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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2025Hindi
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Hi Mam, My parents are not agreeing for the marriage with my boyfriend cause it's an interfaith relation. I tried convincing them but they keep on saying foul words to me, saying that they would kill themselves if I don't leave him. I had seen my family from childhood and I don't want to be in a similar situation as they are, my mother had a relationship with someone else after marriage, my sister is not the biological child of my father, I am aware of all those but I haven't blamed them for that cause I felt if that's what is making them happy let them be, I haven't even confronted them. Now they say all the good stuff that me and your father were very great to each other you should learn those things and all. I am struck in a situation now. I have a job and my boyfriend also has one, could you please suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Judging your parents and their choices is not going to anyway help you in your context. So, why even go there?
Instead focus on your situation and how you can make things happen for yourself.
- Are you financially independent and will you be able to manage the discomfort that will emerge once you choose to be on your own?
- Will your boyfriend support your decision and will he stand by you when you go against your family?
- What does his side of the family have to say about all of this?
If you notice the questions above, none of them are set to 'convince' your family. It is almost impossible to convince someone who does not want to be convinced. These questions will give you an idea and enable to handle your situation by stepping up for yourself.

All the best!
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Hi Ma’am. I’m having a problem with my parents about my marriage. I’ve been in a relationship for three years and I want to marry him. My parents are not agreeing as it is a society issue because it is an interstate and inter-caste marriage. I'm trying to convince my parents for that since long time but it's going nowhere and they are too stubborn to even meet him once. What can I do in this situation? How can I deal with their emotional drama as a parent-child relationship should not break because of these issues? Kindly advise me, Ma’am. AS
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Dear AS,

You need to focus on how you can marry the person you love and also have your parents support you.

Is this possible?

There is a chance only if you take them into complete confidence and appeal to their logic.

Many societies are still against inter-caste marriages and I am sure they have their reasons for it, just like your parents have strong reasons to oppose the marriage.

Have you tried to find out why they oppose it? Are they worried about how they will face your family members as this is a big thing across cultures in the world?

As their daughter, you have connections with them as well as the right to live your life your way. Bring in an elder member of the family and ask him/her to appeal on your behalf. If this doesn’t work, you might be forced to decide one way or the other.

Whatever you do, do it with conviction and maintain relationships along the way. It may be an uphill task but breathe, smile and live life.

All the best, Happy 2022!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 02, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ma’am, My parents are not agreeing for my marriage with an intercaste marriage and this is not the first intercaste marriage one of cousin tried convincing their parents for 5 yrs but eventually gave up and opted for court marriage today they are very happy even their parents has also accepted the marriage. In my case , my parents are mocking me for my feelings and emotionally abusing me and have crossed all their limits. They know my boyfriend from class 10th and their family too but the only issue is with then what others will say . My mother called my boyfriend and kept on saying leave me alone and in return my boyfriend said aunty I know this is the big thing we will not take any drastic step and without your approval we will not get married and I’m willing to wait for your daughter even if it is waiting for for 5-6 yrs . We both are doing pretty good in our career we both have been so focused with out life. But after this call she kept on saying he’s very manipulative as he did not disrespect my mother and as a result of this my mother and father kept on harassing me by saying ill and foul words to me. They are so lost in their ego that I am suffering from 104 degree fever and they are ignoring this fact kept on saying foul words to me. My mother day and night she’s entering my room is saying Every second I’m giving you baddua ( wishing something bad happen to me) . I put forth my point but they are not in state of listening and somewhere very unhappy that I’m not financially dependent on them so they are keep bashing my job. I have stopped talking to them regarding this topic and just having very minimal conversation with them and I’m not misbehaving with them for this also they are scolding me they want to act normally and come sit with them.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Inter-faith marriages are still unaccepted in many societies and the challenges that come with it are not just with family acceptance but adapting and adjusting to different cultures, tastes etc...
Yes, on the one hand, love does not have any boundaries BUT massive changes in society have still not taken place to accept inter-faith marriages and your parents also belong to that very same society that hinders more than supports.
It has come down to a choice for you now!
Family or your Love?
If you choose Family, all will be well except you and your boyfriend. It will be giving up what you dreamed of together.
If you choose Love, you can of course live life on your terms but your family may vow to never see you again (it seems evident from all the vibes at your home).
Since, you are financially independent, you are in a better position to decide BUT it is going to be a decision that will leave someone unhappy. Who that is going to be and whether you can harden yourself with it is the question!
Now, Family and Love can go hand in hand only when both integrate which means an uphill task for both sides to negotiate, navigate and live in harmony. If this can be achieved by some neutral person bringing both sides together, please attempt this first before making a final decision. But make the choice soon, so there is a resolution either way.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2024Hindi
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Hello mam, glad to find you here. Mam, I'm a female, 27 yrs, I have been in a relationship with my partner since 9yrs, but he is from different caste. We both were immature when we started our relationship but our relationship grew stronger as time passed.We have gone through ups and downs of our relationship and are still intact. When I was into 3yrs of our relationship he was doing some odd job, at that time I told my mom about us and she said 'NO' because of caste issue irrespective of his job. Another reason is that my father is an impulsive person who thinks to harm himself whenever something happens, so mom said my father might harm himself if I go forward. At the same time there were some issues in boys family and my brother met them and he said no to it.But I couldn't get away from him, so I stayed. Later I talked to my partner about his family environment and I said that I couldn't stay with them because of the negative impact. He talked to his family and confirmed that after marriage we will lead our life under different roof but maintain the sufficient relationship with his family. We both are now settled in jobs but he earns a bit less than me but we earn a handsome salary combining our both salaries. Now, it's time for my marriage and I want to marry him and he have changed alot for me without leaving his family and he understands me very well. I feel safe with him. Now the problem is my parents wants to get me married and I also want to get married to the whom I loved but my mom and brother are not yet all giving me the chance to convince them. They are trying to convince me for marriage with others but I couldn't do that, that will kill me all my life. They are saying that if I go for intercaste then they have to suffer all their life and my father might do something to himself if he finds out. I love my family dearly and that's why I have been waiting all these years for their approval. I do not want anyone to lose their life because of me. My partner have left the decision to me because of my situation at home and he is supportive of me. My transfer is nearing where I have two options, one is to opt for my home town(not Village), where I can bring my parents to town with me to stay( now my posting is in another city). Second is to opt for different city( where I have to stay with my brother who doesn't approve of my love and blames me for his career). In order for me to convince them for my marriage should stay with my family or away from them and how can I convince them? Sorry' for the long story and I hope I hear from you.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Be clear about what you want and in this process/journey, there will be a lot of highs and lows...
Also, you may not be able to have the cake and eat it too which is why you are struggling at making a decision. You want to marry the man of your dreams that your parents and brother disapprove of BUT you don't want to disappoint them by going against them...You can't have one foot in two different paths...it will tear you apart; literally...
So, decide what you want, the pros and cons of going against the family...of course there are situations where over time, parents have accepted the boy/girl but there's a lot of patient waiting.
If you are in haste, they are not going to relent and you will be left feeling disappointed...
Decide and then do whatever it takes to make that decision right...

