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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 02, 2024

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Samrat Question by Samrat on Jul 01, 2024Hindi
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Thank u for your reply . Actually, I am helping my friend on his work . I think your right I focusing mostly on girls. I have got three takeaways from your answers. 1) if cheating happens there was never loved , it was merely some momentarily satisfaction 2) compatibility matters, 3) there is no specific rule. So , can you please tell me what could be those things that satisfy short term and what is compatibility in relationship?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for responding.
Short-term satisfaction is something that does not build much but it is important to have those moments like coffee dates, short vacations/trips, joining a gym together...
Compatibility is defined by value systems match. This value system is found in every area of our life right from food choices to intimacy to money matters to children...
These things require a clear discussion before a couple decides to make it official, well ideally...when these matters are never discussed, it definitely gives rise to issues later on in the relationship/marriage. Relationships require a lot of work to keep it going and it takes the effort from both partners to have an almost great relationship.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Hello . I am Samrat and in past I have asked many questions. Recently I have gone through a lot of infidelity cases. The one thing that crosses my mind is that ", Are those people who cheat in their relationship have some common personality traits " , not everyone but most of them ? Because I used to think that anyone can cheat based on circumstances and no one should judge earlier whether one is cheater or not and neither all the cheater are necessarily bad persons. But the more I am delving into it the more I am getting a feeling that these are specific kind of person not all but most of them like they basically withdraw themselves from relationship no what his/her partner is doing for them. they are mostly self-centred etc. because if any reason can support their argument about cheating it should be apply to everyone. But as we all know both male and suffer but don't get indulge into such kind of activities. I request please respond Hope you're fine Regards Samrat
Ans: Hello Samrat,

That's an interesting take and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Infidelity is very complex and though inexcusable, there are certain circumstances when people are forced to make choices that they would not normally. For instance, couples in unhappy marriages are often seen cheating on their partners. Even though it's unethical, we don't have a clear idea of what pushed them to make such a decision. Having said that, I agree that you might be onto something- in fact, research shows that there are, at certain times, some common attributes in people who tend to cheat. Narcissism, commitment issues, impulsivity, and the like are often observed among people who indulge in infidelity.

But even though these traits might be common among some individuals, it does not apply to all. Situational factors should be weighed in before evaluating.

I hope this helps.

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I have concluded by myself that it has something to do with foundation of relationship. If both the partners have put much efforts and investment (emotionally and physically) , they are most likely to last long while others whose relationship have formed only on short term satisfaction of when one partner is only at receiving end the love will fade once satisfaction gone or the other partner stopped making efforts. And in most cases , I believe this is true . What do you think? Thank you for reply
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Simply put, a car moves only if all the wheels move together.
Marriage/relationship moves only if both partners move together. Sometimes, you encounter differences and then instead of blaming, you work together as one unit to resolve it.
So, instead of putting an age to a relationship, just work with the concept that: For any relationship to work, the people involved in it must want it for almost the same reasons and are willing to work their differences to keep the institution functioning well.
And you end up seeing this in people who are well settled in their marriages for a long time which means they have put in a lot of work into it. But that doesn't mean all marriages/relationships that have been going on for a while are working out well. People are good at hiding things like this. So, focusing on making a relationship work together may work better rather than thinking of what time point the marriage is at!

All the best!
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Investment plans for a 24y/o who has a savings of 7k.
Ans: Let’s explore the best investment options for a 24-year-old with Rs. 7,000 in savings. The aim here is to give you a 360-degree view. This approach considers your age, time horizon, and capital. You are starting early, which is excellent. Small amounts invested right can grow well over time.

? Age Advantage: Time is on Your Side
– You are just 24. That’s a big strength.
– You have over 30 years till retirement.
– That gives enough time to ride out market ups and downs.
– Starting now gives power of compounding more time to work.
– Even small monthly investments will grow big.
– No need to rush. But must stay consistent.
– Time makes up for small capital at start.

? Understand Your Savings Purpose
– Is this Rs. 7,000 meant for long term?
– Or do you need it in 1 or 2 years?
– Your investment plan depends on this timeline.
– For long-term goals, equity mutual funds are ideal.
– For short-term goals, use liquid or ultra-short term funds.
– Never invest in equity if goal is near.

? Emergency Fund Comes First
– Do you already have an emergency fund?
– You must set aside 3-6 months of expenses.
– Keep this in a liquid mutual fund or savings account.
– This protects you from borrowing in emergencies.
– Don’t invest this in risky or long lock-in plans.
– Emergency fund gives mental peace too.

? Begin with Monthly SIPs
– Rs. 7,000 is a good beginning.
– But add monthly SIPs to it.
– Even Rs. 500 to Rs. 1,000 per month is fine.
– Make it a habit before increasing amount.
– Mutual funds through SIPs are flexible.
– You can stop, pause, or change amount anytime.

