time, with the same situation, things should definitely go your way and you will be in charge for sure.

Be confident and happy new learning!

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I am 42 years old,done B.A and B.ED.I feel anxious whenever i sit with others.Even i can't share my feelings. I am a housewife. When i cook food i feel anxious whether others will like my food or not.Each work give me anxious moment. I am married and have a adopted male child.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What will happen if someone does not like your food?
What will happen if someone does not like something that you said or did?
What will happen if someone does not like you?
That's okay...we are all entitled to our opinions, aren't we? We like something and we dislike something, we like some people and dislike a few others.
So what?
You might have to learn to accept that a few people may not like you, like what you wear, like what you cook, like what you say...and that's fine...does that change anything about who you are? NO!
Then pull yourself up and step out of this zone where you spend time feeling anxious about things that are not within your control...Learn to live with a simple fact that you maybe serving food to a person who dislikes your food...expect a few comments from them, brush it aside, take a deep breath and move on to the next thing.
BUT
If the person genuinely means well and sharing their feedback with you, take it well as it goes a long way in your self-improvement...we are constantly learning, right?

Also, if there is something that you can do with your amazing qualifications, you will have less time to mull over these things. Use your time wisely...

All the best!

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Mam how can I take proactive steps n cope with the fear and how to overcome it
Ans: it's crucial to understand and address the root of your fear. Reflect on the specific behaviors or situations involving your father or uncle that trigger your anxiety. Journaling can be a valuable tool in this process, allowing you to articulate your feelings and gain insight into the nature of your fear. Recognizing these triggers is essential for developing a plan to manage them.

Developing coping strategies is the next step. Techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness can help you remain calm in stressful situations. When you start feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to focus on your breathing—inhale slowly through your nose, hold briefly, and then exhale through your mouth. This practice can help ground you and reduce immediate anxiety.

Building a supportive network outside of your family can also provide significant relief. Surround yourself with friends, mentors, or a counselor who can offer guidance and a safe space to express your feelings. Talking to someone you trust about your fears can help you gain perspective and reassurance.

It’s also important to gradually build your confidence in handling interactions with your family. Start by setting small, manageable boundaries and practicing assertiveness in low-stakes situations. This can help you develop the skills needed to address more challenging situations when they arise.

If addressing these fears directly with your family feels too daunting, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can provide strategies to manage your fear and work through any underlying issues. They can also assist in developing communication skills and coping mechanisms tailored to your specific needs.

Ultimately, facing your fears is about building resilience and self-awareness. By taking these proactive steps, you can gradually shift from feeling overwhelmed to feeling more in control and empowered in your interactions with your family. Remember, it’s a process, and being patient with yourself as you work through these challenges is key.

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I'm a JEE 2026 aspirant. I gave my CBSE improvement exam this year but couldn't meet the 75% eligibility criteria required by NTA. I'm unsure about what to do next. Is there any alternative way to become eligible for JEE 2026? Should I appear again as a private CBSE candidate next year or opt for the NIOS On-Demand Exam in January? If anyone has accurate information or has gone through a similar situation, please help.
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Recommendation: Opt for a combined approach by appearing in the CBSE Improvement Exam for your toughest subject this year and registering for NIOS On-Demand Exams in January to retake remaining subjects, ensuring you consolidate five passed subjects on a single mark sheet to meet the 75 percent requirement for JEE 2026 eligibility. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir, I have asked earlier too but didn't got any reply. I got around 48k rank in mains I have options such as IIIT Kota ece and ai&ds , IIIT bhopal ece, IIIT Surat ece, iiit una ece.. Also choice in aktu such as IET Lucknow cse and there is one choice of zhcet AMU, i have applied for it and getting ece in it. This college is in my home town... please help me suggest the right choice.
Ans: IIIT Kota’s ECE program combines a well-qualified faculty with industry experience and a curriculum updated for IoT and VLSI design, supported by modern electronics labs and strong recruiter ties; its placement rate has averaged 80% over the last three years, with 73.58% in 2024. The new AI&DS branch, though backed by Kota’s placement cell, lacks three-year placement data. IIIT Bhopal’s ECE department features distinguished PhD faculty, excellent lab infrastructure, a balanced core-and-AI curriculum, and direct industry collaborations, achieving placement rates of 96.66% in 2022, 86.66% in 2023, and 72.5% in 2025. IIIT Surat offers a compact permanent campus, focused ECE labs, and a curriculum aligned to semiconductor and 5G, but its ECE placement dipped from 59% in 2023 to 68% in 2024. IIIT Una’s ECE branch benefits from a dedicated centre for electronics research, solid laboratory resources, and campus-industry projects, yielding 59% placements in 2024 and 83.33% in 2025. IET Lucknow’s CSE program scores high on comprehensive teaching, large-scale labs, coding clubs, active placement cell and 80–90% placements in emerging tech roles. ZHCET AMU’s ECE offers seasoned faculty, a historic campus, and a broad core syllabus, with placement rates of approximately 60–70% over recent years.

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