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Dating Coach - Answered on Apr 25, 2023

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Raveena Question by Raveena on Mar 28, 2023Hindi
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How to move on after break up

Ans: Breakups are not fun - here are tips on how to move on
1) given we are living in a hyper connected world - we tend to stalk the person - so the 1st thing that needs to be done is block the person from your phone and social media handles...

2) its ok to think about reasons that lead to break-up more so when you are the one who has not called for it - but avoid going in a overthinking mode - talk to yourself and say it's over

3) cry it out - its ok too

4) you will go through emotions of sadness, anger - let them come but in these times avoid reaching out to the ex- and do not let these emotions prolong

5) you may end up eating junk which would act as a comfort food - its ok too - having said this this is an excellent time to invest in outdoor activities - like going for a long walk or a run or playing a sport - doing this will help you getting over a break up,

Do keep these things in mind too
- getting over a break up can take time - anything from 60 days to 6 months, so dont fight it
- during this time - tell yourself that you deserve to be with someone who values you and that you will find the person
- do not enter a new relationship till you are over your breakup
- you might being friends with your ex once you get over the break up (you need to get over the break up to be friends)

hope this is helpful.

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Getting over someone can be challenging, but sometimes it can help to think outside the box and try new things to help move on.


Write a letter to yourself: Write a letter to yourself, as if you were writing to a close friend, offering words of encouragement and advice. This can help you gain perspective and remind yourself of your own strengths and resilience.
Create a breakup playlist: Make a playlist of songs that help you feel empowered, uplifted, and motivated. Listen to it whenever you need a boost of energy or inspiration.
Try a new hobby: Engage in a new activity that you’ve always wanted to try, such as painting, photography, or rock climbing. This can help you focus your energy on something positive and give you a sense of accomplishment.
Get a makeover: Try a new hairstyle or experiment with a different fashion style. Changing your physical appearance can help boost your confidence and make you feel more positive about yourself.
Volunteer: Engage in volunteer work or community service. Helping others can be a great way to gain perspective, connect with others, and feel good about yourself.
Create a vision board: Create a vision board with images and quotes that inspire you and reflect your goals and aspirations. This can help you stay focused on your own growth and development, rather than dwelling on the past.
Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Practice self-care and engage in activities that make you feel good.
Seek professional help: If you're having difficulty moving on, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with tools and techniques to help you cope with your emotions and move forward.

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Dear Sir, I did my BTech from a normal engineering college not very famous. The teaching was not great and hence i did not study well. I tried my best to learn coding including all the technologies like html,css,javascript,react js,dba,php because i wanted to be a web developer But nothing seem to enter my head except html and css. I don't understand a language which has more complexities. Is it because of my lack of experience or not devoting enough time. I am not sure. I did many courses online and tried to do diplomas also abroad which i passed somehow. I recently joined android development course because i like apps but the teaching was so fast that i could not memorize anything. There was no time to even take notes down. During the course i did assignments and understood the code because i have to pass but after the course is over i tend to forget everything. I attempted a lot of interviews. Some of them i even got but could not perform well so they let me go. Now due to the AI booming and job markets in a bad shape i am re-thinking whether to keep studying or whether its just time waste. Since 3 years i am doing labour type of jobs which does not yield anything to me for survival and to pay my expenses. I have the quest to learn everything but as soon as i sit in front of the computer i listen to music or read something else. What should i do to stay more focused? What should i do to make myself believe confident. Is there still scope of IT in todays world? Kindly advise.
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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 02, 2025Hindi
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My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

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