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The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2024Hindi
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I am 42 years old,done B.A and B.ED.I feel anxious whenever i sit with others.Even i can't share my feelings. I am a housewife. When i cook food i feel anxious whether others will like my food or not.Each work give me anxious moment. I am married and have a adopted male child.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What will happen if someone does not like your food?
What will happen if someone does not like something that you said or did?
What will happen if someone does not like you?
That's okay...we are all entitled to our opinions, aren't we? We like something and we dislike something, we like some people and dislike a few others.
So what?
You might have to learn to accept that a few people may not like you, like what you wear, like what you cook, like what you say...and that's fine...does that change anything about who you are? NO!
Then pull yourself up and step out of this zone where you spend time feeling anxious about things that are not within your control...Learn to live with a simple fact that you maybe serving food to a person who dislikes your food...expect a few comments from them, brush it aside, take a deep breath and move on to the next thing.
BUT
If the person genuinely means well and sharing their feedback with you, take it well as it goes a long way in your self-improvement...we are constantly learning, right?

Also, if there is something that you can do with your amazing qualifications, you will have less time to mull over these things. Use your time wisely...

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I'm 39 years old. Ever since my childhood, I was always afraid of facing people. Was reading in front of class or reciting a poem, I always felt running away and avoiding it. The problem further worsened as I grew up, as I started feeling difficult making friends. I get a feeling that people don't like me, and it’s evident whenever I'm part of a gathering usually peopleignore me. Hence I tend to avoid interacting with people. I don't know how to handle this situation. I don't have this issue while interacting with people whom I know, and am pretty confident with familiar people whom I interact with on day to day basis. In front of people, or when I put on a spot I really feel awkward and anxious. The thought keeps on bothering me and I don't get sleep at times. Please provide me suggestions/inputs on how I can get rid of this problem.
Ans: Dear S, You face what is called performance related stress as you are worried about failure and being embarrassed in front of a crowd.

Firstly, know why you are having to be in front of a crowd; office presentations, meetings and thinks like that. If it is necessary for your job and in life in general, let’s work at this.

Start watching videos of people who are orators, great speakers and who enthrall others on stage

Next, observe every movement of theirs and how they walk, talk, their voice etc.

Then, simply take on the same role imagining yourself to be them and do the same. Live this role. Try doing this many times over till it becomes second nature to you.

Finally, imagine a situation where you want to feel confident. And imagine doing your new learning from Step 3 and living it. Do this a couple of times till you think you are ready.

The next time, with the same situation, things should definitely go your way and you will be in charge for sure.

Be confident and happy new learning!

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Hello Sir, Good Morning. Is it advisable to buy gold jewellery for my Son's marriage in the next 8 years at current market price of approx Rs.14000 per gram. The plan is to buy around 100 grams to be given to the prospective bride at the time of marriage, which is as per our practice. If I deposit money to a gold jeweller, who will credit equivalent gold weight as per today's value and after 11 months we can buy jewellery without wastage, making charges and gst. Kindly advice. Thanks
Ans: Your planning for your son’s marriage well in advance is thoughtful and practical. It shows responsibility and care for family traditions. Planning 8 years ahead gives you good flexibility and control.

» Purpose clarity and time horizon
– The objective is very clear: buying around 100 grams of gold jewellery for marriage after 8 years
– This is not a short-term need, so timing and structure matter more than current gold price
– Gold here is a requirement asset, not just an investment, so risk control is important

» Buying gold at current price – assessment
– Buying all 100 grams today at around Rs.14000 per gram locks your price, but also locks your capital
– Gold prices move in cycles; they do not rise in a straight line
– Over 8 years, gold can give protection against inflation, but short- to medium-term corrections are common
– Putting a large amount at one price level reduces flexibility and increases timing risk

» Jeweller gold deposit / gold savings plan – evaluation
– Monthly deposit plans with jewellers are mainly designed for jewellery purchase, not pure wealth creation
– Benefits you rightly noticed:

No wastage charges

No making charges

No GST on jewellery value
– Key risks and limitations to be aware of:

You are fully dependent on the jeweller’s business stability for 11 months

Your money is not regulated like financial products

You cannot easily exit or switch if your plan changes
– These plans work well for near-term purchases, but for an 8-year goal, repeating such plans many times increases counterparty risk

» Price risk vs goal certainty
– Your real risk is not price volatility alone, but availability of gold at the time of marriage
– The goal needs certainty of value and timely availability
– A staggered and disciplined approach reduces regret from buying at market highs

