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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 30, 2023Hindi
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My wife (aged 63 years) is suffering from Obsessive and Compulsive Disorder (OCD) for the 15 years. About 10 years back, she had undergone treatment at the Vellore Christian Hospital and is under medication. She is now better because of medication but her behaviour is very annoying at times. When I come from out side, she thinks that my cloths and all other things have become dirty and washes them. She feels that unless she offers "Puja" for at least 2 hours per day, bad things will happen to our family. Yesterday I flew from Bangalore and as soon as I reached home, she washed all my cloths including my new BP measuring instrument which I brought from there. I have two sons and they are married and reasonably well placed. I don't know what to do. Should I get separated from her? I am 72 and in good health.

Ans: It's important to consult with a mental health professional who can provide specific advice tailored to your wife's condition and your family's dynamics. Here are some steps you can consider:

Communicate: Open and compassionate communication is key. Talk to your wife about your concerns, and let her know how her behavior affects you. Use "I" statements to express your feelings without blaming her. Encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings as well.

Consult a Mental Health Professional: Reach out to a mental health specialist who specializes in OCD. Given that your wife has been on medication for a while but is still exhibiting distressing behavior, it may be beneficial to revisit her treatment plan. There might be adjustments needed in her medication or therapy.

Educate Yourself: Learn more about OCD and its symptoms to better understand what your wife is going through. This can help you be more empathetic and supportive.

Support Groups: Consider joining a support group for caregivers of individuals with OCD. This can provide you with valuable insights, coping strategies, and a network of people who understand your situation.

Seek Couples Therapy: Couples therapy can be helpful in improving communication and understanding between you and your wife. It can also provide guidance on how to manage the impact of OCD on your relationship.

Patience and Empathy: Living with someone who has OCD can be challenging, but try to be patient and empathetic. Remember that OCD is a mental health condition, and your wife's behaviors are driven by distressing thoughts and anxiety.

Self-Care: Take care of your own mental and emotional well-being. It's essential to maintain your own health and happiness while supporting your wife.

Legal Considerations: Separation or divorce should be considered only after exhausting all available avenues for treatment and support. Consulting with a family lawyer may be necessary if you decide to explore this option.

Ultimately, the decision to separate from your wife is a deeply personal one and should be made after careful consideration and with the guidance of professionals. Keep in mind that with the right treatment and support, people with OCD can improve their symptoms and lead fulfilling lives.

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I am 53 and my wife is 45. I never felt happy with my marriage.She suffers from OCD but is very intelligent. She has never done any cooking in these 23 years of our marriage. I cook and do household chores in case domestic help does not turn up. She brings me to suicidal tendency blaming my mother, my brother etc...She has never allowed my mother to stay with me, and also makes me lose interest in her. But her father is a very good man. I love him and feel like having sex with him though I am also a male. How much ever I ask her to come back to normalcy she does not. I am confused. My only son is 23 years old. I do not want him to think that he is disturbed. She does not understand others' state of mind. Please help me.
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Dear S,

Your situation is a bit complicated as I don’t have enough information to build on.

  • How do you know that she suffers from OCD? Has an expert diagnosed this?
  • Is the trouble in your marriage because of your confused sexual orientation?
  • Have you felt attracted to your wife at some point as well?

To me, it seems like both of you need to visit an expert who will not just help you deal with your marriage but also guide you to work on your sexual orientation which could also have led to matters going sour between you and your wife.

Like I said, things don’t add up much to me and I have tried to point you in a direction that might help you move into a solution space.

For more clarity, I do suggest getting in touch with an expert who can guide you ably and help get your life back on track.

