Thanks Madam. Your diagnosis is absolutely correct. But the challenge is with following the prescriptions, which requires lots of patience. I tried to convince my wife several times to join some school or any other organization, where she can get mentally engaged. Earning money is not a priority. But, she never agreed. In fact, she gets infuriated with any of my suggestions. She keeps blaming me for not being a working woman. In absence of all social/ family support system, it is frustrating when I don't find any progress since last 10 years or so.

I have unlogical,opposite thinking n working spouse(wife) also with NPD,What should I don how to adjust?

I have nonlogical,opposite thinking n working spouse(wife) with NPD

Dear Sir, My wife age 47 years had been working on the sales counter for 27 years she is very finnicky on time and things and gets hassled up very easily. She of late has been unable to sleep even though she is taking Restyl 0.5mg as prescribed and she is over thinking in the negative aspects of quitting job early than required and also not been able to bear a child. These thoughts keep hounding her and is unable to lead a normal routine. to change her mind to positive thinking have taken her on vacation three times since she has resigned. Also has become lethargic after her resignation in household chores. Kindly suggest if she needs specialized consultation or any other remedy as such?

Hi Ms. Anu, I need some different way of looking at the mess I am in. We are a very well educated couple married since past 16 years and very well settled (financially) abroad. We married after a courtship with blessings of both families and we do have a kid who is doing well atleast academically. The marriage has been a mess all these years starting within a couple of years after marriage. I do come from a very close knit middle class with a mentality/ upbringing to carryon whatever the odds are for wellbeing of kid also the spouse. My wife come from a pretty broken family where none of the family members are staying together or on routine talking terms. I do strongly feel that she has a borderline personality disorder which she refuses to atleast seek help available even to confirm or reject it. She has no good friends and her relations are very superficial with lot of white lies. Living with her is like walking on needles not knowing when she goes off. It has literally made me and my kid apprehensive every other minute dealing with her. She has given up her career in India and is a home maker here and I do respect that a lot but she is also very apprehensive to try out anything over here in spite of so many opportunities .I really don’t have any problem with it as we don’t have any financial need for it. She has best of everything we have/ earned over here, I never question her regarding even routine needs and try to work around her choices. We are like roommates living in a big house in separate rooms bringing up kid in best possible way. It sort or drains me out both mentally and physically and even affects my professional progress. Every attempt to discuss amicably ends with a fight. She has no social support to even fallback or ask for help. For me I don’t want to divorce her as I do know she won’t be able to survive alone over here or in India also I don’t want this to even put a small mental scar on my kid. I am trying out the best possible way I can but I do fear I might breakdown some day or the other leaving them in bad position. I dont have any affairs, I don’t even drink/ smoke/ gamble. I am just a simple person trying to live comfortably and bringing up the kid in best possible was as every other person.

Hi, Me and my wife both are of same age. We had an arranged marriage and are married for 8 years. We have two kids. She has ‘Borderline Personality Disorder’ and its very difficult to live with her. I am giving her meds without her knowledge since 8 years with which its just manageable and going along. But life has become very troubled. All my dreams and goals remain unfilled. Also if somehow one day meds are not given, it becomes like hell. because of this i am almost completely isolated from my parents and siblings. Talking to her is not a solution and getting expert advise from psychiatrist is also impossible as she wont go to psychiatrist or psychologist. She also has less insight. How to come out of this mess?