How Do I Move On After a College Breakup and Regain Confidence?

Ans: Breakups are not fun - here are tips on how to move on
1) given we are living in a hyper connected world - we tend to stalk the person - so the 1st thing that needs to be done is block the person from your phone and social media handles...

2) its ok to think about reasons that lead to break-up more so when you are the one who has not called for it - but avoid going in a overthinking mode - talk to yourself and say it's over

3) cry it out - its ok too

4) you will go through emotions of sadness, anger - let them come but in these times avoid reaching out to the ex- and do not let these emotions prolong

5) you may end up eating junk which would act as a comfort food - its ok too - having said this this is an excellent time to invest in outdoor activities - like going for a long walk or a run or playing a sport - doing this will help you getting over a break up,

Do keep these things in mind too
- getting over a break up can take time - anything from 60 days to 6 months, so dont fight it
- during this time - tell yourself that you deserve to be with someone who values you and that you will find the person
- do not enter a new relationship till you are over your breakup
- you might being friends with your ex once you get over the break up (you need to get over the break up to be friends)

hope this is helpful.

Ans: You'll get more guys. Focus on studies. Your happiness should not depend on that guy

Ans: Dear Hazel,
Losing someone when in love causes grief. So, go through the pain and don't be in a hurry to heal as when you allow yourself to feel the pain, you are actually stepping into the healing process and healing one day at a time.
It's a suggestion if you can actually keep the gifts given by him etc away during this time. It can torment you more.
And while you are healing and when you feel like the world crashing on you, you need to distract yourself by:
- Physical activity/exercise helps displacing the stuck feelings giving a good release
- Join communities with larger than life causes as this helps looking beyond oneself

Life can dynamically change; what we can do is navigate through these and step into your own life.
Ask yourself: What is it that I can do now that I am single again? How can I make best use of this time?
Easier said than done; but believe that things do get better BUT take that first step towards your healing journey.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Forgiving yourself might feel like a tall order right now, but think of it as an act of self-compassion rather than erasing the past. You don’t have to pretend nothing went wrong, but you do deserve to free yourself from the narrative that you were entirely to blame. Sometimes, when we feel stuck in the past, it’s because we haven’t fully acknowledged our emotions or allowed ourselves to grieve—not just for the relationship, but for the version of ourselves we wish we’d been. It’s okay to feel sadness or anger or regret. Letting yourself sit with those feelings—without judgment—can help loosen their grip over time.

A fresh start begins with allowing yourself to be imperfect and to acknowledge your growth. Seven years is a long time, and you are not the same person you were back then. The lessons you’ve learned from this heartbreak have likely shaped you in ways you don’t even realize. If you can, try focusing on who you want to become rather than on who you were. What kind of relationships do you want to create in the future? What kind of kindness can you extend to yourself right now?

You’re not letting anyone down by wanting to heal. In fact, letting go of that guilt might be the greatest way to honor both yourself and the love you shared back then. You deserve happiness and connection, not in spite of your past, but because of it—it’s part of your journey, not the end of it.