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I want to be anonymous on this.I'm 34years old and married 4.5months ago. It was an arranged marriage, we are from different caste. I'm a partial handicap person; I have issues with my leg. I am having issues with my wife's behaviour and I am looking for some consultation. During the initial conversations before marriage, she agreed on everything -- cooking, keeping me at bay on all works. I even informed, I don't like people who get angry and instead I like to discuss the issue and get it sorted out.But after marriage everything changed. From Day 1, she got angry on very little things like not giving hug/not drinking milk, using the phone while eating, laughing with colleagues while working or even if I cooked without informing. Getting angry is fine but she locks herself in a room for 5-10 hours and won't even respond to me. That irritates me the most. If by chance the door is open and when I enter, she won't see me and just go away like I'm some sort of stranger. I explained a lot but conveying this is wrong and it hurts me a lot, but still she does the same. I cried like a baby when I held her for not allowing her to leave the room.This has become a habit. In 4.5 months this happened for 2-3 months. My parents came home recently. Even during that time when we went out she got angry on a few things. I am not sure what it was about. When I am with family, I should respond to their needs but can't stay with her completely right? Why she can't understand it?I have to plead with her 1-2 hours to talk to me on the issue and then she tells me 'I did this/that and due to this, she got angry like the one I gave example above.She doesn't wake up till 8:30 or 9am. She won't cook or help me with household activities. And even when my mom came to teach her cooking, she didn't go. But in general, she says I want to learn cooking and especially learn what my husband likes.How much I can do? I'm getting frustrated with this behaviour and even informed her 'You're making me afraid to talk to you thinking what might get you angry.' Still no use. Please help me.
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Dear SD,

I have heard your side of the story but haven’t heard your wife on the same issue.

It seems the way you have described that your wife’s behaviour is unreasonable and selfish.

But I do believe that it takes two to tango.

What ever made her turn around differently from what she agreed upon before marriage?

Was she forced into this marriage?

Maybe it’s time to ask her:

What can I do for you?

What about me or my behaviour annoys you?

These questions shift from blame game to a solution space where you also take on the onus along with her to make the marriage work.

Obviously, something isn’t going on right and instead of bringing more instances that will prove that she’s at fault, why not bring in a space where the two of you work on your marriage.

Most times, just a shift in this thinking saves marriages and relationships.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 13, 2023Hindi
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I am a 53 year old male having troubled relationship with my wife off late. I am married for 26 years & was happy for 25 years. Recently due to my friendship & chatting with some female friends my wife grew suspicious & started keeping watch on my phone & location through setting on phone. I didnt mind as I was not having any wrong intention & relationship with any female friend. Problem started when my wife started interfering in my daily work by calling during office hours and asking what I am doing and with whom I am chatting etc. 1-2 times in a week this questioning turns into arguments & she use abusive language to confront. She claims that this issue of my infidelity haunts her all day and she cant sleep properly during night. Is she having some psychotic problem? Do we have to seek counseling together or she needs a Psychologist help? She is happy for 2-3 days in a week & this problem is not a everyday problem as she is pretty normal on other days.I love her unconditionally & cant see her sinking like this. Please help.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing difficulties in your relationship. I can offer you some general suggestions that might help in this situation.

Open and honest communication: Sit down with your wife during a calm moment and have an open conversation about your concerns and feelings. It's important to express your love and commitment to her, and also address the impact her actions are having on your relationship.
Seek couples counseling: A professional counselor or therapist can help both of you navigate through these issues. Couples counseling provides a safe space for open communication and can assist in resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, and improving the overall dynamics of your relationship.
Individual counseling: In addition to couples counseling, your wife may benefit from individual therapy to address her feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and trust issues. A psychologist or therapist can provide her with support and guidance to work through her concerns.
Establish boundaries and trust-building measures: It's important to establish boundaries that both of you are comfortable with regarding friendships and privacy. Rebuilding trust might involve setting guidelines for communication, being transparent about your activities, and reassurance about your commitment to the relationship.
Patience and empathy: Remember that this process may take time, and it's essential to be patient and understanding with each other. Try to empathize with your wife's feelings and reassure her of your love and commitment. Encourage her to express her concerns and fears openly so you can work through them together.

It's important to note that only a qualified mental health professional can provide an accurate assessment. If you believe your wife's behavior is indicative of a larger mental health issue, it would be advisable to seek the guidance of a psychologist or psychiatrist.

