Hi Anu, I want to be anonymous on this.
I'm 34years old and married 4.5months ago. It was an arranged marriage, we are from different caste.
I'm a partial handicap person; I have issues with my leg.
I am having issues with my wife's behaviour and I am looking for some consultation.
During the initial conversations before marriage, she agreed on everything -- cooking, keeping me at bay on all works.
I even informed, I don't like people who get angry and instead I like to discuss the issue and get it sorted out.
But after marriage everything changed. From Day 1, she got angry on very little things like not giving hug/not drinking milk, using the phone while eating, laughing with colleagues while working or even if I cooked without informing.
Getting angry is fine but she locks herself in a room for 5-10 hours and won't even respond to me. That irritates me the most.
If by chance the door is open and when I enter, she won't see me and just go away like I'm some sort of stranger.
I explained a lot but conveying this is wrong and it hurts me a lot, but still she does the same.
I cried like a baby when I held her for not allowing her to leave the room.
This has become a habit. In 4.5 months this happened for 2-3 months.
My parents came home recently. Even during that time when we went out she got angry on a few things. I am not sure what it was about.
When I am with family, I should respond to their needs but can't stay with her completely right?
Why she can't understand it?
I have to plead with her 1-2 hours to talk to me on the issue and then she tells me 'I did this/that and due to this, she got angry like the one I gave example above.
She doesn't wake up till 8:30 or 9am. She won't cook or help me with household activities. And even when my mom came to teach her cooking, she didn't go. But in general, she says I want to learn cooking and especially learn what my husband likes.
How much I can do? I'm getting frustrated with this behaviour and even informed her 'You're making me afraid to talk to you thinking what might get you angry.'
Still no use. Please help me.

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CSE at newer IIITs: Una, Bhopal, Kottayam, Agartala, Ranchi

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Ans: Your planning is disciplined. You are managing loans, savings, and family needs with balance. Let’s go point-by-point and assess your situation professionally from all angles. This will help you take the best decision for building your second house and securing your future.

Current Financial Snapshot
Your monthly salary is Rs. 80,000.

Your EMI is Rs. 23,000 for the home loan taken in Dec 2022.

You earn Rs. 15,000 monthly from renting this house.

You have completed 20 years in government service.

You have saved Rs. 40 lakh in GPF earning 7.1% interest compounded.

You are contributing Rs. 3 lakh every year to GPF.

You have SIP of Rs. 6,000 in mutual funds.

You have two children – one is 11 years and the other is 5 years.

You pay Rs. 1 lakh yearly as school fees.

You contribute to Sukanya Samriddhi at minimum level.

You have Rs. 14 lakh saved to build a house on your plot.

Now the key question is: Should you use GPF for building your house or take a loan?

Let’s assess this from multiple angles.

Home Construction: Options Available
You have 2 choices to complete the home construction:

Withdraw money from GPF

Take a new home construction loan

Each option has benefits and limitations. Let’s compare clearly.

Using GPF for House Construction
Advantages

It is your money, so no interest to pay.

No EMI burden or repayment pressure.

Withdrawal from GPF for house is allowed as per rules.

Emotionally peaceful – you are not increasing debt.

Disadvantages

GPF gives 7.1% compound interest.

Once withdrawn, that compounding stops on that amount.

GPF is your retirement backup.

Reducing it will affect your old age financial safety.

Building a house is one-time, but retirement is a long journey.

Professional Insight

GPF should be your last option, not the first.

Withdraw only if no other option is available.

Taking Home Construction Loan
Advantages

You keep your GPF intact.

You continue to earn 7.1% interest compounded.

You get home loan tax benefits under 80C and Section 24.

Repayment can be structured as per your budget.

Disadvantages

You have to pay EMI regularly.

Loan rate may be 8-9% range, higher than GPF interest.

It adds more debt pressure on you.

Professional Insight

EMI is manageable if you plan carefully.

GPF balance of Rs. 40 lakh gives safety cushion.

