I’m married for 14 years and have a 12 yr old son, both working.
It was love marriage but before marriage explained me that leaving her ex from her college as it was not true love.
After these 14 years, I came to know that they were having physical relation as well and the same hurt me very hard and couldn’t focus on anything and difficult to believe that with whom I spent 14 yr and still there is something can be hidden.
Thats not all, on domestic issues whenever we have argument on household work/ expenses/ guiding son on studying etc, if she is not able to answer or didn’t like my response couldn’t control her anger, she tried to stangle me, beat me up, slapping, pour water/ hot tea on me, also not to mention abusing me in front of my son.
Also many times she threatened to end her life by taking a knife in hand or by closing door to attempt hanging. That’s why bedroom & washroom door locks are broken in my house.
Due to all these I left house twice in these years but due to her repeated apology and affection to my son I returned.
Now I think all these are unbearable and need to take some step for resolution.
Also as my son is old enough to understand all happenings don’t want ruin his life with all these nuisance.
Humble request to advice as I’m under tremendous pain.
Ans: Violence in any form is unacceptable and alone th reason to walk out of the relationship. No one should ensure violence , disrespect or manipulation in any relationship and in your case there are all three of them. In my opinion, you should walk out of this marriage given your partner has proven there's no change at her end.