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Dating Coach - Answered on Apr 25, 2023

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Raveena Question by Raveena on Mar 28, 2023Hindi
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How to move on after break up

Ans: Breakups are not fun - here are tips on how to move on
1) given we are living in a hyper connected world - we tend to stalk the person - so the 1st thing that needs to be done is block the person from your phone and social media handles...

2) its ok to think about reasons that lead to break-up more so when you are the one who has not called for it - but avoid going in a overthinking mode - talk to yourself and say it's over

3) cry it out - its ok too

4) you will go through emotions of sadness, anger - let them come but in these times avoid reaching out to the ex- and do not let these emotions prolong

5) you may end up eating junk which would act as a comfort food - its ok too - having said this this is an excellent time to invest in outdoor activities - like going for a long walk or a run or playing a sport - doing this will help you getting over a break up,

Do keep these things in mind too
- getting over a break up can take time - anything from 60 days to 6 months, so dont fight it
- during this time - tell yourself that you deserve to be with someone who values you and that you will find the person
- do not enter a new relationship till you are over your breakup
- you might being friends with your ex once you get over the break up (you need to get over the break up to be friends)

hope this is helpful.

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Kanchan

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 11, 2023

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How to get over him
Ans: Dear Snigdha

Getting over someone can be challenging, but sometimes it can help to think outside the box and try new things to help move on.


Write a letter to yourself: Write a letter to yourself, as if you were writing to a close friend, offering words of encouragement and advice. This can help you gain perspective and remind yourself of your own strengths and resilience.
Create a breakup playlist: Make a playlist of songs that help you feel empowered, uplifted, and motivated. Listen to it whenever you need a boost of energy or inspiration.
Try a new hobby: Engage in a new activity that you’ve always wanted to try, such as painting, photography, or rock climbing. This can help you focus your energy on something positive and give you a sense of accomplishment.
Get a makeover: Try a new hairstyle or experiment with a different fashion style. Changing your physical appearance can help boost your confidence and make you feel more positive about yourself.
Volunteer: Engage in volunteer work or community service. Helping others can be a great way to gain perspective, connect with others, and feel good about yourself.
Create a vision board: Create a vision board with images and quotes that inspire you and reflect your goals and aspirations. This can help you stay focused on your own growth and development, rather than dwelling on the past.
Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Practice self-care and engage in activities that make you feel good.
Seek professional help: If you're having difficulty moving on, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with tools and techniques to help you cope with your emotions and move forward.

Remember that getting over someone takes time, and there is no one “right” way to do it. Be kind to yourself, try new things, and keep moving forward.

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Milind

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Insurance, Stocks, MF, PF Expert - Answered on Dec 07, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 07, 2024Hindi
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I’m 50 year old professional considering early retirement.. My current investments stand like this 50L in PF, 52L in NPS and another 50 lakhs in FD.. I hv a rent income of 20k and staying in own house.. my plan is investing 40 Lakhs from FD in to SWP withdrawing 40K per month. Balance 10L kept as Emergency fund Keep the NPS invested till I’m 60 later I can buy Annuity from that Is it good option to keep 52L that is in PF for next 3 years (till it earns interest) then I will consider to invest either in SWP or any other mutual funds Pls suggest any corrections needed to this? My monthly expenses will be around 50-60 k that can be met with above arrangement now and later considering inflation
Ans: Hello;

To generate 40 K monthly income from 40 L fund you will have to do SWP at the rate of 12% which is unsustainable and not prudent.

Because an year of negative and/or flat returns in the market will erode the value of your corpus significantly.

Golden rule for SWP in retirement is that the source fund should be a hybrid fund with low allocation to equity and the SWP rate should not be more than 3-3.5%.

If you are keen to retire now you will have to withdraw the EPF so total corpus will be around 1 Cr.

A 3.5% SWP will yield you a monthly income of around 29.2 K.

Add your rental income of 20 K to this and your total monthly income comes to around 49.2 K.

If you do not wish to utilise your EPF now then you may have to continue working for atleast 5 years more.

Alternatively you may buy an immediate annuity for your corpus of 1 Cr and considering 6% annuity rate it may fetch you a monthly income of around 50 K but the flip side it is not indexed to inflation.

If you are confident of being able to top-up annuity income at 5, 10,15 year interval to match up with inflation then this can be a good option.

Best wishes;

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 07, 2024

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I am 65 year age retired and have no pension. I have made investment in few govt schemes and get some regular income by way of interest but due to inflation and low interest rates scenario emerging pl suggest basket of investment to get regular monthly income of Rs 50000 . I have handsome amount in ppf account which is about to mature
Ans: Your situation reflects prudent planning with investments in government schemes and a maturing PPF. However, inflation and low interest rates demand a diversified strategy for consistent and inflation-adjusted income.