? Prefer Actively Managed Mutual Funds
– Many suggest index funds. But they suit foreign markets.
– Indian markets are not fully efficient yet.
– That gives fund managers a chance to beat the index.
– Actively managed funds offer this chance.
– Index funds just copy the market.
– They never try to beat it.
– They also fall with the market.
– You get no expert protection during market crash.
– In India, active funds have often done better.

? Don’t Choose Direct Mutual Funds
– You may hear about direct mutual fund plans.
– They may seem cheaper due to low expense ratio.
– But you get no expert guidance.
– You may end up choosing wrong schemes.
– Regular plans through a Certified Financial Planner are better.
– You get periodic reviews and hand-holding.
– It saves you from panic in market falls.
– That support is worth the small fee.

? Build Discipline and Patience
– Investing is a journey, not a sprint.
– Avoid watching your portfolio daily.
– Don’t react to market news or tips.
– Invest regularly and stay calm during ups and downs.
– Review only twice a year with your CFP.

? Keep Insurance and Investments Separate
– Never mix insurance with investments.
– ULIPs or investment-linked insurance give poor returns.
– They lock your money for long.
– If you hold such policies already, review them.
– Check surrender value and charges.
– Exit if not giving fair growth.
– Invest that amount into proper mutual funds.

? Invest in Goal-Based Manner
– Don’t invest just to invest.
– Set goals first.
– Examples are car in 3 years, house in 10 years.
– Match your fund choice to the goal time frame.
– Equity for 5+ years. Debt for under 3 years.
– Hybrid for mid-term goals.
– Clear goals make you stay invested better.

? Tax-Saving Plans – Choose Wisely
– If you want tax saving, equity-linked savings schemes are one option.
– They give Section 80C benefit.
– But have a 3-year lock-in.
– Choose only if you want both tax saving and equity exposure.
– Don’t choose only to save tax.
– First see if 80C limit is unused.
– If yes, then choose suitable scheme via your CFP.

? Mutual Fund Taxation Rules
– Long term capital gains (LTCG) from equity funds are taxed above Rs. 1.25 lakh.
– The rate is 12.5% after the limit.
– If sold before one year, it is short term.
– That is taxed at 20%.
– For debt funds, tax is based on your tax slab.
– No LTCG benefit in debt funds now.
– Keep holding period and taxes in mind when investing.

? Avoid Frequent Switching
– Many investors switch funds often.
– This kills long-term returns.
– Every time you switch, compounding resets.
– Also, switching causes taxation.
– Stay with good performing schemes.
– Give them at least 3 to 5 years.

? Review Annually, Not Frequently
– Don’t check your portfolio daily or weekly.
– Review once a year with your CFP.
– See if goals are on track.
– Make adjustments only if needed.
– Patience is the biggest skill in investing.
– Constant changes harm returns.

? Avoid Fancy Investments
– Don’t fall for crypto, forex, or smallcase trends.
– These look attractive but are risky.
– Many have lost big money in these.
– Focus on time-tested methods instead.
– Boring investing works better in long run.

? Keep Learning About Money
– Read basic personal finance articles.
– Listen to CFP-guided videos.
– Ask questions when you don’t understand.
– But don’t follow every opinion online.
– Learn slowly and build strong habits.

? Build a Budget Around SIPs
– Don’t wait for surplus money to invest.
– Instead, invest first and spend later.
– Include SIPs in your monthly expenses.
– That builds discipline and financial stability.

? Increase SIPs With Income Growth
– As income increases, increase SIPs.
– Step-up SIPs are a great tool.
– They help you invest more without pressure.
– Start with Rs. 500 and slowly go up.
– That gives long-term wealth creation with comfort.

? Don’t Time the Market
– Nobody can predict market tops and bottoms.
– Trying to buy low and sell high fails often.
– Instead, invest consistently every month.
– This averages cost and reduces risk.

? Don’t Depend on Just One Fund Type
– Diversify across 3 to 4 good funds.
– Include large cap, mid cap, and flexi cap funds.
– This gives better coverage and growth.
– Discuss with your CFP before fund selection.

? Make Retirement a Priority Early
– At 24, retirement feels far.
– But it’s the most expensive goal.
– Start small SIPs towards retirement fund now.
– It will grow huge due to compounding.
– Even Rs. 1,000 now will matter later.

? Stay Away from Real Estate
– Many think property is a good investment.
– But it needs big money and loans.
– Returns are uncertain and growth is slow.
– Also, it lacks liquidity.
– Mutual funds are better for young investors.

? Your Investment Roadmap Ahead
– Set clear short, medium, and long-term goals.
– Build emergency fund of 6 months expenses.
– Begin with monthly SIPs in 2-3 equity funds.
– Avoid direct and index funds.
– Review with a CFP once a year.
– Slowly increase SIPs with income.
– Avoid ULIPs, annuities, and real estate.
– Learn and stay invested for long term.

? Finally
– You’ve done well to think about investing at 24.
– Rs. 7,000 is a powerful start.
– Don’t wait for more money to start.
– With time and patience, this can grow big.
– Follow the right process with the right guide.
– Avoid shortcuts and stay consistent.
– The journey will reward you in time.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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