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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 25, 2023

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Vikram Question by Vikram on Apr 29, 2023Hindi
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My wife has an extreme fear of lizards and also all reptiles. She is completely panicked if a lizard enters the house and simply cannot function. Please advise how she can overcome this fear.

Ans: Dear Vikram,
Has this fear something new or has it been from a young age?

Whichever it is, the incident is being replayed over and over again when she sees a lizard. It means that, that incident has to ease in the mind for a better reaction/response when she sees a lizard.
The easiest way is to 'DULL' out that memory and make it vanish. It's a very effective way to train the mind to literally erase that memory without replacing it with anything.

It's a phobia and if you feel it requires an expert, seek one...for an expert who can deal with anxiety related to a phobia, it will be a matter of minutes to help your wife.

All the best!

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Hi Anu. I have a fear of snakes however can see them from a distance. There are lots of snakes in my native place and have heard true stories about death of people/ injuries due to snake bites which makes me not to visit my native place. I have seen videos of my friends who have touched snakes and even held snakes around their necks (although with support from the snake park/zoo team) and it makes me feel that they are very brave and I am not. Can you assist me in overcoming this fear?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why would you even want to see snakes from a distance? The fear of snakes is real and I can only imagine how people throw them around their necks and feel joy. But no offence to anyone who loves snakes.

To get rid of your phobia/fear of snakes, ask yourself:
1. Do I live in an area that is dominated by snakes?
2. Am I going to specifically go around searching for snakes to scare me?
3. How often do I visit my native place to keep fearing them everyday?
4. If I do visit my native place, how can I keep myself safe?

These answers will help you find some relief as in it gives you a hold of your thoughts. You also can get into action mode in case, the situation arises. Fears feel real inside the mind, but to challenge them and overcome them is the only way to get past them. Is having the snake around your neck some kind of achievement? Then, you need to someday just go and experience it. I know of people who for eliminating their fears, simply go and DO what scares them in the first place.
If this is not important, then reassure yourself that you live in a safe place and that humans outnumber snakes in that place and that you know what to do when you spot one. Gives you a feeling of reassured control. Hope this helps. But if there is a phobia that is making you lose sleep or appetite, kindly see a professional who works on phobias and it will help you.

All the best!

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Dear Sir, thank you for taking time. My daughter is 10 year old. She is too scared of death - she imagines that parents may die early or she may die. She starts crying silently whenever such a thought comes. What would be the best way to make her comfortable and stop her worries? She lost her grand mother (my MIL) when she was 5 whom she was very attached to. She did cry that day but the fear seems to be there for her ever since. We have made sure she does not have lot of screen time and we don't show her movies/cartoons that are not suitable for her age.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is struggling with fear and anxiety related to death. It's understandable that she would be scared, especially if she has experienced the loss of a loved one at a young age.

Here are some suggestions for ways to help your daughter feel more comfortable and ease her worries:

Listen and validate her feelings: It's important to let your daughter know that it's okay to feel scared and worried. Listen to her concerns and validate her feelings by acknowledging them. You can say things like "I understand that you're feeling scared right now, and it's okay to feel that way."

Reassure her: Let your daughter know that you and her other loved ones are doing everything you can to stay healthy and safe. You can also reassure her that most people live long, healthy lives and that it's unlikely that anything bad will happen to her or her family members anytime soon.

Teach her coping skills: You can help your daughter learn coping skills to manage her anxiety. For example, you can teach her deep breathing exercises, visualization techniques, or mindfulness practices. You can also encourage her to engage in activities that she enjoys and that help her feel calm and relaxed, such as reading, drawing, or playing outside.

Seek professional help: If your daughter's anxiety persists and is interfering with her daily life, it may be helpful to seek professional help. A mental health professional who specializes in working with children can help your daughter develop coping skills and work through her fears in a safe and supportive environment.

Remember that it's important to be patient and understanding with your daughter as she works through her fears. With your support and guidance, she can learn to manage her anxiety and feel more comfortable and secure.

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Sir , I am working man ( Age- 52 ) , I invested in MF , LIC , NPS , ULIP , FD , TermPlan etc .. all total the market value cost of invested fund is almost Rs. 50 lakhs.. Now my query is that do I withdraw all the money ( i.e. 50 lakhs) and invested in FD for 10 years to get monthly income ? pls guide me .. I am confused ...
Ans: It's understandable to feel confused when considering significant financial decisions like withdrawing and investing a substantial amount of money. Let's weigh the pros and cons of withdrawing your investments and putting the funds into fixed deposits (FDs) for generating monthly income:
Pros of Investing in FDs:
1. Stable Income: FDs provide a fixed interest rate, ensuring a predictable monthly income stream, which can be beneficial for meeting regular expenses.
2. Capital Preservation: Your principal amount invested in FDs is generally considered safe and protected, offering stability and security.
3. Ease of Management: FDs are relatively straightforward investment instruments, requiring minimal monitoring and management.
Cons of Investing in FDs:
1. Limited Returns: FDs typically offer lower returns compared to equity-linked investments like mutual funds, which may not be sufficient to keep pace with inflation over the long term.
2. Lack of Flexibility: Once you invest in FDs for a specific term, withdrawing funds before maturity may attract penalties or lower interest rates, limiting liquidity.
3. Inflation Risk: FD returns may not always keep up with the rising cost of living, potentially eroding the purchasing power of your income over time.
Considerations:
1. Risk Tolerance: Assess your risk tolerance and financial goals to determine if the conservative approach of FDs aligns with your needs. At age 52, preserving capital and generating steady income may be a priority.
2. Diversification: Review your overall investment portfolio and ensure it is well-diversified across asset classes to manage risk effectively. Consider maintaining exposure to growth-oriented investments like mutual funds for long-term wealth creation.
3. Financial Planning: Consult with a Certified Financial Planner to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your goals, risk profile, and income needs. They can provide personalized guidance and help you make informed decisions.
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