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My father has just got retired. He has an outstanding home loan of Rs. 18 lakh which has 51000/- as emi. His pension is also 51000/-. His monthly expense are 20,000/-. He received gratuity of Rs. 18 lakh. What he should do either set off his home loan so that his pension is saved from emi burden or anything else ? He is also interested in investing money.. but At this time of his age , he looks for low to moderate risk plans. Guide him/me to step up his financial status.
Ans: Your father has entered a very important phase of life with stable pension income, controlled expenses, and a meaningful lump sum in hand. This gives a good base to make calm and sensible decisions. With the right steps, financial comfort and peace of mind are very much achievable.
» Understanding the Current Cash Flow Situation
– Monthly pension and home loan EMI are equal, which means the entire pension is getting blocked
– Monthly household expenses are modest and manageable
– The home loan is the only major liability
– Gratuity amount is sufficient to fully address the loan if required
This situation calls for prioritising certainty, emotional comfort, and steady income rather than chasing high returns.
» Priority of Debt Clearance at Retirement
– At retirement, protecting regular income becomes more important than growing wealth aggressively
– When EMI equals pension, it creates mental pressure and reduces flexibility
– Clearing the home loan removes interest burden and frees the pension fully for living expenses
– Being debt-free at retirement brings emotional relief, which is a big but often ignored benefit
From a Certified Financial Planner’s perspective, clearing the home loan using gratuity is a strong and sensible step in this case.
» Impact of Closing the Home Loan
– Pension of Rs. 51,000 becomes fully available
– After expenses of around Rs. 20,000, there is monthly surplus
– No dependency on investment returns to meet daily needs
– Lower stress during market ups and downs
This creates a solid foundation before thinking about investments.
» Investing After Loan Closure
– Do not invest the entire gratuity at once
– Keep sufficient amount in safe and liquid avenues for emergencies
– Investment should focus on capital protection first, income second, and growth last
– Avoid locking money for long periods
At this age, investments should support life, not control it.
» Suitable Risk Approach at This Stage
– Low to moderate risk is appropriate and practical
– Portfolio should be spread across stable income options and carefully chosen growth-oriented mutual funds
– Avoid aggressive strategies or return promises
– Regular review is more important than high returns
Actively managed mutual funds are better suited here as they adjust to market conditions and manage downside risks, which is important post-retirement.
» Creating Monthly Income and Stability
– Use part of surplus pension for simple, planned investments
– Keep some amount invested for inflation protection
– Maintain enough liquidity to avoid forced withdrawals
– Do not depend fully on markets for monthly expenses
This balanced approach gives income comfort and gradual wealth support.
» Emergency and Health Planning
– Keep at least one year of expenses in easily accessible form
– Ensure health insurance is active and adequate
– Avoid using investments for unexpected medical needs
This protects long-term investments from early disruption.
» Role of Discipline and Guidance
– Avoid reacting to short-term market movements
– Stick to simple, understandable products
– Investing through a regular plan with guidance ensures monitoring, behavioural support, and timely corrections
At this stage, guidance matters more than saving small costs.
» Final Insights
– Closing the home loan is the first and most sensible move
– Debt-free retirement improves quality of life and decision-making
– Investments should follow stability-first thinking
– A calm, structured approach will protect capital and provide confidence
Your concern for your father’s future is thoughtful and responsible. With these steps, he can enjoy retirement with dignity, peace, and financial comfort.
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My father's monthly income is 1.5L and he has multiple EMI's of unsecured loans of monthly 2.1L which makes it difficult/impossible to pay and it forces to take a new loan just to pay the monthly EMI The Total loans are worth 59Lakh Rupees and it is increasing month by month. None of the bank and private financial companies are providing loan too now and it is at this stage. What is recommended to do? Household Monthly Expenses-30k-35k Their Income-1.3-1.4L I am a Student age - 20 His Age-55 Loan Details- All Personal Unsecured Loans one after another current outstanding 60Lakh Assets- Just House and 2 Agricultural Lands Current Monthly EMI - 2,01,000 Rs No Savings more than 3-4 Lakhs
Ans: It takes courage to explain such a situation clearly, especially at your age. This problem is serious, but it is not the end. With the right steps, damage can be controlled and stability can slowly come back.

