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Anonyomus Question by Anonyomus on Feb 09, 2023Hindi
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Why relationship sours when woman earns more than man?

Ans: How one partner views the financial status of the other and how the couple handles it is very personal. If financial status is a cause of concern in the relationship, then both partners need to take a hard look at the equation to determine if they are happy in the relationship, is the relationship meeting their expectations as individuals or partners.

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Hi Ravi. My husband is 37 yo. He had a career downfall a couple of years earlier, and now is just able to stay afloat. Compared to others his age, he is earning a meagre 50k a month. My in-laws are very well to do. My brother in law as well is exceptional in his career. This makes me very insecure. When I bring it up to my husband that he should be earning much more, etc, he gets angry and retaliates saying money isn't everything and he has utmost respect at work. All these are hollow words to me being said by someone who is not excelling at work. I would also like to add that I am 31 and also earning 50k. I can understand he had a career downfall, due to which today hes a compromised position. But what pains me is that he doesn't realise how slow and behind he is as compared to others. How can I get over my bitter feelings?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your perspective and your feelings are valid. Having said that, I would like to remind you that it is unkind to draw comparisons between people- repeatedly reminding your husband about his career downfall, or his brother's and parent's success will do no good, rather it will hurt him irreparably. And I am sure he didn't bring about this downfall intentionally. As long as both of you are leading a happy and comfortable life, comparing your life to others or comparing your financial status to others will do you or your husband no good. It's not easy to pull yourself up; support him, and motivate him, but do not remind him that he's earning way less than others- rest assured, he knows that and possibly beats himself up for it without your knowledge. I am sure he will prosper soon.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 16, 2024Hindi
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I am 21. I am a chronic overthinker. I am always thinking about what other people think about me or overanalysing situations and making things complicated. Is this a serious problem? What should I do?
Ans: Dear overthinker,

Thinking is a good trait to have, overthinking is not.

You literally have to STOP overthinking!!!

One way to overcome this is to stop thinking and become more action oriented. STOP analyzing everything in the head, put it on paper, there is something calming about putting thoughts on paper, writing them down with a pen and paper.
And then taking actions based on what you have written and no more thinking about it.

Indulge in physical activity, play a game which is more action oriented , this teaches you to be fully present in the moment, which helps you in being in the moment. Being fully present in the moment is what gets you out of overthinking.
Do meditate , I really can't enumerate all the benefits of meditation, what meditation does to people is beyond words.

There is a book called as, STOP OVERTHINKING by Nick Trenton, this book offers practical advice and exercises to help you break free from negative thoughts and worries. It provides evidence-based methods to combat overthinking and anxiety.

Another amazing book by Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of NOW", can help you.

There is no problem which can't be overcome, believe in yourself, you are more powerful than you think, the body and mind have to listen to you!!
What you think so you become, feed yourself the right thoughts and let the magic unfold.!!

All the best!!

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My manager is constantly manipulating his boss about me. Everyone in my team is aware that she is increasingly insecure about my success and feels threatened by me. She often gives incorrect and incomplete feedback due to which my manager feels that my manager is more efficient than I am. In the past, 4 people have quit or been foced to resign due to these politics. Should I also quit and move to another company or should I talk to the manager about this? Pls help
Ans: Hi!!

When I was working in the corporate world, the oft repeated quote was, "people don't leave the company ,they leave bad bosses".
Your manager's boss is your super boss, rt? Can't you go and speak to him directly and put your concerns across?
I am sure the HR must have noticed that people are quitting and might have explored the reasons why they are doing so too, do check with them.
I fail to understand why women should not cooperate with each other. You can also explore the option of talking directly to the manager and telling her if your actions in any way have caused some misunderstanding and if she says yes then you are willing to clear them. Also tell her that you are not eyeing her post and you are just trying to do your job well. I did the same with one of my bosses, it worked for me, we became the best of friends, we are still in touch. You need to think which is your best option and choose one from all the possible solutions I have mentioned. You can always quit, that's the last option I feel..

Hoping you choose wisely..All the very best!!

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my son is 8 year old studying in Class 3 . The classes occus is in morning shift from 6.30 am to 1.30 PM . after comming from the scholl he tired and not able to study in night . plz suggest the Correct time table for the second shift school child so that we can manage his tiredness and keep improving him in balanced way.
Ans: Priya Madam,

You have not provided information regarding the number of hours your son sleeps.

(1) Given that your son is only 8 years old, it is important to ensure he gets a minimum of 8 hours of sleep at night and 2 hours in the afternoon. Sleeping hours can be reduced once he enters the 6th Standard.

(2) Ensure he receives a balanced diet and nutritious food to sustain his energy levels. (3) Encourage him to maintain regular water intake to prevent dehydration. (4) Facilitate opportunities for him to take regular breaks and engage in play. (5) A 3rd standard student can't study for extended periods. He should study for 25 to 30 minutes, followed by a 10 to 15-minute break after each 25-minute study session.

(6) I am providing this information for general awareness. Parents should refrain from physically assaulting their children to achieve compliance, as this can undermine their self-confidence. (7) They should engage in more polite and loving communication with the children. (8) Children frequently observe their parents and tend to emulate their actions. Ensure that the environment at home is tranquil. (9) Addiction to electronic gadgets may also result in fatigue. (10) Regarding the Study Planner, it has been previously stated that regardless of whether he studies in the morning or evening, he should engage in study sessions of 25 minutes followed by a 10-minute break after each session. He will not experience fatigue, and the output will be increased. Hope, this answer will help you, Madam.

All the BEST for Your Prosperous Son's Future.

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