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Prasanna Question by Prasanna on Jan 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ravi, do you think that all men/boys seek is only physical relationship when they befriend women/girls? And even when a relationship begins at an emotional level it ultimately ends up with men seeking to satisfy their lust and once their lust is satisfied the relationship too ends?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It isn't true that all men and boys seek only physical relationships. I am sorry that you have had that experience, but please don't write off everyone based on them.

When an emotional relationship matures, there might be some expectations of being physically intimate; that's normal. It isn't necessary that soon as you get intimate with a guy, he'll be done with you. Physical intimacy can very well be another expression of love. At the same time, if you are uncomfortable with it, you don't have to go there. And no decent guy will ever force you.

Relationships don't end because you got physical too soon; they end because you fell for the wrong person.

Hope this helps.

Best wishes!

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I talked with a boy from November for marriage his parents came to my home then we started talking with each other every thing was going well we shared our thoughts values...then each passing day I get attracted towards him one day after 1 and a half month I found his changes in behaviour then I asked him he told he was same then one day he told me he is getting bored as I always talk about relationship he don't get anything friendly from mee..i asked him what is romance to him he told me philosophical thoughts discuss I was confused then ..days are passing then he send me some links of America's and has a debate ..with me always ..one day there was a misunderstanding and i told him what did he want he told me he don't get any friendly things from me and it will not work after 4 months i got very disturbed ...why did he do this to me he knows from the 1st how type of girl am I then why did he carried it 4 months. .after I got attracted towards him...it was very disturbed for me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry that this happened to you, but think about it this way- this happened now, but this could have happened after getting married. I know that it shouldn't have happened to begin with, but since it has already, it's better to look at it from a positive perspective. Why it happened is difficult to say. It is possible that he didn't really know the real you and was expecting you to be someone you are not. And once he realized the truth, he thought ending it now would be better for both of you. I am not sure why he did what he did, but I can tell you that there is no point in thinking about the "why" of the matter. Focus on moving on. I know you were getting attached but it's time to look forward and build a better future. Take some time off this matchmaking thing, and focus on yourself. And once you think you are ready, get back to it with a fresh and positive mind. I want you to understand that not everyone would turn out to be like him.

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I am male married since 2013 , I was working full time and had good career for 10 yrs, I absolutely did not had any physical or mental health issues before marriage and was working full time as IT professional. After marriage from begning I had conflicts and disputes with inlaws. They were keeping too many expectations from My Wife and were doing lot of interference and trying to control My Wife and our married life. They were not allowing us to live our married life independently. There is no issues or conflicts between Me and My Wife and she is living with Me by her own will , but My Wife is mentally and physically weak so she does not handle inlaws and is unable to set the boundries with them after marriage. My in laws are immoral, highly manipulative and controlling people, on face they show and act as if they are very matured people and gentleman but behind they do all sort of negative and immoral activties. They also practice black magic and do all sorts of immoral activities to control My Wife and harm Me. After 5 yrs of marriage , I am suffering from rare, severe and complex Neurological disease since 2019 , I am like bed bound, and having difficulty in talking, sitting upright for long time. I am not able to work due to My severe health condition since 5 yrs now. Taking advantage of My severe, rare and long term health condition , My in laws are defaming Me and spreading rumors about Me to the neighbours, relatives and wherever I go by tracking My activities. They are telling that I am mentally unstable and have had physcological / mental issues from begning of marriage and they are trying to earn fake soft corner of thier daugther in front of people saying that our daughter is caught in this toxic marriage and her life is getting spoilt due to this marriage. They are also tracking each and every activity of Mine by hacking my mobile and creating severe obstacles by defaming Me and spreading rumors about Me They are trying to block My medical treatment by misguiding the Doctors and also blocking anyone who is helping Me ? They are forcing Me indirectly to convience My Wife and take mutual divorce and also demanding Money one time Amount from Me. --------------------------------------- How can I deal with such situation ? Considering I am bedbound and My health condition is severe , I am not in position to take legal action against them What can I do to stop this defamation and turning people against Me ? What can I do about tracking of all My activities through hacking of My mobile ?
Ans: Hello sir.
I am sorry to hear the situation of yours. I would suggest you to keep your wife in confidence so that your in laws can't reach your doctor and you can take your proper treatment. Secondly dont take stress of defamation. People around you know you. Now just concentrate on your health so that you can recover from it and join your job again.
Take care!
Regards
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