Ultimately, seeking professional help can provide you both with the necessary tools and guidance to work through these challenges and strengthen your relationship.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 19, 2023Hindi
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I'm 68 and my wife is 62, I had heart bypass surgery 9 years ago and she underwent Angioplasty 2 years ago, I had a fling with a foreigner around 4 years ago and we went out twice for a few days and I got caught since she has the habit of peeping into my mobile and copied my conversation and pics and she keeps nagging me for that episode, though it was four years ago and since then we haven't met but her nagging and abuses in front of friends and relatives and family hasn't stopped, whenever I want to have sex, I literally have to beg and listen to her taunts and abuses and that puts me off, I have asked for forgiveness and said sorry more than a thousand times but in vain, she still keeps on taunting and abusing me whenever she's in bad mood and forwards me my pics and messages and makes an issue of it. How to solve this is a mystery.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Hurt is hurt and healing from that hurt is difficult as there has been a break in trust.
A mere 'sorry' will not suffice as your wife's taunts reflect her deep hurt. You seriously have to earn her trust all over again...
How?
- Doing things for her that you have not done before
- Offering to help even if she does not ask for it
AND then the game changer:
- Listening to her express her hurt (taunts) and say: I am sorry! I know that you feel hurt by what I did and I want to make it up to you. What do you feel I can do more for you begin to trust me again? (expressing it this way only tells her that you care enough to want to work towards rebuilding the relationship).

If it doesn't work the first time, then try again...This may feel very silly to do, but well, it works like magic! A lot of patience is necessary when you are attempting to rebuild a relationship and YES, don't leave any stone unturned.

All the best!

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Hello Sir, please review & advise on my mutual fund portfolio. SIP of 5000 each in UTI Nifty 50 index fund, Parag Parikh flexicap, Quant flexi cap & 3000 each in ICICI Midcap 150 index fund & Kotak large 7 midcap fund. All Started since 4 months, current age 42 & can do SIP for 2-3 years & plan to keep the accumulated amount as it is for next 5 years. I have some exposure to equity shares as well. Thanks
Ans: It's great to see you investing in mutual funds to achieve your financial goals. Let's review your portfolio:
1. UTI Nifty 50 Index Fund: Investing in an index fund tracking the Nifty 50 is a solid choice for gaining exposure to India's top 50 companies. It provides diversification and follows a passive investment approach, which can be beneficial over the long term.
2. Parag Parikh Flexicap Fund: This fund follows a flexible investment approach, investing in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap stocks. It's known for its diversified portfolio and has the potential to deliver consistent returns over time.
3. Quant Flexi Cap Fund: Similar to Parag Parikh Flexicap Fund, this fund offers flexibility in asset allocation across market capitalizations. However, quantitative techniques are used for stock selection, which adds a unique flavor to your portfolio.
4. ICICI Midcap 150 Index Fund: Investing in a mid-cap index fund can provide exposure to mid-sized companies with growth potential. It offers diversification within the mid-cap segment and follows a passive investment strategy.
5. Kotak Large & Midcap Fund: This fund invests in a mix of large-cap and mid-cap stocks, offering diversification across market capitalizations. It aims to capitalize on opportunities in both segments of the market.
Your portfolio seems well-diversified across different market segments, including large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds, along with exposure to index funds. However, since you plan to keep the accumulated amount for the next 5 years, consider your risk tolerance and investment horizon.

Active vs. Passive Management:
While you've included both actively managed mutual funds and index funds (ETFs) in your portfolio, it's important to understand the differences between the two. Actively managed funds aim to outperform the market through active stock selection and portfolio management, while index funds passively track a specific index's performance.
Benefits of Actively Managed Funds:
Actively managed funds offer the potential for higher returns compared to index funds, especially during market inefficiencies or when skilled fund managers can identify lucrative investment opportunities. Additionally, active management allows for flexibility in portfolio construction and adjustments based on market conditions.
Potential Disadvantages of Index Funds:
While index funds offer low expense ratios and broad market exposure, they may lack the potential for outperformance compared to actively managed funds. Additionally, they're subject to tracking error, which occurs when the fund's performance deviates from the index it's designed to replicate.

