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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 08, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 07, 2023Hindi

Hello Gurus! I am 40 yr divorced NRI man in the UK. I have a 10 yr old son and he lives with his mum in a different country. I have visitation rights and I meet him regularly. I have been divorced for 6 years now. I have been trying to date since last 5 years and it has been quite a frustrating experience. I do not want to jump to Matrimonial Sites as I would prefer to date someone to know them better before deciding to settle in a committed relationship. Also, there are many frauds on the Matrimonial Sites. My challenge is that most of the single women in the age range of 36 – 42 that I have met in last 5 yrs is that either they have unstable career and looking for someone to depend upon or if they have a career, they are arrogant and unruly. Though I look decent, I don’t have looks as a criteria. I worry sometimes if will I ever find love and affection in my life. Apart from the dating apps, where else do you suggest I could try to meet decent and normal woman?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

Apart from dating apps, you can try finding love IRL. You can try going to clubs, cafes, or social gatherings to meet like-minded women. Or you can ask your friends to set you up with someone who matches your criteria. You can join some activity of your liking to find women who prefer the same things as you. Start with a HI and see where it goes.

You can find a decent human being even in a dating app. It is a matter of patience, a pinch of luck, and primarily a good amount of effort from your end. To get better results, try mentioning your intents in your bio; for instance, you want to date and then move on to marriage- mention the same in your bio to attract the right kind of people.

Best Wishes!

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Dear Love Guru, I am 40 years old, recently divorced. I have two children. I am not working. My friends and family want me to find a partner again and get married but it is not easy to find anyone. When I tell my friends and family to find they also become quiet because they know no one is interested in a mother of two children. My husband is already aaram se dating again and having fun. I also want to date and find someone but I am not comfortable with Tinder which seems like it is for kids. I don’t want to register on a marriage site. How do I find someone who will not be horrible to me like my ex-husband was?

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I have a friend who's sailing in the same boat as you.

She's a newly single mom and was very worried during her divorce that she would never find love again. Her husband had already taken up with another woman before their paperwork was finalised.

So I'm going to give you the same advice I gave her -- stop looking.

She did and, a year later, she's in a new but happy relationship.

The guy she's with is someone she always knew as an acquaintance. Post her divorce, they became close and he is fond of the child as well.

There may be challenges ahead but the point is, as soon as she let life take over instead of this obsession to find someone else, a relationship came up unexpectedly and out of nowhere.

So breathe, recover from old wounds and let things happen as they must. Stop planning a second marriage right away.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2023Hindi

I'm 40 recently divorced well settled professionally. Im looking for geniuine love. Cam dating sites help at this age and with a divorcee tag? If yes how should i go about it???

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Online dating will be perfect for you. Most dating apps encourage people to take a second chance at love. And divorce is not the end. There are plenty of divorcees looking for real connections. And, let me assure you, "at this age" is not an issue in virtual dating. It comes without the burden of judgment. You can and should absolutely try dating apps to find genuine love. My advice would be to be clear about your divorce status; do not hide it. Second, when you set up your profile, mention your requirements and intentions in the bio. For instance, you want to find love. If you write it in your bio, only people who want the same will connect with you, helping both you and your match save time and effort on the wrong person. Third, even if you are rejected a few times in the beginning, don't give up. The right match can be right around the corner. Finally, find a dating app that caters to your need. For instance, some apps cater to users generally interested in long-term and serious relationships and then there are apps that focus more on casual relationships. Based on your preference, pick the right dating app to get better results.

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