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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 07, 2023Hindi
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Hello Gurus! I am 40 yr divorced NRI man in the UK. I have a 10 yr old son and he lives with his mum in a different country. I have visitation rights and I meet him regularly. I have been divorced for 6 years now. I have been trying to date since last 5 years and it has been quite a frustrating experience. I do not want to jump to Matrimonial Sites as I would prefer to date someone to know them better before deciding to settle in a committed relationship. Also, there are many frauds on the Matrimonial Sites. My challenge is that most of the single women in the age range of 36 – 42 that I have met in last 5 yrs is that either they have unstable career and looking for someone to depend upon or if they have a career, they are arrogant and unruly. Though I look decent, I don’t have looks as a criteria. I worry sometimes if will I ever find love and affection in my life. Apart from the dating apps, where else do you suggest I could try to meet decent and normal woman?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

Apart from dating apps, you can try finding love IRL. You can try going to clubs, cafes, or social gatherings to meet like-minded women. Or you can ask your friends to set you up with someone who matches your criteria. You can join some activity of your liking to find women who prefer the same things as you. Start with a HI and see where it goes.

You can find a decent human being even in a dating app. It is a matter of patience, a pinch of luck, and primarily a good amount of effort from your end. To get better results, try mentioning your intents in your bio; for instance, you want to date and then move on to marriage- mention the same in your bio to attract the right kind of people.


Best Wishes!

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Hi, I'm soon to be 36 M, unmarried and never had any relationship in all my years, I have registered myself with many matrimony sites and have been searching for a girl or maybe a woman now, for last 5 or 6 years. My problem is that most girls in matrimonial reject me out right for reason like looks, money/property, age, etc, now I have asked some of my friends discreetly about my looks and I'm very confident about myself, also I know I do earn good bucks, despite that I don't understand what could be possible reason to not even have a single conversation before they reject someone. I have even tried my hands on dating apps, but I have not had success there as well. Some time I feel worthless and have breakdowns because of this. I don't have anyone to share this with and I know no one cares about it anyway as everyone has their own problem and you will be the last thing in their mind. I know the answer I'm going to get here - "keep trying", "life is not fair" etc, but I feel this is total crap, why does no women want a man who would respect her and care for her, why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating. After all this, I'm losing hope that I'll find my or any love in this world.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I agree what's happening to you is not fair, and however you are feeling right now, it is valid. But having said that, you can't justify saying "why cry later for justice, domestic violence and cheating." These are entirely different and serious matters. Do not trivialize them. Rejecting a man who would've loved her does not automatically mean the woman deserves to find a man who should cheat, beat, or abuse her.

Now, coming to your issue, rejection comes for several reasons; it doesn't necessarily have to do anything with your appearance. Since you mentioned getting rejected even before a conversation, my first guess would be that the profile might not be standing out in the crowd of profiles out there. You can try adding hints of humor to your BIO to make it more attractive. Use the 70-30 method in your Bio, where 70% of it showcases you as a person and the remaining 30 subtly indicates your version of an ideal partner. Additionally, try optimizing your DP and select something that shows your fun side.

But I would like to remind you that not everyone's love story runs at the same pace; some take time to start. I know you think it's cliched but people say it because it has truth to it- keep going; I am sure you will find someone.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 30, 2025Hindi
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I am 27 years old with 2 cr corpus to invest planning to retire at the age of 35 can realistically consider??
Ans: You have built an impressive corpus of Rs 2 crore at 27. This is a great achievement.

Planning to retire at 35 is ambitious, but not impossible. It requires careful investment, expense control, and passive income generation.

Let’s evaluate if your corpus is enough for lifelong financial security.

Key Strengths in Your Plan
Strong starting corpus of Rs 2 crore at a young age.

A long investment horizon for wealth compounding.

No mention of liabilities, which keeps finances flexible.

Time to take calculated risks, as you have many earning years ahead.

Challenges to Consider
Retiring at 35 means funding expenses for 50+ years.

Inflation will significantly reduce purchasing power over time.

Medical costs will increase as you age, requiring a long-term plan.

You need passive income sources, as early retirement stops active earnings.

Investment growth must outpace withdrawals, or funds will deplete early.

Critical Factors for Early Retirement
1. Expected Monthly Expenses After Retirement
Your current expenses will rise due to inflation.

Lifestyle, travel, and healthcare costs will add to financial pressure.

Unexpected emergencies require backup funds.

You need a sustainable withdrawal plan to avoid exhausting your corpus.

2. Investment Growth vs. Inflation
A major risk is slow portfolio growth against rising expenses.

Bank FDs and conservative instruments won’t sustain early retirement.

Actively managed mutual funds provide better long-term returns.

Avoid index funds, as they lack flexibility in volatile markets.

Your portfolio should have growth and stability in the right proportion.

3. Sustainable Withdrawal Strategy
You need income-generating investments to replace active earnings.

Systematic withdrawals from mutual funds can support expenses.

A portion of funds should stay in equity for long-term growth.

Debt funds and fixed-income instruments can provide stability.

Avoid high-risk investments, as capital preservation is crucial.

