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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 27, 2023Hindi
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Dear Sir, My wife age 47 years had been working on the sales counter for 27 years she is very finnicky on time and things and gets hassled up very easily. She of late has been unable to sleep even though she is taking Restyl 0.5mg as prescribed and she is over thinking in the negative aspects of quitting job early than required and also not been able to bear a child. These thoughts keep hounding her and is unable to lead a normal routine. to change her mind to positive thinking have taken her on vacation three times since she has resigned. Also has become lethargic after her resignation in household chores. Kindly suggest if she needs specialized consultation or any other remedy as such?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When one is used to working and managing home as well, it gets a tad bit difficult to just take care of only the responsibilities at home, It can get very dull and monotonous.
Encourage your wife to take on newer challenges that involve getting physically and mentally fit.
It could be learning a new sport or going to the gym or taking up a project that involves her stepping out of home and interacting with people.
She must make that effort if she wishes to move out of the current lethargy state that she is in.
If she does not take that step, then I suggest meeting with a professional who can help break her mind state to move into a better space.

All the best!

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My wife is extremely sensitive to even smallest of criticism either received directly or indirectly. She gets panic attacks and suffers from the situation for about 10 days. She is unable to leave any of the not so good/bad memories and thus keeps thinking of them all over time. She feels and talks hopeless and useless during this period, which also includes getting separated and ending her life. We have 2 childs of 14 and 9 years. She does not talks to anyone when her mood is off. I have been keeping extreme patience during all the time and always tried to console her and explain her that we also have good memories to remember. But seems she doesn't understands these things. We also consulted one psychiatrist, who gave her Ketamine treatment. She was fine for sometime only but after some time she said that she will not go to any doctor now, and let the situation prevail as it is until she is living. I am totally shattered and perplexed on this situation and could not focus on my job and any other thing in life. What to do, pl advise. I am not able to see her in this situation which is not so bad according to most of the people, but she is filled with so much of hate and negativity that she is not able to understand the things and value them.
Ans: She sounds clinically depressed and definitely needs help. If not a psychiatrist, she can at least start visiting a psychotherapist to help; she need not take medication if she doesn’t want to, but going without any help at all is dangerous.
You have your children to think of too…explain to her that she has to do this for their sake, if not hers. They deserve a well-adjusted, responsible mother and not someone who is too selfish to see to their needs.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 25, 2023Hindi
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Dear Anu Ma'am. My wife is extremely sensitive to even smallest of criticism either received directly or indirectly. She gets panic attacks and suffers from the situation for about 10 days. She is unable to leave any of the not so good/bad memories and thus keeps thinking of them all over time. She feels and talks hopeless and useless during this period, which also includes getting separated and ending her life. We have 2 childs of 14 and 9 years. She does not talks to anyone when her mood is off. I have been keeping extreme patience during all the time and always tried to console her and explain her that we also have good memories to remember. But seems she doesn't understands these things. We also consulted one psychiatrist, who gave her Ketamine treatment. She was fine for sometime only but after some time she said that she will not go to any doctor now, and let the situation prevail as it is until she is living. I am totally shattered and perplexed on this situation and could not focus on my job and any other thing in life. What to do, pl advise. I am not able to see her in this situation which is not so bad according to most of the people, but she is filled with so much of hate and negativity that she is not able to understand the things and value them.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
No one likes criticism and each of us react to it differently...
But it is also necessary to give people feedback and feedback which is not in their favor will be construed as criticism.
This is how they can retract into their shell and not change anything even if the change is beneficial to them.
So, if you want to send feedback to your wife, two things:
1. Convert statements of feedback into questions.
Eg: This way of doing things is going to make you lose more time...Instead say: Do you feel that if there was a better way according to you to do this, you might have more time for yourself and also tire less?
More words but conveys the same without an accusation or instruction

2. Go to a professional who can make a clear diagnosis; medicines have effect till they last and then it's back to the drawing board. Help your wife develop a sense of fulfilment from within. It could be that she is finding her routine very monotonous and dull which throws her emotions off balance. So, have her work with a person who can get to the bottom of her mood swings

These 2 suggestions in my opinion can make a huge difference to your marriage and home.