So taking loan makes more sense, if EMI is affordable.

Monthly Budget Assessment
Salary: Rs. 80,000

Existing EMI: Rs. 23,000

Rent income: Rs. 15,000

School fee yearly: Rs. 1 lakh

SIP: Rs. 6,000

You are already managing EMI, fees, and SIP with discipline.

If you take another loan of Rs. 10-12 lakh, EMI will be Rs. 8,000 to Rs. 10,000 approx.

This is possible, if rent is used wisely and you avoid big expenses.

Child Education and Future Planning
Your daughter is 11 years. In 7 years, college will start.

Son is 5 years. So you have 13 years before his higher education.

You should increase SIP gradually every year.

Sukanya Samriddhi is good, but minimum saving is not enough.

Start SIPs for both kids’ future goals separately.

Target long term goals like higher education and marriage.

Continue SIP even during home construction.

Retirement Safety Evaluation
GPF is your retirement backbone.

Rs. 40 lakh at 7.1% compounded will double in around 10-11 years.

If you withdraw now, final corpus will reduce sharply.

Avoid disturbing it unless absolutely needed.

Continue Rs. 3 lakh yearly contribution without fail.

Strategy for New House Construction
You already have Rs. 14 lakh saved.

Let’s say construction needs Rs. 25 lakh.

Gap is Rs. 11 lakh approx.

Best strategy:

Use Rs. 14 lakh saved by you.

Take home construction loan of Rs. 10-12 lakh.

Keep GPF untouched.

Keep GPF for future security.

How to Manage Construction Loan EMI
Use rent income to cover part of EMI.

Avoid unnecessary luxury spending.

Cut gold and festival expenses if needed.

Take loan with flexible prepayment option.

When bonus or arrears come, use for loan part-payment.

Investment Rebalancing Tips
Increase SIP from Rs. 6,000 to Rs. 10,000 next year.

Keep mutual fund SIP for both child and your retirement.

Start one new SIP for daughter’s higher education.

Use mutual fund only for long-term goals.

Avoid index funds. They don’t beat inflation after tax.

Active funds adjust to Indian market better.

Emergency Fund Reminder
Keep at least Rs. 1.5 to 2 lakh as emergency fund.

Don’t use this money for house or loan.

Keep it in savings account or short-term liquid fund.

Insurance Planning
Check if you have term life insurance.

Minimum Rs. 50 lakh coverage is needed.

Premium is low for government servants.

Also take health insurance for full family.

School Fee and Lifestyle Cost
Your school fee is Rs. 1 lakh yearly.

It will grow as kids grow.

Plan SIP in liquid funds to prepare yearly school fee.

Final Construction Strategy
Estimate house construction cost with contractor clearly.

Plan in 2-3 stages. Use cash first, then loan.

Keep Rs. 1 lakh buffer for emergency during construction.

Finally
Your savings habits are very good.

GPF is strong pillar. Keep it growing.

Don’t touch GPF now.

Take small loan for second house.

Manage EMI smartly with rent and budget.

Increase SIP yearly for kids and retirement.

Avoid index funds.

Stay consistent.

Review yearly with proper planning.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: Your approach is sincere and responsible. Managing Rs. 29 lakh home loan while investing Rs. 1 lakh monthly needs clarity. You also invest in gold. Your focus seems on building wealth and becoming debt-free. Let’s assess your current situation from all angles and guide accordingly.

Understanding the Current Scenario
You have a home loan balance of Rs. 29 lakh.

Loan interest rate is 8.80%.

Loan tenure left is 25 years.

You are investing Rs. 1 lakh every month in mutual funds.

You are also buying gold regularly.

You are paying regular EMIs.

You are also thinking to prepay the home loan partially.

This situation is not uncommon. Many in your position face the same decision. Let us now break it down for better understanding.

Loan Repayment vs Investment: Core Conflict
Loan EMI gives guaranteed interest saving.

Mutual funds and gold have market risk. Returns are not fixed.

