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RAVIN Question by RAVIN on May 02, 2023Hindi
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Dear Sir, thank you for taking time. My daughter is 10 year old. She is too scared of death - she imagines that parents may die early or she may die. She starts crying silently whenever such a thought comes. What would be the best way to make her comfortable and stop her worries? She lost her grand mother (my MIL) when she was 5 whom she was very attached to. She did cry that day but the fear seems to be there for her ever since. We have made sure she does not have lot of screen time and we don't show her movies/cartoons that are not suitable for her age.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is struggling with fear and anxiety related to death. It's understandable that she would be scared, especially if she has experienced the loss of a loved one at a young age.

Here are some suggestions for ways to help your daughter feel more comfortable and ease her worries:

Listen and validate her feelings: It's important to let your daughter know that it's okay to feel scared and worried. Listen to her concerns and validate her feelings by acknowledging them. You can say things like "I understand that you're feeling scared right now, and it's okay to feel that way."

Reassure her: Let your daughter know that you and her other loved ones are doing everything you can to stay healthy and safe. You can also reassure her that most people live long, healthy lives and that it's unlikely that anything bad will happen to her or her family members anytime soon.

Teach her coping skills: You can help your daughter learn coping skills to manage her anxiety. For example, you can teach her deep breathing exercises, visualization techniques, or mindfulness practices. You can also encourage her to engage in activities that she enjoys and that help her feel calm and relaxed, such as reading, drawing, or playing outside.

Seek professional help: If your daughter's anxiety persists and is interfering with her daily life, it may be helpful to seek professional help. A mental health professional who specializes in working with children can help your daughter develop coping skills and work through her fears in a safe and supportive environment.

Remember that it's important to be patient and understanding with your daughter as she works through her fears. With your support and guidance, she can learn to manage her anxiety and feel more comfortable and secure.

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Hi Anu, I'm a guest faculty working at a government educational institute. I have a son who will be 5 years on August 13. He is very active, smart and kind. Recently I have noticed him crying and scared of death- Thanatophobia. Every day in the evening he will start crying thinking the world will end. He will die or me and his Dad will die. I explained him quiet spiritually that no death can come shiva will protect us. But he is not satisfied. This particular behaviour of him has started since his school started. Is this separation anxiety. Please help me how do I make him lead a normal life as he used to be?
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Dear NS,

When did this exactly start after he started school?

It helps to go back to that point in time to when this first started to affect him.

Was there a death in the family? A movie that he watched? A story that was narrated to him? Someone in the school shared some content that is frightening?

It is unlikely that he might suddenly have this kind of a fearful reaction.

To assess if this is separation anxiety will require a detailed understanding of his situation.

Children that age as your son can extrapolate one story into another and weave a new story that might have never happened.

Their imagination can take on new dimensions. It will be worth the effort talking to his teachers and the school counsellor.

My suggestion to you is to gather all this information and go to a professional who can handle this.

Is this necessary? YES, as they are trained to deal with fears and panic.

This will help him release these unwanted feelings and breathe easy. Wait no longer.

Till then, surround him with much love and support him by reassuring him that his family loves him no matter what.

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I'm a guest faculty working at a government educational institute. I have a son who will be 5 years on August 13. He is very active, smart and kind. Recently I have noticed him crying and scared of death- Thanatophobia. Every day in the evening he will start crying thinking the world will end. He will die or me and his Dad will die. I explained him quiet spiritually that no death can come shiva will protect us. But he is not satisfied. This particular behaviour of him has started since his school started. Is this separation anxiety. Please help me how do I make him lead a normal life as he used to be?
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Dear NS,

When did this exactly start after he started school?

It helps to go back to that point in time to when this first started to affect him.

Was there a death in the family? A movie that he watched? A story that was narrated to him? Someone in the school shared some content that is frightening?

It is unlikely that he might suddenly have this kind of a fearful reaction.

To assess if this is separation anxiety will require a detailed understanding of his situation.

Children that age as your son can extrapolate one story into another and weave a new story that might have never happened.

Their imagination can take on new dimensions. It will be worth the effort talking to his teachers and the school counsellor.

My suggestion to you is to gather all this information and go to a professional who can handle this.

Is this necessary? YES, as they are trained to deal with fears and panic.

This will help him release these unwanted feelings and breathe easy. Wait no longer.