» Smarter way to structure the 8-year plan
– Avoid buying the full 100 grams immediately
– Spread accumulation over time to reduce price risk
– Use a mix of:

Financial gold-linked options for long-term accumulation

Physical jewellery purchase only closer to the marriage date
– This keeps liquidity, improves transparency, and avoids storage and purity worries

» Jewellery purchase timing insight
– Jewellery designs, preferences of the bride, and family choices can change over 8 years
– Buying finished jewellery too early limits flexibility
– It is usually better to convert accumulated value into jewellery in the last 12–18 months

» Risk management and safety points
– Avoid keeping large sums with a single jeweller repeatedly over many years
– Avoid emotional decisions driven by headlines about gold prices
– Keep documentation, purity standards, and exit options clear

» Tax and cost perspective
– When gold is used as jewellery for marriage, taxation is not the primary concern
– Hidden costs like storage, insurance, and loss risk matter more than headline price

» Finally
– Your intention is correct, and starting early gives you strength
– Buying some gold gradually is sensible, but avoid locking the entire requirement at one price today
– Jeweller deposit schemes can be used selectively, closer to purchase time, not as a long-term parking option
– A phased, balanced approach gives cost control, safety, and peace of mind for a very important family milestone

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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My father has just got retired. He has an outstanding home loan of Rs. 18 lakh which has 51000/- as emi. His pension is also 51000/-. His monthly expense are 20,000/-. He received gratuity of Rs. 18 lakh. What he should do either set off his home loan so that his pension is saved from emi burden or anything else ? He is also interested in investing money.. but At this time of his age , he looks for low to moderate risk plans. Guide him/me to step up his financial status.
Ans: Your father has entered a very important phase of life with stable pension income, controlled expenses, and a meaningful lump sum in hand. This gives a good base to make calm and sensible decisions. With the right steps, financial comfort and peace of mind are very much achievable.
» Understanding the Current Cash Flow Situation
– Monthly pension and home loan EMI are equal, which means the entire pension is getting blocked
– Monthly household expenses are modest and manageable
– The home loan is the only major liability
– Gratuity amount is sufficient to fully address the loan if required
This situation calls for prioritising certainty, emotional comfort, and steady income rather than chasing high returns.
» Priority of Debt Clearance at Retirement
– At retirement, protecting regular income becomes more important than growing wealth aggressively
– When EMI equals pension, it creates mental pressure and reduces flexibility
– Clearing the home loan removes interest burden and frees the pension fully for living expenses
– Being debt-free at retirement brings emotional relief, which is a big but often ignored benefit
From a Certified Financial Planner’s perspective, clearing the home loan using gratuity is a strong and sensible step in this case.
» Impact of Closing the Home Loan
– Pension of Rs. 51,000 becomes fully available
– After expenses of around Rs. 20,000, there is monthly surplus
– No dependency on investment returns to meet daily needs
– Lower stress during market ups and downs
This creates a solid foundation before thinking about investments.
» Investing After Loan Closure
– Do not invest the entire gratuity at once
– Keep sufficient amount in safe and liquid avenues for emergencies
– Investment should focus on capital protection first, income second, and growth last
– Avoid locking money for long periods
At this age, investments should support life, not control it.
» Suitable Risk Approach at This Stage
– Low to moderate risk is appropriate and practical
– Portfolio should be spread across stable income options and carefully chosen growth-oriented mutual funds
– Avoid aggressive strategies or return promises
– Regular review is more important than high returns
Actively managed mutual funds are better suited here as they adjust to market conditions and manage downside risks, which is important post-retirement.
» Creating Monthly Income and Stability
– Use part of surplus pension for simple, planned investments
– Keep some amount invested for inflation protection
– Maintain enough liquidity to avoid forced withdrawals
– Do not depend fully on markets for monthly expenses
This balanced approach gives income comfort and gradual wealth support.
» Emergency and Health Planning
– Keep at least one year of expenses in easily accessible form
– Ensure health insurance is active and adequate
– Avoid using investments for unexpected medical needs
This protects long-term investments from early disruption.
» Role of Discipline and Guidance
– Avoid reacting to short-term market movements
– Stick to simple, understandable products
– Investing through a regular plan with guidance ensures monitoring, behavioural support, and timely corrections
At this stage, guidance matters more than saving small costs.
» Final Insights
– Closing the home loan is the first and most sensible move
– Debt-free retirement improves quality of life and decision-making
– Investments should follow stability-first thinking
– A calm, structured approach will protect capital and provide confidence
Your concern for your father’s future is thoughtful and responsible. With these steps, he can enjoy retirement with dignity, peace, and financial comfort.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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