All the best!

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Dear Ramalingam, I’m a salaried employee aged 40. My take home salary is currently pegged at 1.05L/month, after deductions, tax, savings. My monthly savings/contributions include Superannuation fund around 11.5K, Provident Fund around 13.8K and additional Voluntary PF contributions currently averaging 46K. I’ve opted for NPS individually since 2019 and around 60K inflow is available there annually. I’ve an insurance policy for 5L (Jeevan Anand for 25Y period and currently in the 7th yr) and haven’t opted for Term insurance/personal health insurance currently, except the corporate health insurance coverage. My EPFO balance currently is around 48L and I’ve Postal savings in RD/NSC/PPF/SSA instruments [altogether currently valued around 12L+ (PPF/SSA is hardly aged 3 yrs and contributions are yearly 1.5L respectively)]. I’ve not availed loans and do not use a Credit Card. I’ve not ventured into Equities, as I’m risk averse person. I’m the prime bread winner for family consisting of my spouse(not working), 2 kids(aged 4(M) and 1(F)) and my parents (not working/not having any income and are senior citizens, aged 80+ and 70+). We’ve a house and agricultural land around 60 cents(non-metro, village). My monthly expense can be pegged currently at 30-40K range, including rentals. I’d like to have a review and expert opinion/evaluation on my portfolio, whether its satisfactory. (I understand the definition of satisfactory is subjective in nature). Assuming if I’m healthy and continuing to work until 50-55Yrs range, provide an analysis, whether the current patterns will suffice for sustaining the inflation and/or future expenses. Awaiting your valuable inputs. Regards,
Ans: Your financial discipline is commendable. Below is a detailed analysis of your current portfolio, along with recommendations for improvement.

Income and Savings Overview
Your take-home salary of Rs. 1.05 lakh/month allows for significant savings potential.

Superannuation, PF, and VPF contributions total nearly Rs. 71,300 monthly.

Annual NPS contributions of Rs. 60,000 provide additional retirement savings.

Insurance Coverage
The Jeevan Anand policy offers Rs. 5 lakh coverage, which is insufficient for your family.

You lack term insurance, which is crucial as the primary breadwinner.

Relying solely on corporate health insurance is risky for your family’s medical needs.

Current Investments
EPFO balance of Rs. 48 lakh is a strong retirement foundation.

Postal savings (RD/NSC/PPF/SSA) total Rs. 12 lakh, but they lack growth potential.

Contributions to PPF and SSA are beneficial but need complementary growth instruments.

No exposure to equities limits the wealth-building capacity of your portfolio.

Expense Management
Monthly expenses of Rs. 30,000-40,000 are well within your income limits.

Future expenses for children’s education and parental care must be considered.

Analysis of Future Financial Sufficiency
Retirement Goal

If you work until 55, your current savings pattern may need augmentation.
Inflation and rising medical costs will require a larger retirement corpus.
Children’s Education and Marriage

Expenses for higher education and weddings will significantly impact your corpus.
Parental Care

Senior citizen healthcare costs can be unpredictable and expensive.
Recommendations for Improvement
Increase Insurance Coverage
Opt for a term insurance policy of at least Rs. 1 crore.

Secure a family health insurance plan with adequate coverage.

Diversify Investments
Add equity exposure through actively managed mutual funds.

Allocate around 25% of savings to equity mutual funds for higher growth.

Continue PPF and SSA contributions, but limit postal savings to maintain liquidity.

Optimise Retirement Savings
Review NPS allocation to ensure a balanced equity and debt mix.

Increase contributions to NPS for tax benefits and long-term growth.

Reduce over-reliance on VPF and add growth instruments like mutual funds.