Till then, surround him with much love and support him by reassuring him that his family loves him no matter what.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2025Hindi
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My age is 27, would be 28 in october. My current salary is 98k per month including shift allowance. I am married and stay in a rented apartment with rent 12000rs per month. My wife earns 20k per month(15-16k due to leaves and bad company policies).No kids and not planning for atleast 4-5 years. I have started investing 10k in sip(7 sips..large cap, mid cap, small cap, multicap, elss funds). I work from home and don't have a habit of travelling much. Monthly home spend is around 10k(I like to keep cost as low as possible since I like to save money. I look for deals where ever possible which helps to save alot of money). I spend 10k home every month and have a 27k medical insurance for my parents. Can you give me a good investment plan since I have no idea where to invest and have a good future. I still haven't bought a flat since my h1b is in process and I would purchase once I'm back to India. I have 11L(12L this month end) in savings account
Ans: You are already showing great discipline by saving and investing regularly. Let us build a solid 360° financial roadmap for your future, considering your age, income, goals, and priorities.

Income, Expenses & Savings Snapshot
Age: 27 (turning 28 in October)

Your salary: Rs. 98k/month (includes shift allowance)

Your wife’s income: Rs. 15–16k/month (based on work situation)

Combined monthly income: approximately Rs. 1.13 lakh

Rent: Rs. 12k/month

Household expenses: Rs. 10k/month

Parents’ medical insurance: Rs. 27k/year

Total fixed monthly expenses ~ Rs. 22k excluding rent

You have savings: Rs. 11–12 lakh in savings account

Current SIP investments: 7 funds across large, mid, small, multicap, ELSS totaling Rs. 10k/month

Step 1: Establish Emergency Fund
You have Rs. 11–12 lakh in savings.

Allocate Rs. 3.5–4 lakh as emergency buffer (~3–4 months of expenses).

Keep it in a liquid debt mutual fund via a regular plan.

This ensures safety, liquidity, and better returns than bank savings.

Place the remaining savings into your financial goals (explained later).

Step 2: Build Core Investment Goals
A. Retirement Planning
You’re young with 30+ years ahead.

Retirement corpus needs long-term growth.

Start a Rs. 5k monthly Sip in actively managed, diversified equity fund.

Avoid index funds – they passively follow markets and don’t adjust allocation.

Choose regular plans via an MFD with CFP, not direct plans.

This gives guidance, rebalancing, and emotional discipline.

B. Children Planning (from 2026 onward)
No urgency until 4–5 years later.

Plan for education fund building around 2026.

From 2026, invest Rs. 5k–10k/month in a child-focused mutual fund.

Use balanced or hybrid funds that offer some debt buffer.

Regular plan guidance ensures timely review.

C. Home Purchase Fund (Post H1B)
You plan to buy a flat after return to India.

Set aside Rs. 5–6 lakh from savings as preliminary down payment fund.

Park this in a low-risk debt fund (short-term or low-duration) via regular plan.

Add Rs. 5k/month to this fund after emergency buffer is built.

D. Wealth Accumulation
You hold multiple SIPs (seven funds) of Rs. 10k/month.

Continue them if they meet your risk-return needs.

But consider consolidating overlapping fund strategies.

Consolidation reduces complexity and improves tracking.

Step 3: Optimize & Consolidate Portfolio
A. Review Current SIP Funds
Large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, multi-cap, ELSS: diversity is good.

But seven funds may cause overlap.

Identify the core top 3 equity funds that give broad market coverage and strong performance.

Continue those as your core.

Use other thematic or smaller funds as satellites, not primary.

B. Reduce Overlap
Overlap happens when multiple funds share similar holdings.

Ask your CFP or MFD to run overlap analysis.

Consolidate overlapping funds into stronger, well-performing funds.

This reduces churn and enhances tracking.

C. Retain Thematic ETFs (via mutual funds)
Global themes (if you hold any) can add value but keep them small (5–10% of equity).

Your focus should be on broad Indian equity first.

Any diversification to global equity should be via actively managed mutual funds, not ETFs or index funds.

Step 4: Cash Deployment of Savings
You have Rs. 11–12 lakh idle. Here’s how to deploy:

Emergency fund: Rs. 3.5–4 lakh in liquid mutual funds

Child planning: Rs. 5–6 lakh parked in low-duration debt fund

Retirement: Top up with Rs. 1 lakh from savings into retirement equity SIP

Home fund: Top up initiative with Rs. 1 lakh in short-term debt fund

This ensures structured use of savings aligned with financial goals.

Step 5: Monthly Cash Flow & SIP Strategy
Let’s plan monthly investments strategically:

Continue current Rs. 10k SIPs

Add retirement SIP of Rs. 5k actively managed equity fund

Add child fund SIP Rs. 5k (starts 2026)

Add home fund SIP Rs. 5k in debt fund

Total monthly SIP after this deployment: Rs. 25k new + Rs. 10k existing = Rs. 35k

Keep surplus for lifestyle, investments, or bonuses.

