Is it wise to give my hard earned money to my good earning only son for buying a property in UAE and what is the risk
Ans: Understand Your Own Financial Position First
Check if your retirement corpus is already sufficient and growing steadily.
Assess your income sources like pension, rental income, or dividends for post-retirement life.
Ensure that you have an emergency fund set aside for medical or family needs.
Review your health insurance coverage and ensure it is adequate for your future.
If all these are in place, you can consider helping your son. Otherwise, hold back.
Your financial independence should come before generosity. Helping now must not lead to dependency later.
Avoid giving from your retirement savings unless you are fully secure.
Ask These Questions Before Giving
Is your son asking for this help, or are you offering it voluntarily?
Is this a loan, a gift, or a part of your inheritance in advance?
Will you get anything in return, like co-ownership or rental benefit?
Will he repay the amount, and if yes, what is the timeline?
Is this property a necessity for him or a luxury or status-driven decision?
Understand the Financial Risk Involved
UAE property market can be unpredictable and is not regulated like India.
Ownership laws may differ for non-residents. Your name may not be added easily.
There is a risk of market crash or legal issues in foreign countries.
If your son faces job issues or relocates, managing the property can be hard.
Reselling in UAE may take time and may involve high charges or tax.
Your money may get locked up with no real benefit to you.
Emotional and Legal Aspects Matter Too
Relationships can change. Money involvement can create future tension.
There is no legal guarantee your son will return the money unless documented.
Discuss openly with your son before taking a decision.
Document the transaction clearly even if he is your only child.
A written agreement helps avoid misunderstandings in future.
Better Ways to Help Without Risking Your Security
You can consider a partial contribution, not the full amount.
Offer a loan with soft terms, but legally documented.
Instead of giving a lump sum, offer monthly support if needed.
You can consider investing in Indian mutual funds in his name, which he can use later.
Keep some control or co-ownership if investing directly in the property.
Avoid liquidating long-term retirement savings or insurance proceeds to fund this.
Why Emotional Pressure Should Not Drive Financial Decisions
Many Indian parents feel emotional obligation to help children even if it hurts them.
Always think with both heart and mind together.
Your son is already earning well. He can take a loan if needed.
Giving now can affect your peace if your own expenses rise later.
You worked for years to build this money. It must serve your future first.
Final Insights
Helping children is a noble thought, but not at the cost of your safety.
It is better to be financially secure and emotionally supportive than just generous.
If your son is sincere and the property is essential, support in a documented and limited way.
Always consult a Certified Financial Planner before giving a large amount.
Protect your financial health while caring for your family. Both are important.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment