Thank u for your reply . Actually, I am helping my friend on his work . I think your right I focusing mostly on girls. I have got three takeaways from your answers. 1) if cheating happens there was never loved , it was merely some momentarily satisfaction 2) compatibility matters, 3) there is no specific rule. So , can you please tell me what could be those things that satisfy short term and what is compatibility in relationship?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It isn't true that all men and boys seek only physical relationships. I am sorry that you have had that experience, but please don't write off everyone based on them.

When an emotional relationship matures, there might be some expectations of being physically intimate; that's normal. It isn't necessary that soon as you get intimate with a guy, he'll be done with you. Physical intimacy can very well be another expression of love. At the same time, if you are uncomfortable with it, you don't have to go there. And no decent guy will ever force you.

Relationships don't end because you got physical too soon; they end because you fell for the wrong person.

Hope this helps.

Best wishes!

Ans: Hello Samrat,

That's an interesting take and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Infidelity is very complex and though inexcusable, there are certain circumstances when people are forced to make choices that they would not normally. For instance, couples in unhappy marriages are often seen cheating on their partners. Even though it's unethical, we don't have a clear idea of what pushed them to make such a decision. Having said that, I agree that you might be onto something- in fact, research shows that there are, at certain times, some common attributes in people who tend to cheat. Narcissism, commitment issues, impulsivity, and the like are often observed among people who indulge in infidelity.

But even though these traits might be common among some individuals, it does not apply to all. Situational factors should be weighed in before evaluating.

I hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Simply put, a car moves only if all the wheels move together.
Marriage/relationship moves only if both partners move together. Sometimes, you encounter differences and then instead of blaming, you work together as one unit to resolve it.
So, instead of putting an age to a relationship, just work with the concept that: For any relationship to work, the people involved in it must want it for almost the same reasons and are willing to work their differences to keep the institution functioning well.
And you end up seeing this in people who are well settled in their marriages for a long time which means they have put in a lot of work into it. But that doesn't mean all marriages/relationships that have been going on for a while are working out well. People are good at hiding things like this. So, focusing on making a relationship work together may work better rather than thinking of what time point the marriage is at!

All the best!
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