Step 6: Insurance Intake & Protection Needs
Life insurance:

At your age, with combined income ~ Rs. 13–14 lakh/year, you need a pure term cover sum assured of Rs. 1–1.5 crore.

This protects wife and future child in income loss.

Health insurance:

You already have Rs. 27k/year parents cover.

Add personal family floater plan of Rs. 5–10 lakh to cover medical emergencies.

This is crucial before starting family and for long-term protection.

Disability/Accident cover:

You may consider a small premium-term rider for income protection in case of disability.

Optional but useful given shift allowance dependency.

Step 7: Tax Planning
SIPs in equity funds qualify under new mutual fund LTCG tax rule:

Gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

STCG taxed at 20%

Use ELSS fund for sectional 80C deduction, up to Rs. 1.5 lakh limit

Retirement SIP may qualify for 80C/80CCD (depending on fund type and structure)

Avoid frequent withdrawals to reduce tax.

Keep long-term horizon on equity investments.

Step 8: Risk & Asset Allocation
Given your profile:

Age 27, risk appetite likely high, with long horizon

Asset mix guidance:

Equity: 60–70%

Debt: 20–30%

Liquid/emergency: 10–15%

Your current mix:

Equity via SIPs across categories (good)

Debt via home rent saving fund

You need clear emergency and insurance buffer

This allocation aligns with your age and goals.

Step 9: Review, Rebalance & Monitoring
Meet CFP every 6 months with MFD to review portfolio

Rebalance allocation if equity or debt drifts by ±10%

Watch asset overlap, performance, and goal alignment

Increase SIP amounts gradually with income growth

Example adjustments:

Step up retirement SIP from Rs. 5k to 10k in two years

Add child fund after medical planning begins

After flat purchase, reduce home fund and allocate to retirement

Step 10: Lifestyle, Goals & Flexibility
You keep lifestyle simple and frugal—this is an excellent habit

Focus on saving and investing, not buying assets prematurely

Delay big spending until after H1B return and salary clarity

Stay flexible and responsive to life changes like kids or relocation

360° Financial Roadmap Summary
Build an emergency fund in liquid mutual funds (~Rs. 4 lakh)

Park home down-payment fund in low-risk debt mutual funds (~Rs. 6 lakh)

Launch a retirement-focused equity SIP (Rs. 5k monthly)

Continue and optimize your existing SIPs via consolidation

Add insurance: term life cover Rs. 1–1.5 crore, family floater health cover

Use ELSS under 80C for tax savings

Maintain your frugal lifestyle and high savings discipline

Rebalance and review every 6 months via CFP guidance

Step?up SIPs with bonus or salary increment

Prepare for child-related expenses from year 2026 onward

Final Insights
Your saving discipline at age 27 is impressive

You have a strong head-start

Now build emergency security, retirement growth, and insurance cover

Consolidate investments to reduce clutter and enhance clarity

Use actively managed funds through a CFP-guided MFD

Avoid index and direct funds for long?term funds

Plan for child's future and home purchase mindfully

Stay focused on goals and flexible with life changes

You are laying a strong foundation for future financial strength and flexibility. With consistent execution, periodic reviews, and strategic adjustments, you are likely to meet your long?term goals calmly and confidently.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2025Hindi
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Hi, I am 46 years old. My monthly take home salary is 2.1. Lakhs + 10k rental income. I am in a huge debt now. After my EMIs and monthly expenses, I usually have a shortage of more than 50k (debt) every month. I don't have any savings except my PF. Looking for some suggestions to get out of this debt.
Ans: You are brave for reaching out. That is the first important step.

Let us now understand your situation and build a 360-degree action plan.

You are 46 years old. You earn Rs 2.1 lakh salary and Rs 10,000 rent monthly.

That brings your monthly income to Rs 2.2 lakh.

You have more than Rs 50,000 shortfall every month due to EMIs and living expenses.

You have no savings except your PF.

You are under financial pressure. But with the right steps, this can be fixed.

Let’s go step-by-step.

Understanding Your Current Cash Flow
Monthly income = Rs 2.2 lakh.

Monthly outflow = Rs 2.7 lakh or more.

Monthly shortfall = Over Rs 50,000.

Debt is rising each month.

This is unsustainable. It will only get worse if not acted on today.

Debt must be handled with strong discipline.