Given your age of 42 and the relatively short investment horizon of 2-3 years for SIP, ensure you regularly review your portfolio's performance and make adjustments if necessary. Also, keep an eye on any changes in your financial situation or risk appetite.
Overall, your portfolio appears to be aligned with your investment goals and risk tolerance. Keep up with your disciplined SIP investments, and consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner periodically to ensure your investment strategy remains on track.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Hi sir,I am 40 years old, my goal is retirement with 5 cr. I am investing 25k through SIP in the following Funds. 5k- parag parikha flexi cap 5k-motilal oswal mid cap 5K-Quant large and mid cap 5k-Nippon Small cap 5k-Quant small cap, All Direct Funds. Investment Horizon - 20 to 22 Years. Goal -please check my portfolio,Wealth Creation, Risk Appetite- High. Please advise if I should pause or continue with these mutual funds.
Ans: It's fantastic that you're planning ahead for your retirement, and your investment strategy reflects your goal of wealth creation with a high-risk appetite. Let's review your portfolio:
1. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund: This fund follows a flexible investment approach, investing in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap stocks. It's known for its diversified portfolio and has a track record of delivering consistent returns over the long term.
2. Motilal Oswal Mid Cap Fund: Mid-cap stocks have the potential for higher growth but also come with higher volatility. This fund focuses on mid-cap companies with strong growth prospects, suitable for investors with a higher risk tolerance.
3. Quant Large and Mid Cap Fund: This fund combines large-cap and mid-cap stocks, aiming to provide capital appreciation over the long term. Quantitative techniques are used for stock selection, which can add a unique flavor to your portfolio.
4. Nippon Small Cap Fund: Small-cap stocks have the potential for significant growth but are more volatile. This fund focuses on small-cap companies with growth potential, aligning with your high-risk appetite.
5. Quant Small Cap Fund: Similar to the previous fund, this one specifically targets small-cap stocks using quantitative methods for stock selection.
Considering your investment horizon of 20 to 22 years, your portfolio seems well-diversified across different market segments, aligning with your high-risk appetite and wealth creation goal. However, it's essential to regularly review your portfolio's performance and make adjustments if necessary.
I recommend consulting with a Certified Financial Planner periodically to ensure your investment strategy remains on track with your retirement goal and risk tolerance.

Shifting from direct to regular mutual funds can offer several advantages, especially for investors seeking personalized support and guidance:
Regular mutual funds provide access to the expertise of a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) who is often a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). They can offer valuable insights, emotional handholding, and personalized guidance tailored to your financial goals and risk tolerance.
MFDs can assist with asset rebalancing, helping you maintain an optimal allocation of assets based on market conditions and changes in your financial situation. This ensures your portfolio remains aligned with your investment objectives over time.
Scheme selection can be overwhelming with numerous options available in the market. An MFD with CFP credentials can help navigate this complexity by recommending suitable funds that align with your risk profile, investment horizon, and financial goals.
By opting for regular mutual funds through an MFD, you not only gain access to professional advice but also benefit from ongoing support and assistance throughout your investment journey. This can instill confidence and peace of mind, knowing that you have a trusted advisor by your side.
Consider making the switch to regular mutual funds to leverage the expertise and guidance of a Certified Financial Planner through a Mutual Fund Distributor. It can enhance your investment experience and increase the likelihood of achieving your retirement goal of 5 crores.

Keep up the good work with your disciplined SIP investments, and stay focused on your long-term financial objectives.

Best Regards,
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I am going to retire on 01.11.2024 and i will be receiving 25 lacs as my retirement fund. Please suggest where should i invest and how monthly amount i will received.
Ans: Congratulations on your upcoming retirement! It's an exciting milestone, and careful planning can make it even more fulfilling.

With a retirement fund of 25 lakhs, you have a good starting point for your post-retirement financial journey.

To ensure a steady income stream, consider investing a portion of your retirement corpus in a mix of conservative investment options such as fixed deposits, senior citizen savings scheme, and debt mutual funds.

These options offer relatively stable returns with lower risk, ideal for generating regular income during retirement.

Allocate another portion towards equity mutual funds, which have the potential for higher returns over the long term. While they carry more risk, they can help your retirement corpus grow to combat inflation and sustain your lifestyle.

Consulting with a Certified Financial Planner can help tailor an investment strategy that aligns with your risk tolerance, financial goals, and retirement timeline.

As for calculating your monthly income, it depends on various factors such as the returns generated by your investments, withdrawal strategy, and inflation rate.

A common approach is the systematic withdrawal plan (SWP), where you withdraw a fixed amount regularly from your investments. The SWP amount can be adjusted annually based on your financial needs and investment performance.

Ensure your investment strategy provides enough liquidity to cover your monthly expenses while also preserving your capital for the future.

