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Anu Krishna |1155 Answers |Ask -Follow

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 22, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 19, 2024Hindi

Relationship

I am sam i am 20 yr old . When I was 17 my parents talked an alliance i said I don't want to get married but they talked about the groomed so much that I accepted to get married then after 1 month i lied to him that I love someone but so he stopped after 2 yrs they are coming back thinking that I am mature now they want me to get married my dad said he want me to get married to that groom and I am flip flopping

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are young...please think of yourself, your career (if you are career oriented) and do find ways to make yourself financially independent first. That will give you focus on what you want in a life partner and then you will not nod your head to just anybody and everybody.
Use the next couple of years to build an identity for yourself will be my suggestion. But if you really think that you want to get married and what your parents think is right for you, then stop using so much of your mind into it. State a few things that you wish to see and have in the groom and if that is satisfied, what more is the problem?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi there, I have many things going in my life right now and I’m confused what to do, first thing I’m in a relationship with a man who’s 7 years older than me and is also not earning much, we are from different religions. Now as I’m 25 my parents are asking me to get married but some how I’m avoiding it, I’m currently living with them and I’m constant with growth in my career so they also want me to look for better opportunities. The thing is my boyfriend is also in the same city and I’m sad about going far away. He’s very supportive and motivates me to look further opportunities. But again my parents want an answer from me about marriage. And I discussed with my boyfriend as well and he understands that too but he doesn’t want to marry me.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When he does not want to marry you, then what makes you waste so much time on him?
Move on with your life; it's not about getting married like the way your parents intend BUT more a signal to yourself to stop in your tracks and focus on what's important to you; your life...

He can be a good friend still supporting you (If the two of you can find that maturity) and you will both be able to walk on your own paths which isn't happening now. When he is clear that he is not going to commit to it, it should be enough data for you to look into yourself and know that you are trying hard to make something happen that does not want to happen. Making sense here?

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Here is your answer in this link below:
https://gurus.rediff.com/question/qdtl/relationship/sam-20-yr-when-17-parents-talked-alliance-said-don/5181895

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