Plan for Long-Term Goals
Estimate future costs for children’s education and create a targeted investment plan.

Use a combination of equity and debt funds to balance risk and returns.

Emergency Fund Creation
Maintain 6-12 months’ expenses in a liquid fund or savings account.

This will provide financial security during unforeseen circumstances.

Tax Efficiency
Review your investments annually to optimise tax savings.

Use Section 80C, 80D, and NPS tax benefits effectively.

Final Insights
Your financial discipline and savings pattern are excellent. However, diversification and better planning are essential.

Focus on increasing insurance coverage, adding growth instruments, and planning for future milestones.

With these adjustments, you can comfortably achieve your goals and sustain your lifestyle.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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i am Rahul(30 year old), RRB bank clerk, b.tech graduate, unmarried, I am thinking about my future plan like my pension after retirement. Will I get a pension and how much will be it?
Ans: As an RRB clerk, your retirement benefits depend on government norms and organisational policies. Let’s analyse your future pension prospects and how to prepare for a financially secure retirement.

Government Pension System
New Pension System (NPS): Government employees recruited after 2004 are under the NPS.

Contribution System: You and your employer contribute to your NPS account.

Pension Payout: The final pension depends on accumulated corpus and annuity rates.

Estimating Your Pension Amount
Accumulated Corpus: Regular contributions from your salary build the corpus.

Annuity Purchase: At retirement, 40% of the corpus is used to buy an annuity.

Pension Amount: The annuity provides monthly pension based on selected annuity plans.

Inflation Impact: Future pension value depends on inflation-adjusted returns.

Supplementing Your Pension
Relying solely on the NPS might not suffice. You need parallel investments for added security.

1. Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
Invest monthly in mutual funds to create an additional retirement corpus.

Choose equity-oriented funds for long-term wealth creation.

Hybrid and debt funds can offer stability closer to retirement.

2. Voluntary Contributions to NPS
Contribute beyond mandatory deductions to build a larger corpus.

These voluntary contributions can provide additional retirement income.

3. Building a Diversified Portfolio
Diversify across equity, hybrid, and debt mutual funds for balanced growth.

Avoid relying on low-return options like fixed deposits.

Use professionally managed funds for better returns than index funds.

Managing Tax Liabilities
NPS Taxation: Withdrawals are partially taxable at maturity.

Mutual Fund Taxation: Equity funds have LTCG taxed at 12.5% beyond Rs. 1.25 lakh.

Plan withdrawals and redemptions to optimise post-retirement cash flow.

Role of Regular Funds vs Direct Funds
Direct Funds: Require expertise and time to manage efficiently.

Regular Funds: MFDs and CFPs provide tailored advice and ongoing support.

Regular funds help align investments with your retirement goals.

Other Financial Considerations
1. Emergency Fund
Maintain a reserve for unexpected expenses, covering 6-12 months of needs.

Use liquid funds for accessibility and minimal risk.

2. Health Insurance
Ensure you have adequate health coverage for medical emergencies.

Avoid investment-linked insurance like ULIPs and endowment plans.

A separate term plan can protect your family’s financial future.

3. Retirement Age and Inflation
Plan for retirement expenses adjusted for inflation.

Aim to build a corpus that sustains your lifestyle for 25-30 years.

Step-by-Step Action Plan
Assess Current NPS Account: Check your contribution and employer’s contribution.

Start SIPs Immediately: Begin with Rs. 10,000 per month and increase annually by 10%.

Allocate Across Funds: Use a mix of equity, hybrid, and debt funds.

Enhance Voluntary NPS Contributions: Contribute more whenever possible.

Review Portfolio Semi-Annually: Adjust based on performance and retirement goals.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner: For regular fund investments and portfolio alignment.