Retirement is a new chapter in your life, filled with opportunities to pursue your passions and dreams. With careful planning and smart investment decisions, you can enjoy a financially secure and fulfilling retirement journey.

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I draw a salary net salary of 230000 pm and have a housing loan for 11740000 @6% simple interest. The principal amount will be paid in 270 instalments and then the interest in 90 instalments as it’s a bank staff loan. EMI is 43000. Total tenure of loan is 30 years. I want to know should I try and close the loan earlier by investing around 4 lakhs every year or let it go as it is and invest the same amount in mutual funds. Kindly suggest.
Ans: Considering your situation, it's great that you're contemplating your financial future. With your stable income, you have the potential to make wise choices.

Your housing loan's interest rate is relatively low, which is beneficial. By maintaining regular EMIs, you're already on track to clear the loan within the stipulated tenure.

Investing in mutual funds is a solid strategy, offering potential returns higher than your loan's interest rate. It allows your money to grow over time.

However, investing additional funds to close your loan faster can bring peace of mind. It reduces your debt burden and saves on interest payments in the long run.

Before deciding, consider your risk tolerance and financial goals. Ensure you have an emergency fund and are contributing to retirement savings.

As a Certified Financial Planner, I recommend diversifying your investments. Explore different asset classes to mitigate risk and maximize returns.

Regular mutual funds through a certified financial planner can offer personalized guidance, potentially outperforming direct funds in the long term.

Remember, financial planning is about finding the right balance between debt management and wealth accumulation.

Take your time to weigh the options and choose what aligns best with your aspirations and comfort level.

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I want to take Quant mutual fund. Which one should I go with? Quant mid cap Quant small cap Quant infrastructure Quant psu fund I am 23 and I have good risk appetite.
Ans: Given your age and risk appetite, investing in mid-cap and small-cap funds can offer growth potential over the long term. However, it's essential to consider factors such as fund performance, investment strategy, and risk management before making a decision.
Quant Mutual Fund offers several options across different categories. Here's a brief overview of each option you mentioned:
1. Quant Mid Cap Fund: This fund primarily invests in mid-cap stocks, which have the potential for high growth but also come with increased risk. Mid-cap funds are suitable for investors with a higher risk appetite and a long-term investment horizon.
2. Quant Small Cap Fund: Small-cap funds invest in stocks of small-sized companies, which have the potential for significant growth but are also more volatile and risky. Investors with a higher risk tolerance and a longer investment horizon may consider investing in small-cap funds.
3. Quant Infrastructure Fund: This fund focuses on investing in companies operating in the infrastructure sector, such as construction, energy, and utilities. Infrastructure funds can provide exposure to a specific sector but may be more volatile and cyclical.
4. Quant PSU Fund: PSU (Public Sector Undertaking) funds invest in stocks of government-owned companies, which are known for stability and steady dividends. These funds may offer a defensive investment option for investors seeking lower risk exposure.
Before investing in any Quant Mutual Fund, it's crucial to review the fund's track record, investment objective, portfolio composition, and expense ratio. Additionally, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to ensure the fund aligns with your overall investment strategy and financial goals.
Remember, while mid-cap and small-cap funds offer growth potential, they also come with higher risk. Ensure you have a diversified portfolio and a long-term investment horizon to ride out market fluctuations.
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Equity Investment Using Loan ? ( 15 Lakhs ) Hi , I am contemplating to acquire a personal loan of 15 Lakhs at 10.45% interest. And invest lumpsum it in High Volatility Equity Mutual Funds giving a Return of about 25-30% on average Example: Quant Mutual Funds ( Midcap, Smallcap, Flexicap ) , Nippon India ( Midcap, smallcap) and Momentum Type Mutual Funds. Please suggest if I should go for it. Also I'm open to hear some better ways to go about investing aggressively using Loan. And also making the most out of my loan eligibility for acquiring gains.
Ans: Taking a personal loan to invest in high volatility equity mutual funds can be risky and may not be suitable for everyone. Here are some factors to consider before proceeding with this strategy:
1. Risk: Investing in high volatility equity funds involves a significant level of risk, especially when using borrowed funds. While these funds have the potential for high returns, they also carry the risk of significant losses, especially in volatile market conditions.
2. Interest Cost: The interest rate on personal loans can be relatively high compared to other forms of borrowing. At 10.45%, the interest cost can eat into your investment returns, potentially reducing your overall gains.
3. Market Uncertainty: The stock market can be unpredictable, and there are no guarantees of returns, especially in the short term. Investing borrowed money in equity funds exposes you to market fluctuations and the possibility of losses, which can impact your ability to repay the loan.
4. Loan Repayment: You'll be required to repay the personal loan, along with interest, regardless of the performance of your investments. If your investments underperform or incur losses, you may struggle to meet the loan repayment obligations, leading to financial strain.
Considering these factors, it's crucial to evaluate your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial situation before using a personal loan for aggressive equity investment. Additionally, seeking advice from a Certified Financial Planner can help you assess the suitability of this strategy and explore alternative investment options that align with your goals and risk profile.
If you're looking to invest aggressively, consider options like Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) in equity mutual funds using your existing savings or surplus income. SIPs allow you to invest regularly over time, reducing the impact of market volatility and minimizing the need for borrowing.
Remember, prudent investing involves balancing risk and reward, and it's essential to make informed decisions based on your financial circumstances and long-term goals.

