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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 10, 2023Hindi
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My hubby says i should obey him for living happily with him, he will not give divorce and is a responsible father. Im a working woman who is capable of taking decisions without his support financially and emotionally. The big problem is he neither talks to me nor is interested in me but still values marriage and a wife who will be for society. I cannot see any reason to obey him in 21st century, so what should I do?

Ans: In my opinion, having to follow someone's instructions shouldn't be the case for anyone. Forcing your spouse or partner to obey you is a sure shot recipe for the downfall of a relationship. The only way out is to discuss with him peacefully, put your point of view forward and if that also doesn't work then either a marriage counsellor or a coach can guide you. In case he doesn't want to go for counselling as well and you already feeling suffocated then the relationship is unlikely to heal.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 08, 2023Hindi
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i had a love marriage 20 years back. we were in a relationship for 3years before that. but after marriage i realised the harsh reality. though we are in the same field, he prefers that i do all the househld work. we have two children 17 and 12 years old. he has also started neglecting his health. after work his only work is to sit on sofa , watch tv. he has gained a lot of weight, has started eating pan masala which i dislike. we also had no sex for the last four years. when confronted he always says that he is in no mood. last year i came in contact with his friend and once we had sex too. but the sad part is i dont really feel guilty about it. i have tried many times to talk to my husband about our sex life but he always ignores and put the blame on me that i have started growing old. however hard i try he is not able to have a erection, this frustrates me even more. he is very dominating at home too. what should i do ? everytime i try to think to move out of that marriage but am afraid of the society. since he is very caring in front of others. am worried about the kids too. please help what should i do? there is no use of talking to him, i have tried it many times. he is not ready to go to any councellor too.
Ans: It sounds like you are facing some serious challenges in your marriage and that you are feeling frustrated, unhappy, and trapped. It's important to remember that you are not alone and that many people find themselves in similar situations.

Here are some steps you can consider taking:

Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your situation. Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with support and guidance.

Take care of yourself: Make time for self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and peace. This can help you manage stress and cope with the challenges you're facing.

Consider couples therapy: Even if your husband is not willing to attend therapy, consider seeking therapy for yourself. A therapist can help you understand your feelings and emotions and provide you with strategies for coping with the situation.

Be honest with yourself: It's important to be honest with yourself about your feelings and needs. If you are unhappy in your marriage and feel that it's unlikely to improve, it's okay to consider leaving the relationship.

Make a plan: If you decide that leaving the marriage is the best option, make a plan for how you will do so in a safe and practical manner. Consider the impact on your children and plan for their care and well-being.

Seek legal advice: If you decide to leave the marriage, consider seeking legal advice to understand your rights and responsibilities.

Remember, leaving a long-term relationship is a big decision and can be a difficult process. It's important to take the time to consider your options and seek support from trusted friends, family members, and professionals.

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Hello maam i am married since 18 years and since last 5 years my husband is not earning but my in laws are well to do me and my husband are in a relation where we end up quarrelling even if we have converstion of 2 mins i am financially independent and have son of 14 years but he is truely in influence of his father i dont have parents nor a sibling i dont know what to do i sometimes feel if i leave my husband and if i fail in my job than what about my future my age is 38 in all my surroundings i have seen all husband take care and responsiblity of their wife but my husband is totally self centered and the most pathetic thing is he does not even realize this please suggest what can be done
Ans: Dear Richa,
You are financially independent and any decision you take for your life will be based on that, right?
Who knows what the future hold and one can only be hopeful that all that is done in the present times yield a good result in future.
So, whatever decision you want to take, do that keeping what it is right now...also, have faith in your capability to earn and hold your head high BUT do give your marriage a fair chance considering your son may also get rattled by any harsh decision. Do you not feel that it is time to actually confront your husband. What is he planning on doing? Sitting and waiting for something to happen for him?
He has possibly got into a place where it is comfortable not to work and things happen around him for him and everyone else. So, there really is no need for him to lift a finger. Urge your in-laws to talk to him and drive some sense into him. If he still makes no move to get proactive and take on his part of responsibilities within the marriage, think about how long and how far you want to go with this. A bit of coaching/therapy can help, but only if he willing to see that it's needed for him. More than anything, I want you to have faith in yourself and play to your strengths.

