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Hemantkumar Question by Hemantkumar on Jan 30, 2023Hindi
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Dear Pooja, How can someone with social anxiety make their partner happy if it’s hard for them to go out on dates?

Ans: Hi there! If you are someone that has social anxiety then the first and most important step is to make your partner understand what exactly is that you face and experience. An honest, transparent and upfront communication where you and your partner both can speak their hearts out without any fear is the first and foremost step. If you feel that none of your attempts are working then counselling is a very good way where the coach our counsellor like me will help partners understand each other. You could also jointly look at choosing the kind of places where both of you would be happy & comfortable. E.g. In some people with social anxiety, I have seen that lesser crowded restaurants or open spaces work instead of loud, full places. So in case there are places like this you could both jointly identify and be together should help as well.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 21, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 20, 2023Hindi
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hi , I am a 40 year old man with 2 kids and wife , aged parents .Financially and health wise i am doing good and working in a reputed mnc. My relationship with parents , wife ,kids and siblings is in good spirits . however i am an introvert and don't have many friends .while i had friends in childhood and youth however they have moved in there life .i want to have an improved social life and also have joined a course to improve social skills and more strong relationship socially and at work . As course suggest to approach people , however i still don't approach/talk to people when opportunity is there .i also tried to have more positive attitude towards other people ..however still sometimes i start criticizing them in my mind...and sometimes i feel that approaching /talking may belittle me in front of them,,,, and talking /approaching opposite sex is even more difficult ... any suggestion to improve on this part and how i can improve my social life and get/find company of like minded people .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Two things to understand here:
1. You are an introvert and you are happy being one
2. You are a forced introvert as you are unable to break the walls that you have put around you.

If you belong to the first category, enjoy the state of bliss as is. But from what I gather, you seem to falling under the second category wherein you want to expand your social circle and be a part of activities etc.
Then you have to put yourself out there.
1. Do understand that as much you want to be engaged with like-minded people, even these people will at some point in time think different from you.
2. Do accept people for who they are and that way you will come from a non-judgemental space while engaging with them.
3. Do connect with people who are totally different from you and it will help you expand your mind to be curious about them.

If this is a difficult thing to do...think....What if one of your children came to you with the same problem that you have now? What would you tell them to do?
Also, get into circles on social media that discuss topics which interest you. Join a gym or a hobby class and that is an avenue to make new friends irrespective of gender.
To add more friends, you need to be friendly as well...so open your heart and mind...

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 05, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 04, 2025Hindi
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I am a single 34 year old man from Delhi, i was always socially anxious and never had a girlfriend, i have worked on my social skills in the past few years and have a stable career thanks to a good pyschatrist who treated me for depression and anxiety and now its under control. I often feel the need of a partner in life but i feel that i don't deserve one because of my past and i cannot handle the responsibility of married life, this makes me feel that i should stay single and adapt to the single life. Another reason is that i earn well enough for myself but not enough to run a family. I feel that if i get married i must give my best to my partner, but i don't want to let her down. Currently i try to save half my salary every month because of this fear. Can you please let me know what i should do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
if you live your life with ifs and buts, that's exactly how your life will turn out; always tentative and with a lot to worry about. Does your past define how things must be now for you? You have changed and also know how to handle things when they don;t go your way. So, no point in doubting things and wondering if they are meant for you or not. It's matter of moving ahead with confidence and also understanding that not everything will work but somethings will and that's good enough. So, be out there and I am sure that someone like-minded will hit it off with you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Sir,I'm a mbbs student in a government medical College in kolkata.NEET 2021, 99.16863 PERCENTILE ,in ICAR i got 99.6566 percentile ,got 94.6% in 10th and 91%in 12th But my true interest lies in theoretical and molecular aspects of biology, particularly biophysics. I am deeply drawn to foundational and research-oriented areas like structural biophysics, cellular biophysics.As regular study I'm preparing for NEET PG and INICET.I want to do MD then PhD in America. I'm looking for MD in BIOPHYSICS .CAN YOU GUIDE ME
Ans: Hi Dr.,

Hats off to you! Your achievements are wonderful, and once again, congratulations from all of us at Rediffguru.

You are entering a great field, but it's essential to have a strong foundation in the basics of anatomy and physiology. Often, we study at a surface level instead of delving deep. Once you grasp the fundamentals, the rest will become much easier.

For example, many of us tend to overlook biochemistry, yet it is vital in the field of medicine. Similarly, in physiology, we may study many concepts, but when posed with simple questions, we sometimes struggle to find the correct answers. For instance, what is the shape of the stomach, and why is it that way?

During the COVID pandemic, we utilized pulse oximeters, but many people criticized their operation. This illustrates how important it is to understand the underlying principles.

As you pursue your postgraduate studies, choose a specialization that closely aligns with your goals, and aim to complete your doctorate not merely for the sake of obtaining a degree, but to genuinely advance your objectives. To do this effectively, find a knowledgeable mentor who can guide you.

Explore journals and look for articles related to biophysics. There are many biophysicists in our country who are eager for dedicated researchers, not just those seeking degrees. The medical field is increasingly focused on medical devices, making biophysics all the more important.

Wishing you all the best on your journey!
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