Ans: Dear BG,
What does it tell you about a person when he chooses to hide the fact that he is a divorcee and that too with a reason like dowry?
Doesn’t this ring any bell for you as a sign to the fact that he possibly can never be trusted when he can’t come clean with his life story?
And now the complication of being physically involved has added a dimension that makes you want to be around him even more?
The very fact that you have written to me is because you are revaluating your thoughts about him and GOOD, you must and ask yourself:
Is he really worth my love, time and energy?
Has he done anything to earn my trust?
If it’s a big NO, you know that this guy isn’t the last man on the planet and that just because you are unable to find a suitable life partner, you need to settle for this man.
No, you don’t need to settle and pine for someone who has not bothered to take your feelings into considerations and not much of thought as to: if she finds out about my past, how will she react?
So let me be the one to tell her rather than she hear it from someone else.
Instead, he chooses to defend his decision of hiding this and to top it all stops talking to you.
Why exactly is he playing the victim when he isn’t? Because, he feels that it isn’t his problem and that it is yours and that you need to be making all the adjustments IF you want a future with him.
Did all this give you a good perspective?
Do the right thing and Love yourself. All the best.