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 21, 2024Hindi
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I am married for past 2 years it's an arranged marriage. On the first night of marriage my husband told me that he is in love with someone else I was fine with it then when I told my family they asked me to stop being a fool and try to build this marriage. In these 2 years I have been strictly checking his phone asking for his location as advised by his father still he has never touched me . We never talk and i have lost interest in trying after 1 year .I like living with him as I get freedom even though there is no relationship between us I live in joint family and if I go back and take divorce they will get me married again soon . Why should I do !? Should I leave him as he is still in love with someone. Or should I enjoy my freedom. I have asked him to not ask me anything about my life and i will never ask anything to him about his life... please help ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your first goof-up was being okay with a person who said that he loves someone else.
Your second goof-up was trying to make the marriage work by doing what your father-in-law wanted you to do (check phone).

In both cases, you placed HOPE over your common sense. Maybe it did not occur to you that you are stepping into a world that may never let you live a normal married life?

Now, my question to you is: What freedom are you talking about? This same freedom will someday come back to haunt you as there is no family system that you are part of, no relationships to be part of...Is this okay with you?

Marriages or Life partnerships are not like: you mind your own business and I will mind mine. There is communication, trust, mutual respect, love, affection, giving-receiving...do you think your marriage will have this OR can the two of you work towards this? If YES, give it your best shot else, you really must think: What do I want for and in my life?

All the best!
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I am 37 year old Commerce Graduate. I was in an unorganized business, which cannot be pursued any farther. Will it be wise to do CPA at this age without formal experience in Accounting, for a decent job? Is there any other course to pursue?
Ans: Amit Sir, A CPA (Certified Public Accountant) at the age of 37 can be a viable option for those without formal accounting experience. The CPA is a globally recognized certification that can open doors to various roles in accounting, auditing, and finance. It provides a solid foundation and increases credibility in the finance or accounting industry. However, there are challenges, such as the learning curve and experience requirements.

To overcome these, you could supplement with basic accounting courses and work experience. Alternative courses you can consider include Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA), Financial Risk Management (FRM), Certified Management Accountant (CMA), Post Graduate Diploma in Management (PGDM) or MBA, and Digital Marketing or E-Commerce.

CFA and FRM are globally recognized credentials that can lead to roles in finance, investment banking, or wealth management. CMA professionals are in high demand in banks, investment firms, and large corporations. MBAs can help transition into management or higher-level positions, while digital marketing or e-commerce can offer opportunities for entrepreneurship and business growth.

Age should not be a barrier for you in pursuing any course or certification. Leveraging prior experience, such as management, customer relations, and strategic thinking, can also benefit a corporate role. In conclusion, pursuing a CPA at the age of 37 is a viable option, but preparation and experience are essential.

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sir i am commerce gratuate prepared 2 years for CA coul'd not succeed what are the diff career op for me
Ans: Shri, Some basic reasons for failing CA exams include poor time management, inadequate conceptual clarity, poor presentation skills, neglecting revision, and lack of practice with mock exams. To improve, create a realistic study schedule, focus on crucial topics, practice time-bound mock tests, and use reference books and ICAI study materials. Practice structured answers and follow ICAI language to align with exam expectations. Avoid rote learning and focus on understanding the "why" and "how" behind concepts. Take multiple mock tests and review performance critically to identify weak areas. Stay motivated by setting short-term goals and rewarding yourself for achieving them.

Despite not clearing the CA exams, there are numerous fulfilling career paths for commerce graduates. Some of these include the following, out of which you can choose the most suitable for you and you are interested in:

Financial Analyst/Investment Banking involves financial analysis, research, and dealing with securities, stocks, and bonds. Tax Consultant/Tax Advisor offers tax planning, compliance, and advisory services. Financial Planner/Wealth Manager helps manage finances and long-term wealth goals. MBA can lead to leadership roles in marketing, HR, finance, operations, and entrepreneurship. Banking and Insurance offers stability and growth opportunities. Entrepreneurship requires strong initiative and risk tolerance. Accounting and Audit roles enhance job prospects globally. Digital Marketing, Data Analytics, Human Resources, Stock Market Trading, Corporate Law, and Public Sector Jobs offer job security, stability, and benefits.

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My son is doing BBA( 1st year.) Which extra course help him future.
Ans: Shubham Sir, The BBA degree is a strong foundation for a career in management, business, and entrepreneurship. To enhance his skills and employability, consider taking additional courses that align with his interests and career aspirations. General skills for business and management include data analytics and business intelligence, digital marketing, financial modeling and investment analysis, project management, communication and soft skills, and industry-specific skills like finance, marketing, entrepreneurship, supply chain and operations, and human resources. Technical skills include basic coding and IT skills, accounting software, artificial intelligence and machine learning for business, and cybersecurity basics.