Finally
Planning early ensures a comfortable retirement and peace of mind. Combine your NPS benefits with mutual fund investments to achieve a secure future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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i am 49 years now. two years back i bought flat (15 years old) in heart of Hebbal Bangalore with all my savings 50K. I dont have any home loan/no personal loan/no hand loan/no credit card payment. my current take home salary is 70K. daughter studying 1st year engineering (her college expenses 1.5 lakhs/year) and my son 6th std (his school expense 1.5 lakhs including sports coaching). i am not doing any lavish expenses. After spending all my money to buy flat. Now my biggest worry is nearing retirement. I want to create retirement fund of min 50 lakhs by the age of 60. how can i achieve and advise some good funds and what strategy should i adopt.
Ans: You have made a significant decision by buying a flat in Hebbal. Being debt-free is a solid foundation for future planning. With a monthly take-home salary of Rs. 70,000 and educational expenses for your children, it’s crucial to build a strategy to achieve your retirement goal of Rs. 50 lakhs in 11 years.

Let’s create a 360-degree plan to achieve your target systematically.

Key Observations and Challenges
Educational Expenses: Annual expenses for your daughter and son total Rs. 3 lakhs.

Savings Potential: After meeting essential expenses, your ability to save is key for investments.

Time Horizon: You have 11 years to build a retirement corpus.

No Existing Investments: Starting now requires focused efforts and disciplined execution.

Monthly Savings and Investment Strategy
1. Determine Monthly Savings Capacity
Deduct all fixed and variable expenses from your take-home salary.

Aim to save at least Rs. 20,000 monthly for investments.

Any salary increments should directly increase your savings.

2. Adopt a Step-Up SIP Approach
Start with Rs. 20,000 monthly in Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs).

Increase your investment by 10% annually.

A step-up SIP ensures higher contributions over time.

3. Allocate Investments Across Fund Categories
Equity Mutual Funds: Allocate 70% of your monthly SIPs to equity funds.

Hybrid Funds: Invest 20% in balanced advantage or aggressive hybrid funds.

Debt Funds: Allocate 10% to debt funds for stability and emergencies.

Fund Selection Recommendations
Equity Funds
Focus on actively managed funds across large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap categories.

Actively managed funds outperform in the long term compared to index funds.

Hybrid Funds
Hybrid funds dynamically adjust equity and debt allocation, reducing risk.

Suitable for those nearing retirement.

Debt Funds
Debt funds provide stability and liquidity.

Use them for short-term needs and goal realignment near retirement.

Tax Efficiency
Equity Mutual Funds: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Debt Funds: Both LTCG and STCG are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Plan redemptions to minimise tax liabilities.

Additional Financial Planning Tips
1. Emergency Fund
Build a reserve of at least 6 months’ expenses in liquid funds.

This ensures financial stability during unforeseen events.

2. Insurance
Ensure adequate health insurance for your family.

Avoid investment-linked insurance plans like ULIPs or endowment plans.

Term insurance can secure your family’s financial future.

3. Track and Review
Monitor your portfolio semi-annually.

Rebalance funds to maintain the right mix of equity and debt.

4. Children’s Education
Prioritise their education without compromising your retirement savings.

Plan for their higher education by partially using hybrid or debt funds.

Insights on Direct vs Regular Funds
Direct Funds
Managing direct funds needs expertise and time.

Most investors find it challenging to track fund performance.

Regular Funds via CFP
A Certified Financial Planner ensures personalised advice and goal alignment.

They provide a structured approach, helping you stay on track.

Regular funds also simplify taxation and rebalancing.

Steps to Implement
Open a SIP for Rs. 20,000 in mutual funds through an MFD associated with a CFP.

Gradually increase your SIP amount annually by 10%.

Diversify investments across equity, hybrid, and debt categories.

Create a dedicated retirement fund and avoid using it for other goals.

Periodically review and realign your portfolio with a professional.

Finally
Starting your retirement journey now is a wise decision. Discipline, consistency, and smart fund selection will help achieve your Rs. 50 lakh target. With careful planning and execution, you can secure a comfortable retirement while supporting your children’s education.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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