Loan rate is 8.80%. This is a high cost in long term.

Mutual funds can give 12% in long term. But no guarantee.

Gold can give 6-7% return over long term. Also not guaranteed.

So comparing loan vs MF or gold is not just about return.

Risk, liquidity, and financial goals must be seen together.

Evaluating Home Loan Repayment Strategy
Home loan gives tax benefit on interest under Sec 24(b).

But this benefit reduces over time as interest part reduces.

Long tenure increases total interest paid.

If you prepay loan now, you save high future interest.

Partial prepayment every year brings great interest saving.

Even Rs. 1 lakh prepayment per year can cut 4-5 years from loan term.

So prepayment makes sense if no other high priority goals pending.

Understanding Mutual Fund Investment Potential
You are investing Rs. 1 lakh monthly. That is commendable.

Mutual funds help build long term wealth.

Actively managed funds perform better than passive ones in India.

Index funds don’t beat inflation much after tax.

Active funds adjust to market cycles better.

Your SIP of Rs. 1 lakh may give strong corpus in 15-20 years.

Taxation on MF has changed now. Need to plan redemption smartly.

Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Role of Gold in Portfolio
Gold acts as hedge in portfolio.

It protects against currency devaluation and global risk.

But gold alone should not be large part of investment.

It gives 6-7% return in long term.

It is not cash flow generating.

Use gold for diversification only. 10-15% is enough.

Assessing Your Loan Repayment Capacity
If you can spare extra Rs. 20-30K per month, loan prepayment makes sense.

Continue EMI as usual. Add lump sum when possible.

Avoid using your mutual fund SIP for prepayment.

Don’t stop gold purchase fully. Just reduce it if needed.

Balance your cash flow between all goals.

Combining Both: Smart Way Forward
You can do both prepayment and investments side by side.

Continue Rs. 1 lakh monthly in mutual funds.

From bonuses, windfalls, use part for home loan prepayment.

Avoid stopping SIP. It compounds over time.

Increase SIP by 5-10% yearly if income grows.

This way you build wealth and reduce debt slowly.

Tax Impact and Liquidity Planning
Prepaying home loan gives emotional peace.

But MF investments are liquid in emergencies.

Loan prepayment is not reversible.

Once paid, money is locked in property.

Keep emergency fund ready. 6 months expenses is good target.

Your Child and Family Needs
You have a child. Future education will need funds.

Mutual funds can fund child education and marriage.

Prepaying loan is less flexible than investing for child's future.

So don’t rush to be debt free if child goals are underfunded.

Cash Flow Planning for Better Balance
Track your monthly cash flow closely.

Prioritise emergency fund first.

After that, child education fund.

After that, home loan prepayment.

Avoid big gold purchases if loan EMI is tight.

Keep gold for portfolio balance only.

Emotional vs Logical Decision-Making
Loan-free life feels peaceful.

But wealth creation needs patience.

Don’t get swayed by fear of loan.

Instead, make clear plan.

Mix investment with prepayment.

What You Can Practically Do Now
Continue SIP of Rs. 1 lakh.

Build emergency fund equal to 6 months expense.

Invest at least Rs. 5-10K monthly for child education.

Reduce gold purchase to 10-15% of monthly investment.

Once emergency fund is ready, prepay Rs. 1-2 lakh per year in home loan.

Final Insights
Your loan is at 8.80%.

Mutual funds can beat this in long term.

But loan is risk-free return.

Emotional peace matters too.

Balance both wisely.

Stay consistent.

Do yearly review of all investments.

Increase SIP and loan prepayment step-by-step as income grows.

Avoid random investment decisions.

Be goal-based always.

Invest through certified professionals who guide with long-term vision.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ans: .You will surely get the best NIT and best IIIT in Hyderabad region. I would advise you to appear for JEE ADVANCE for being selected in a prominent IIT. You are exceptionally brilliant. Best of luck my child. Professor

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Ans: You can only try for Private Engineering Colleges. In Govt. the chance is as good as zero.