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Life, Relationship Coach - Answered on Jan 16, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 16, 2023Hindi
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Hi Pooja My husband and I were going through a tough time during the lockdown and I got in touch with an old friend. Both of us are married and have a history with each other. We knew each other since we were young. We got involved physically and although we are mature adults, we do long for each other. But there are kids and much as we'd want to be together, we can't afford to take this relationship forward. We have limited our communication but it is getting harder by the day because we do love each other. Is this normal? What do you generally advice someone in a situation like this? How do we deal with this situation better?

Ans: Hi Anonymous. The very fact that you have fallen in love outside the marriage is a strong indicator that your marriage isn't fulfilling or a relationship that is giving you the love you deserve. You can wither choose to consult a professional relationship/ marriage coach to help you rebuild the marriage or you would need to take a decision to move out of it. Staying in the marriage only because of your kids is doing injustice to them as well as children see and understand they are living with unhappy parents and they will eventually tell you not to. If you feel that you and your friend truly love each other, then have an honest discussion about next steps and if you are both ready to take it forward. There is nothing abnormal about falling in love with another person but where do you want to take the relationship to is a choice you will need to make, sooner or later.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 27, 2024Hindi
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Hello there Ravi, I am married with one teenager son. My hubby has a hi profile job. About a year ago, I became friends with a married man and we connected really well and it was a great friendship we had. About half a year ago that we decided to disconnect with each other mutually. It was just a very simple but amazingly thick friendship. And all the more reason to part ways. Even though so much time has passed, there are some memories that I cannot erase and I find that we still look out for each other too. He left a huge impact on me and even though am able to move on from him majorly, I still crash into him ( we don’t talk now) or his family and the memories of our friendship comes back to me. Earlier I used to shed a tear daily on losing him as a friend now I don’t though but since he’s always around I find it difficult to forget him fully.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand it's difficult to lose a friend. Friendships are important and it is not uncommon to have lingering feelings even if he was just a friend. It happens with most deep friendships. However, right now it is essential to prioritize your current relationships and commitments, including your marriage and family and most importantly, yourself.

I suggest you focus on the present and be grateful for the friendship you experienced. Remind yourself of the reason you decided to sever ties; it must have been important to be worth losing a great friend. Engage in self-care. Find new friends. Not all friendships will be thick but having friends is essential to live a healthy life.

Remember, it takes time to move on, even if it is from a friendship. Allow yourself that time. There is no need to rush through the process. If you find these feelings persisting, seeing a counselor can help you get through it in a more structured way. Nevertheless, you are doing great yourself!

Best Wishes.

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Apr 04, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi
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i need guidance. i am 63 yrs with housing loan of 70lakh. Only asset is a house with market value 2 crore. i have 2 daughters to be married. I need to retire and start my practice as doctor. Guie me to a investment to live with 30000 monthly and to buy a house 0f 8 lakhs after disposing the property/ Presently earning 1.5L per month. pl suggest. shud i sell the property
Ans: Your situation requires a well-thought-out financial strategy. You have a housing loan of Rs 70 lakh, a house worth Rs 2 crore, and a need for Rs 30,000 per month after retirement. Additionally, you plan to buy a house worth Rs 8 lakh and have two daughters to be married. Below is a structured approach to help you achieve financial stability.

Selling the Property – A Necessary Step?
Selling your house is a practical option. Your outstanding loan is Rs 70 lakh, and the house is worth Rs 2 crore.

After repaying the loan, you will have Rs 1.3 crore. This can be used for investments and future expenses.

If you continue living in this house, EMIs will be a burden. Selling will free you from debt and give you financial stability.

Consider renting a home instead of buying again. This will keep more money available for investments.

Buying a House for Rs 8 Lakh
If you want to buy a smaller house for Rs 8 lakh, use only a small portion of your funds.

Avoid taking another loan. Pay for the house in full from the sale proceeds.

Ensure the house is in a location with good facilities, medical access, and safety.

Creating an Investment Plan for Rs 1.3 Crore
After selling your house and clearing the loan, you will need an investment plan.

Keep Rs 10-15 lakh in a bank FD or liquid mutual funds. This will act as an emergency fund.

Invest Rs 30-40 lakh in debt mutual funds. These provide stability and liquidity.

Invest Rs 50 lakh in equity mutual funds for long-term wealth growth. Use regular plans with a Certified Financial Planner.

Keep Rs 10-15 lakh in a balanced fund for moderate returns with lower risk.

Generating Rs 30,000 Monthly Income
Debt mutual funds can provide a stable withdrawal option. Withdraw systematically for monthly expenses.