Is Rs 2 Crore Enough to Retire at 35?
If your monthly expense is Rs 1 lakh, it will grow with inflation.

Your corpus should sustain withdrawals for at least 50 years.

A mix of growth and income investments will improve longevity.

A structured asset allocation plan is necessary for risk management.

Working with a Certified Financial Planner will help optimise your strategy.

Steps to Strengthen Your Retirement Plan
1. Increase Your Investments Till 35
Keep investing aggressively till retirement.

SIP contributions should increase yearly, based on income growth.

Avoid direct funds, as regular funds with CFP guidance perform better.

Diversify between equity and debt funds for stability.

2. Build Passive Income Sources
Dividend-paying funds can provide stable returns.

Rental income is unreliable due to maintenance costs and tenant risks.

A withdrawal strategy from mutual funds ensures liquidity.

A mix of growth and income funds will sustain long-term cash flow.

3. Plan for Medical and Emergency Expenses
Health insurance is important, but personal medical reserves are also needed.

Unexpected health issues can disrupt finances if not planned.

A dedicated medical fund ensures long-term security.

Finally
Rs 2 crore is a great start, but more investment is needed before retiring at 35.

You must grow your corpus aggressively over the next 8 years.

Avoid index funds and direct plans, as active management provides better results.

Create a structured withdrawal plan to avoid running out of money early.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner to build a sustainable early retirement plan.

With the right asset allocation and investment discipline, early retirement is possible.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am 37 years old with 75 lakhs in equity, 6 lakhs in bonds and 3 lakhs in emergency fund. I don't own a home . Living in rental house. Monthly salary is 1.5 lakhs with savings of 60k per month. Have three kids of 7 year and twins 1 years . How can I plan my financial situation.
Ans: Your financial situation is stable, and your savings rate is good. You have a strong base in equity and a small portion in bonds. Since you have three young children, long-term planning is critical. Below is a structured financial plan for you.

1. Understanding Your Current Financial Situation
Equity investments: Rs 75L

Bonds: Rs 6L

Emergency fund: Rs 3L

Monthly salary: Rs 1.5L

Monthly savings: Rs 60K

Living in a rental house

Three children: 7-year-old and 1-year-old twins

You have a good salary and savings rate. Your equity exposure is high, but bonds and emergency funds are low. You need to focus on asset allocation, risk management, and future expenses.

2. Setting Up a Strong Emergency Fund
Emergency funds should cover at least 12 months of expenses.

You currently have Rs 3L, which may not be enough.

Increase it to at least Rs 12L.

Keep it in a mix of liquid funds and bank FDs.

This will protect you from sudden financial shocks.

3. Asset Allocation for Stability
Your current portfolio is heavily tilted towards equity.

You need to balance risk by adding more bonds and fixed-income instruments.

Maintain at least 20-25% of your portfolio in debt.

Increase investments in bonds, debt funds, and other safe instruments.

This will provide stability during market downturns.

4. Future Education Expenses
Your children’s education will be a major expense.

Start a dedicated investment plan for their higher education.

Use a mix of equity mutual funds and debt funds.

Increase allocation as your income grows.

Avoid investment-linked insurance policies.

Planning now will reduce financial stress later.

5. Retirement Planning
You need a strong retirement corpus.

Continue investing in equity mutual funds for long-term growth.

Increase your SIPs every year.

Add some allocation to debt to reduce risk as you age.

Do not rely on real estate for retirement income.

Early planning will give you financial freedom.

6. Life and Health Insurance
With three children, life insurance is critical.

Get a term insurance plan with a high sum assured.

Avoid ULIPs and endowment policies.

Health insurance should cover all family members.

Get a super top-up policy for extra coverage.

Proper insurance will secure your family’s future.

7. Investing Your Monthly Savings
Rs 60K savings per month is good, but it should be structured well.

Allocate funds to equity, debt, and emergency reserves.

Increase equity investments through SIPs in actively managed funds.

Avoid index funds due to their rigid structure.

Invest in actively managed funds through a CFP-certified MFD.

A structured investment plan will maximize returns.

8. Planning for Children’s Marriage
Children’s weddings can be a large expense.

Start a dedicated investment for this goal.

Invest in balanced funds to reduce risk.

Increase allocation as the event gets closer.

Early planning will help you manage this cost easily.

9. Managing Rent vs. Buying a Home
You are currently living in a rental house.

Avoid emotional decisions when buying a home.

Consider renting if it is more cost-effective.

Focus on liquidity and flexibility.

This approach will help you maintain financial stability.

10. Tax Planning
Use tax-saving instruments efficiently.

Maximize deductions under Section 80C and 80D.

Invest in ELSS funds for tax benefits.

Avoid tax-inefficient investments like traditional insurance plans.

Proper tax planning will increase your net savings.

11. Periodic Review of Your Portfolio
Financial planning is not a one-time activity.

Review your portfolio every year.

Adjust asset allocation based on market conditions.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner for better insights.

Regular review will ensure you stay on track.

Finally
Your financial journey is strong, but improvements are needed. You must balance risk and plan for future expenses. Continue disciplined investing and review your plan regularly.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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