Break Your Expenses into 3 Buckets
Fixed Obligations

EMIs for loans (home, personal, credit cards, etc.)

Any rent or school fees

Insurance premiums

Essential Living Costs

Groceries

Utility bills

Transport and fuel

Children’s expenses

Discretionary Costs

Dining out

Online shopping

OTT subscriptions

Lifestyle and weekend spending

Action needed:

Prepare a written list of all monthly expenses.

Mark fixed, essential, and avoidable clearly.

This gives control over leakages.

You cannot cut EMIs. But you can control lifestyle spends.

Loan Review and Restructuring
You are most likely managing:

Credit card dues

Personal loans

Car loan

Home loan

All loans are not equal. Some eat more than others.

Steps you can take:

List all your loans with EMI, balance, and interest rate.

Identify high-interest loans (credit cards, personal loans).

Combine them into one low-interest loan (if credit score allows).

Talk to your bank for debt consolidation or restructuring.

A single consolidated loan will reduce EMI stress.

Avoid multiple EMIs across banks or NBFCs.

Also:

Talk to a Certified Financial Planner.

Let them negotiate with bank or NBFC with you.

Avoid delay. Action today saves future pain.

Emergency Action Plan for Next 6 Months
You are in a negative cash flow. So a recovery plan is urgent.

Start with these 6-month steps:

Stop all SIPs and investments temporarily.

Stop credit card usage. Lock cards if needed.

Use PF partial withdrawal only if absolutely needed.

Freeze lifestyle costs. Cut all non-essential spends.

Check if you can sell unused assets (bike, gadgets, furniture).

Explore gold or old jewellery kept unused at home.

Use that to reduce highest interest debt first.

This will give temporary relief. Not long-term solution. But first, plug the gap.

Increase Income to Close Monthly Shortfall
Your income is Rs 2.2 lakh. Expenses are Rs 2.7 lakh.

So we also need to increase your inflow.

Here are few realistic ways:

Take weekend tuitions (school subjects or competitive exams).

Try weekend freelancing based on your skills.

Ask employer if advance salary is possible short-term.

Check if spouse or family can take part-time remote work.

Let elder children (if any) take small paid internships.

Every Rs 5,000–10,000 counts now. You are not doing this forever.

Once debt is under control, you can relax again.

Loans Against PF – Only as Last Option
You have PF corpus. That is your only savings.

But avoid withdrawing fully.

If you must:

Take only partial PF loan.

Use it to repay high-interest debt.

Do not use PF for daily expenses.

PF is your future retirement fund. Touch it carefully.

What Not to Do in This Phase
Don’t take another personal loan to pay EMIs.

Don’t use credit card to pay other card bills.

Don’t borrow from friends unless short-term and clear.

Don’t invest in any risky product expecting quick returns.

Avoid insurance-linked investments. Avoid chit funds.

Your focus now is recovery. Not returns.

If You Hold LIC or ULIPs
If you have:

LIC endowment policy

ULIP policy

Money-back or investment-insurance combo policy

Then:

Check surrender value.

Exit the policy if locked-in period is over.

Use surrender money to reduce EMI pressure.

Reinvest in mutual funds only after debt is cleared.

Insurance and investment must be kept separate.

How to Exit This in Next 2–3 Years
Here’s your 24-month path:

Consolidate high-interest debt now.

Cut expenses by 20–30%.

Pause all new investments temporarily.

Find side income source within 3 months.

Review cash flow every month with your spouse.

Pay off one loan at a time using bonus or side income.

Talk to Certified Financial Planner every 3 months.

Don’t make any emotional money decision alone.

Your life can fully change in 2 years. But it starts today.

After Stability, Start Fresh Plan
Once debt is under control, build again with steps like:

Start emergency fund SIPs – Rs 5,000 monthly into liquid funds.

Start mutual fund SIPs via MFD-CFP route – Rs 10,000 monthly.

Start separate goal funds – child, retirement, vacation, etc.

Review debt, expenses, goals every 6 months.

Build term insurance, health insurance properly.

This time, stay debt-free for life. Learn. Adjust. Grow.

Final Insights
You are not alone. Many salaried professionals face debt stress.

But very few are brave enough to seek guidance like you did.

You can come out of this. But don’t delay action.

Here’s your action summary:

Write all expenses and loans.

Stop all discretionary spends today.

Take steps to consolidate high-interest debt.

Explore part-time income sources.

Reduce expenses. Increase income.

Talk to your Certified Financial Planner now.

Every small action adds up. This is temporary. You will be free again.

Take action now. Your future self will thank you.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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