Steps to Achieve Rs. 50,000 Monthly Income
1. Reassess Your Current Investments

Evaluate the performance of your government schemes and compare their returns.
Retain investments offering guaranteed and steady income, like Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS) or Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS).
Redeploy funds from low-yield investments to more productive avenues.
2. Utilise the Maturing PPF

PPF offers tax-free corpus. Use this to create a diversified portfolio for stable income and growth.
Split the PPF corpus into equity mutual funds and safer debt instruments.
3. Diversify with Debt and Hybrid Funds

Invest in conservative hybrid funds to generate regular income and protect capital.
Include short-term and medium-term debt funds for steady returns, which are higher than fixed deposits.
4. Set Up a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)

Use equity or hybrid mutual funds to set up SWPs.
An SWP ensures a steady monthly income while your capital continues to grow.
5. Consider Dividend-Yielding Funds

Dividend-paying mutual funds offer periodic cash flow and potential for capital appreciation.
6. Fixed Income Instruments for Safety

SCSS: Offers assured returns and is tailor-made for senior citizens. Invest up to Rs. 30 lakh as a couple.
POMIS: Provides reliable income for smaller investments.
7. Include Tax-Free Bonds

Invest in high-quality tax-free bonds for steady, tax-efficient interest.
Creating the Income Plan
To achieve Rs. 50,000 per month:

Allocate a portion of funds to safer options like SCSS, POMIS, and tax-free bonds for stability.
Use equity and hybrid funds for growth and inflation protection.
Combine these with SWPs for regular income.
Tax Planning
Interest from SCSS and POMIS is taxable, so invest carefully.
Equity mutual funds have tax-efficient withdrawal options.
Debt funds offer indexation benefits for long-term investments.
Emergency and Health Fund
Keep at least 12 months of expenses in a liquid fund for emergencies.
Maintain your health insurance to handle rising medical costs.
Final Insight

A mix of secure instruments, mutual funds, and systematic withdrawals can comfortably generate Rs. 50,000 monthly income. Periodically review your plan with a Certified Financial Planner to adapt to changing needs and market conditions.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Shalini

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 07, 2024

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What should be the corpus one should have in order to get 150000 per month post retirement ??
Ans: To determine the required corpus, let’s address key factors like expenses, inflation, withdrawal strategy, and longevity. A comprehensive plan ensures sustainability.

Factors Influencing Corpus
Monthly Income Requirement
Rs. 1,50,000 per month translates to Rs. 18,00,000 annually.

Inflation Impact
With an average inflation rate of 6%, future expenses will significantly increase.

Withdrawal Rate
A safe withdrawal rate is typically 3-4% per year. This ensures the corpus lasts throughout retirement.

Post-Retirement Investment Returns
Assume a conservative return of 7% from a balanced portfolio after retirement.

Longevity
Plan for a 30-35 year retirement horizon to ensure financial independence.

Calculating the Corpus
Using a 4% withdrawal rate, the corpus should be:
Rs. 18,00,000 ÷ 4% = Rs. 4.5 crore.

Adjust for Inflation:
If retirement is 10 years away and inflation is 6%, you’ll need about Rs. 8 crore to maintain the same lifestyle.

Steps to Build This Corpus
Increase Equity Exposure Now
High-growth equity funds can accelerate wealth accumulation during the pre-retirement phase.

Gradual Shift to Conservative Assets
Transition to hybrid or debt funds five years before retirement to protect the corpus from market volatility.

Systematic Withdrawals
Post-retirement, use SWPs in mutual funds to create a steady monthly income of Rs. 1,50,000.

Health and Emergency Funds
Maintain a separate contingency fund to handle medical emergencies and other unexpected costs.

Tax Implications
Equity Fund Withdrawals:
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Debt Fund Withdrawals:
Taxed as per your income slab.

Plan withdrawals tax-efficiently to optimise cash flow.

Final Insight

With proper planning, achieving a corpus of Rs. 8 crore is feasible for a comfortable retirement. Consult a Certified Financial Planner to optimise your investments and roadmap.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Archana

Archana Deshpande  |86 Answers  |Ask -

Image Coach, Soft Skills Trainer - Answered on Dec 07, 2024

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Hi, I have been an introvert guy for my whole life, but somehow I always got good colleagues which became great friends. But from last 5 years I am in a office where very few people works and that too they are not connected to me. Hence, I get a very little exposer with them. Feels so much lonely in office as there is not a lot of workload also. Most of my day goes watching reels on social media. Sometimes i forgot when last i smiled/laughed at office place where I spends 9 hours of my day (I do talk to my family over phone, but can't help my loneliness). what can I do....worried... A very lonely 45 year male.....
Ans: Dear Sunil,

No one is clear cut introvert or an extrovert, look at yourself closely too... in some circumstances you behave like an extrovert and some areas you behave like an introvert.

Be brave and say "hi" to people around you in the office, you be the first one to greet, this itself can be a starting point to making new friends. A smile and a pleasant "hi" is all it takes.
Look for opportunities to connect with ppl in the office, instead of sending mails or reminders to ppl electronically, just walk up to them and speak to them or call them up to say you have sent a mail/reminder. This way you can establish a human connect.
Also check if you can go to the dining area to eat lunch and during breaks.. do not sit at your desk and have lunch.
Social media and watching reels is a "big no" if you are yearning for human connections. I am glad you talk to your family...outside the office, join book clubs, singing clubs, drama clubs or anywhere your interest lies...you can join a classroom to learn and develop a new skill....

Also check if you are getting enough sleep, exercise, fresh air , sunshine during the day....focus on your diet too!!

Hope this helps... take care of yourself!

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