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Sir I have paid a lump sum advance of Rs 75000 for CGHS LIFETIME CARD, I am a pensioner, can I take income tax deduction for this, if yes, in which financial year the deduction has to be taken? Can I claim deduction of the entire amount for the same financial year?
Ans: As a pensioner, you may be eligible to claim a deduction for the lump sum advance paid towards the Central Government Health Scheme (CGHS) Lifetime Card under Section 80D of the Income Tax Act. Here's what you need to know:
1. Deduction Eligibility: You can claim a deduction for the premium paid towards health insurance, including the CGHS Lifetime Card, for yourself and your family members. The maximum deduction allowed under Section 80D is up to Rs. 25,000 per annum for individuals below 60 years of age and up to Rs. 50,000 for senior citizens (aged 60 years and above).
2. Financial Year: The deduction can be claimed in the financial year in which the payment for the CGHS Lifetime Card was made. If you paid the lump sum advance of Rs. 75,000 in the current financial year, you can claim the deduction in the same financial year when filing your income tax return.
3. Claiming Deduction: You can claim the entire amount of Rs. 75,000 as a deduction under Section 80D, subject to the maximum limit applicable based on your age. If you have other health insurance premiums or medical expenditures eligible for deduction under Section 80D, ensure that the total deduction claimed does not exceed the maximum limit allowed.
It's important to retain the receipt or any documentation related to the payment made for the CGHS Lifetime Card as proof while filing your tax return.
Consult with a tax advisor or Certified Financial Planner to ensure compliance with tax regulations and maximize your deductions based on your specific financial situation.

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Sir, NRI having only LTCG (taxable) and interest income which is less than one lakh. I want to file ITR at the earliest and is ready with details but a part of the interest income is yet to appear in AIS. I presume that the data will get populated by the middle of June. But as I have all the figures, can I proceed with ITR filing NOW or will it be considered contradictary with AIS?
Ans: You can definitely file your ITR now, even though a part of the interest income isn't reflected in the AIS (Annual Information Statement) yet. Here's why:

NRIs with LTCG and low interest income: As an NRI with only LTCG (taxable) and interest income below one lakh, you qualify to file ITR-1 (Sahaj).

Discrepancy with AIS: A minor difference between your reported income and the AIS data might not be a major issue. The income tax department usually sends notices for significant discrepancies.

Here's what you can do:

File with the information you have: Go ahead and file your ITR using the interest income details you possess.

Mention the discrepancy: While filing, you can explain the missing interest income in the ITR form itself. Briefly state that you expect it to be reflected in the AIS by mid-June.

Revise if needed: If the missing interest income gets populated in the AIS later, you can revise your ITR accordingly. There's a window for revising ITRs after the initial filing.

Here are some additional points to consider:

It's always best to report accurate income. Including the estimated interest income demonstrates your transparency.

If you're uncomfortable filing now, you can wait until the AIS data is updated by mid-June. However, there's no penalty for filing early.

Ultimately, the decision is yours. Filing now with an explanation or waiting for the AIS update are both viable options.

It's recommended to consult a Chartered Accountant (CA) specializing in NRI taxation for personalized guidance.

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Chief Financial Planner,
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