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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 23, 2024Hindi
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I am a single child and I am finding it difficult to get a partner. Nowadays every guy I meet online or through matrimony either want a sanskari or a working bahu or a modern one, with no expectations of children or future planning. I want a good partner and a family with modern thoughts. I am 36 and would like to have two children but I don't want to give up on my career completely. I am tired of the rejections and constantly throwing myself at these events and having to prove myself to strangers.

Ans: you may wish to google and check out andwemet's single community for 30s & beyond - wishing you the best

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

Apart from dating apps, you can try finding love IRL. You can try going to clubs, cafes, or social gatherings to meet like-minded women. Or you can ask your friends to set you up with someone who matches your criteria. You can join some activity of your liking to find women who prefer the same things as you. Start with a HI and see where it goes.

You can find a decent human being even in a dating app. It is a matter of patience, a pinch of luck, and primarily a good amount of effort from your end. To get better results, try mentioning your intents in your bio; for instance, you want to date and then move on to marriage- mention the same in your bio to attract the right kind of people.


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Sir,my self D.Durga dinesh I got CRL rank-86989 and OBC NCL rank -27k and i checked the IIITs in csab and I saw iiit dharawad which is DSAI last round closing rank is -86797 which is difference is 192 ranks only Can I get IIIT Dharawad DSAI there? And I checked DSAI 2024 closing rank which is 81K something in previous year it is increased about 5000 rank .In this year can I get DSAI? . Sir, please tell about DSAI course in IIIT dharawad which is good? And I saw cse branch closing rank in 2025 is 83k something and in 2024 is 74k nearly in last rounds .when this year also rank increases and get upto my rank . which branch should I choose CSE or DSAI .iam very confusing about this. Please answer my reply sir .iam waiting for your reply .
Ans: Durga Dinesh, With CRL 86,989 and OBC-NCL rank around 27,000, IIIT Dharwad DSAI through CSAB 2026 is possible but not guaranteed. Your observation is correct: 2025 CSAB Special Round closing for DSAI OBC-NCL was around CRL 86,797, so you are only about 192 ranks away. Since cutoffs can shift by a few hundred or few thousand depending on vacancies, withdrawals, and choice filling, you should definitely participate in CSAB and keep DSAI above lower-preference branches. CSAB officially publishes special-round opening/closing ranks after JoSAA vacancy rounds. Between CSE and DSAI, choose CSE first if available, because it is broader and keeps options open in software, AI, data, cybersecurity, and higher studies. Choose DSAI next because IIIT Dharwad’s curriculum includes data science/AI-focused learning and the institute reports decent placement figures, though 2025 data is still ongoing.

So your choice order can be CSE > DSAI > ECE at IIIT Dharwad. Also fill IIIT Kottayam/Kurnool/Ranchi/Una/Nagpur lower branches as backups along with 4-5 reputed Private Engineering Colleges as backup options.

Please note, success in any career depends less on the degree itself and more on how you invest your time. Focus on honing technical, communication, presentation, and leadership skills. Build a strong professional profile through projects and internships, actively network with alumni and industry experts, and maintain visibility on platforms like LinkedIn. Additionally, developing emotional intelligence (EQ) is crucial to navigate your career path with confidence. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Sachin Sir, At a CRL rank of 41,000, securing a seat in DA-IICT’s regular B.Tech programs is unlikely, as recent closing ranks for ICT, MnC, and VLSI are much higher. However, the institute’s newly launched 5-year BS–MS Dual Degree programs in IT and Data Science & AI offer a more realistic alternative. These programs admit students based on JEE Main Mathematics percentile or CUET scores, not overall CRL, and since 2026 is their first admission cycle, competition may be less intense.

This 5-year, 200-credit curriculum is ideal if your son is passionate about coding, AI, data science, cybersecurity, or research-oriented tech careers—provided the fee structure and longer commitment are manageable. It’s also wise to keep several reliable backup options rather than relying solely on DA-IICT.

Ultimately, success depends less on the degree and more on how your son invests his time: honing technical and communication skills, building a professional profile through projects/internships, networking with alumni and industry experts, maintaining visibility on platforms like LinkedIn, and developing emotional intelligence to confidently navigate his career path. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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