Certifications and competitive exams can add value to his resume, such as Google, Microsoft, and Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA). Global business awareness is crucial, and practical experience is essential. Internships in industries of interest and participating in startup incubators or entrepreneurship contests can provide practical exposure. A suggested roadmap for a successful BBA career includes focusing on foundational skills, gaining technical knowledge, starting internships or part-time projects, and preparing for competitive exams like GMAT or certifications like CFA.

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My daughter studying bsc biotechnology 1st semester please suggest me about her future career
Ans: The decision by your daughter to pursue a BSc in Biotechnology opens up a wide range of career opportunities in diverse and rapidly growing fields. After completing her BSc, she can either pursue further education or enter the job market directly. Options include MSc in Biotechnology (or Related Fields), MBA in Biotechnology/Healthcare Management, PhD in Biotechnology, PG Diploma Courses, and pursuing a master's degree in top countries for biotechnology.

After BSc, she can work in various sectors and roles, such as lab technician, research assistant, quality control analyst, healthcare and pharmaceuticals, agricultural biotechnology, environmental biotechnology, food and beverage industry, bioinformatics, government jobs, or entrepreneurship. High-paying and in-demand fields include medical biotechnology, bioinformatics, industrial biotechnology, agricultural biotechnology, environmental biotechnology, and genetic engineering.

The best study and career locations for MSc/PhD are IISc Bangalore, IITs (Kharagpur, Kanpur), JNU Delhi, University of Hyderabad, and government initiatives like DBT (Department of Biotechnology). Skills she should develop include technical skills, research and analytical skills, soft skills, and certifications.

To build a strong foundation in core biotechnology subjects, she should participate in internships or summer research projects. After BSc, she should prepare for entrance exams, network, and consider financial considerations.

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Confused about the future after doing bsc biotechnology. In which subject I should do msc ? Ok india or abroad? Which biotechnology sector have high paying jobs ?
Ans: Biotechnology is a promising field with numerous career paths. Choosing the right specialization and study destination depends on interests, career goals, and financial considerations. Some popular specializations include Biotechnology, Microbiology, Biochemistry, Bioinformatics, Food Technology, Environmental Biotechnology, Medical Biotechnology, Genetic Engineering, and Industrial Biotechnology. Studying in India offers affordable education, access to reputed institutions, and a growing biotech industry. Abroad offers exposure to advanced research and technologies, higher-paying jobs, and better industry connections. High-paying sectors in biotechnology include pharmaceuticals and biopharma, healthcare and diagnostics, bioinformatics, industrial biotechnology, agricultural biotechnology, and environmental biotechnology. High-paying countries for biotechnology careers include the USA, Germany, Canada, Singapore, and India.

For those looking for cutting-edge research and higher-paying jobs, consider studying abroad in countries like the USA, Germany, or Canada. For those preferring affordable education and a long-term plan to settle in India, pursue MSc in a specialized field from top Indian institutes. Opt for fields like Bioinformatics, Medical Biotechnology, or Industrial Biotechnology, which offer the best combination of high salaries and demand. All the BEST for your Prosperous Future.

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Sir Greetings! is it true that now UGC wont differentiate rather treats equally both regular and correspondence degree or PG. Even correspondence students are eligible and apply for both govt and private sector jobs. I heard even companies need to accept correspondence degree done in India. Sir please clarify without any ambiguity in this regard. This is Q has been bothering me for quite sometime
Ans: Anirvinna, The University Grants Commission (UGC) and other regulatory bodies in India have made significant efforts to ensure that distance education degrees are treated as equivalent to regular degrees. The UGC states that degrees obtained through distance or online education from recognized institutions are equivalent to regular degrees, applicable for both government and private sector jobs. The Distance Education Bureau (DEB) ensures the quality of distance education programs and oversees compliance. Distance education degrees are valid for all government jobs, professional courses, and private sector acceptance. However, some organizations may prioritize candidates with regular degrees for certain roles due to perceptions of classroom rigor or networking opportunities. The UGC has encouraged universities to offer quality online programs, reducing the stigma associated with correspondence education. To enhance career prospects, consider pursuing correspondence programs from well-reputed institutions with strong alumni networks and industry connections. All the BEST for your Prosperous Future.

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