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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jan 31, 2023

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Prasanna Question by Prasanna on Jan 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ravi, do you think that all men/boys seek is only physical relationship when they befriend women/girls? And even when a relationship begins at an emotional level it ultimately ends up with men seeking to satisfy their lust and once their lust is satisfied the relationship too ends?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It isn't true that all men and boys seek only physical relationships. I am sorry that you have had that experience, but please don't write off everyone based on them.

When an emotional relationship matures, there might be some expectations of being physically intimate; that's normal. It isn't necessary that soon as you get intimate with a guy, he'll be done with you. Physical intimacy can very well be another expression of love. At the same time, if you are uncomfortable with it, you don't have to go there. And no decent guy will ever force you.

Relationships don't end because you got physical too soon; they end because you fell for the wrong person.

Hope this helps.

Best wishes!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry that this happened to you, but think about it this way- this happened now, but this could have happened after getting married. I know that it shouldn't have happened to begin with, but since it has already, it's better to look at it from a positive perspective. Why it happened is difficult to say. It is possible that he didn't really know the real you and was expecting you to be someone you are not. And once he realized the truth, he thought ending it now would be better for both of you. I am not sure why he did what he did, but I can tell you that there is no point in thinking about the "why" of the matter. Focus on moving on. I know you were getting attached but it's time to look forward and build a better future. Take some time off this matchmaking thing, and focus on yourself. And once you think you are ready, get back to it with a fresh and positive mind. I want you to understand that not everyone would turn out to be like him.

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