Use a mix of dividend and growth options. This ensures you get both regular income and capital appreciation.

Equity funds will provide growth, helping you sustain your money for 20-25 years.

Managing Daughters’ Marriage Expenses
If you need Rs 20-30 lakh for each daughter’s wedding, set aside Rs 40-60 lakh from the sale proceeds.

Invest this amount in a mix of debt and equity funds. This will help you reach your goal in a few years.

Avoid withdrawing from your retirement corpus for wedding expenses.

Starting Your Medical Practice
If you plan to start a medical practice, keep Rs 10-20 lakh for setting it up.

Avoid heavy investments in infrastructure initially. Work from an existing clinic or shared space.

Ensure you have medical indemnity insurance to protect yourself.

Final Insights
Selling your house will give you financial freedom and remove loan pressure.

Invest wisely to generate a steady monthly income and secure your daughters' futures.

Do not invest in real estate again. Keep your funds liquid and flexible.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner to review your investments regularly.

Focus on financial security rather than high-risk investments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Apr 03, 2025

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Dear Sir, I am 47 years old IT professional. My current salary is 1.5 lakhs per month. I have a daughter who just completed her 10th board exam. My corpus is around 1.6Cr FD&PPF; 30 lakhs in MF & stocks; 50 lakhs in EPF. I have no debt and living in my own house. Please suggest if I can plan for retirement
Ans: Your financial position is strong, and planning for retirement at 47 is a smart decision. Below is a detailed 360-degree approach to assess whether you can retire comfortably and how to ensure financial security.

Understanding Your Current Financial Position
Income: Rs 1.5 lakh per month.

Corpus:

Rs 1.6 crore in Fixed Deposits (FD) and Public Provident Fund (PPF).

Rs 30 lakh in mutual funds and stocks.

Rs 50 lakh in Employees' Provident Fund (EPF).

Liabilities: No debts.

Assets: Own house, ensuring no rent or EMI burden.

Family Responsibility:

Daughter has just completed the 10th board exam.

Higher education expenses need to be planned.

Key Considerations Before Retirement
Expected Retirement Age

If you plan to retire early (before 55), corpus sustainability needs careful assessment.

If you work till 60, it will provide a larger financial cushion.

Post-Retirement Expenses

Living expenses, healthcare, travel, and lifestyle costs must be considered.

Inflation will increase future expenses.

Daughter’s Education

Higher education costs are significant.

Corpus should cover both education and retirement without compromise.

Medical Expenses

Health costs increase with age.

A high health insurance cover is essential.

Wealth Growth vs. Safety

A mix of equity and debt investments ensures growth while preserving capital.

Excessive reliance on FDs and PPF may limit long-term wealth accumulation.

Assessing If You Can Retire Comfortably
Current Corpus Size

Rs 2.4 crore (excluding house) is a strong starting point.

But, inflation will reduce its real value over time.

Expected Corpus Growth

Investments in mutual funds and stocks should continue to grow.

PPF and EPF offer stable but lower returns.

Withdrawals Post-Retirement

Sustainable withdrawals should not deplete the corpus too soon.

A balanced investment strategy is required.

Gaps in Planning

Heavy reliance on FDs and PPF may not be ideal.

More equity exposure can ensure inflation-beating returns.

Steps to Strengthen Your Retirement Plan
1. Optimising Investment Strategy
Continue investing in mutual funds with a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Reduce dependence on FDs for long-term needs.

Equity mutual funds help counter inflation and grow wealth.

Avoid index funds as they provide average returns without active management.

Regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) offer expert monitoring.

Diversify investments between equity, debt, and fixed-income products.

2. Planning for Daughter’s Education
Higher education costs can be Rs 30-50 lakh in the next 5-7 years.

Separate this goal from your retirement plan.

Increase equity investment to build an education corpus.

Avoid withdrawing from retirement savings for education.

3. Building a Healthcare Safety Net
Health insurance should cover at least Rs 30-50 lakh.

Consider super top-up plans for additional coverage.

Maintain an emergency medical fund to cover non-insured expenses.

Review insurance policies periodically.

4. Creating a Sustainable Withdrawal Plan
Avoid withdrawing a large portion of the corpus in early retirement years.

Keep at least 5 years of expenses in liquid assets.

Equity exposure should reduce gradually as retirement progresses.

Use dividends and interest income before selling assets.

Final Insights
Retirement is possible, but adjustments are needed for long-term security.

Continue investing aggressively for the next few years.

Ensure daughter's education is planned separately.

Review investments and insurance regularly.

Keep flexibility in withdrawal strategy post-retirement.

A structured plan will ensure a financially secure and comfortable retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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