» Understanding the real problem
– Monthly income is around Rs 1.3–1.4L
– Monthly EMI is around Rs 2.01L, which is much higher than income
– Household expenses of Rs 30–35k are reasonable and not the issue
– All loans are unsecured personal loans, which usually have very high interest
– New loans were taken only to pay old EMIs, creating a debt trap
– No lender is willing to give further loans, which means the cycle has hit a wall

This is not a cash flow problem alone. This is a structural debt problem.

» Why the situation is getting worse every month
– EMI is higher than income, so default is unavoidable
– Unsecured loans grow fast because of high interest
– Paying EMI by taking another loan only increases total outstanding
– Stress and pressure often delay tough but necessary decisions

This is not about discipline or effort. The numbers simply do not support continuation.

» Immediate actions that must be taken
– Stop taking any new loan under any condition
– Stop using credit cards, overdrafts, or informal borrowing
– Keep aside money only for food, electricity, and basic needs
– Do not promise EMIs that cannot be honoured

Missing EMIs is emotionally hard, but continuing like this is financially destructive.

» How to handle lenders and EMIs
– Do not avoid calls, but communicate calmly
– Explain income reality and inability to pay current EMI
– Request restructuring, lower EMI, or temporary relief
– Some lenders may not agree immediately, but communication matters

Paying something small is better than paying nothing, but only if it does not create new debt.

» Role of assets in this situation
– You mentioned a house and two agricultural lands
– These are not investments right now; they are safety tools
– When unsecured debt becomes unmanageable, asset-based resolution becomes necessary
– Clearing high-interest unsecured loans is more important than holding assets under pressure

This is not a loss of status. This is a step to protect the family’s future.

» What should NOT be done
– Do not take loans from friends or relatives to pay EMIs
– Do not fall for private lenders promising quick money
– Do not put pressure on yourself as a 20-year-old student to fix everything
– Do not ignore the problem hoping income will suddenly rise

Hope without action only increases damage.

» Your role as a student and family member
– Your focus should remain on education and skill building
– Do not sacrifice your future to solve today’s crisis
– Emotional support to your father is important, not financial burden
– Decisions should be taken by elders with professional guidance

This problem was created over time and must be solved structurally, not emotionally.

» Long-term correction mindset
– Unsecured debt must be reduced drastically
– Once stability comes, no borrowing without repayment capacity
– Emergency fund should be built slowly in future
– Insurance and savings come only after debt control

Right now, survival and stabilisation are the priorities.

» Final Insights
– The current EMI level is not sustainable under any scenario
– Continuing the same approach will only increase stress and debt
– Tough decisions taken now can prevent permanent damage
– This phase will pass if addressed directly and honestly
– You are asking the right questions early, which itself gives hope

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment
Asked on - Feb 05, 2026 | Answered on Feb 06, 2026
He has 2 agricultural lands from which 1 is worth 15Lakhs and another of 60-70 Lakhs which should he consider selling. And also from the past 3 months he was looking for mortgage secured loan on house of 25Lakh but it is not being approved by the bank so should he wait for it more or should consider selling the land?? The debt has been increased by 3.3Lakhs this month too which makes it exceed 60Lakhs Is there any other option than selling the land anything else His Cibil Is 714 But no bank is approving secured loan too why is it so? Today a finance company named western capital lmt said that they can do a secured loan of 30Lakhs but I haven't heard of this company before and there is less information available about it online too... Should he proceed taking a loan like this or selling the land would be wiser decision?? He just keeps ignoring it as it will be automatically structured and just keeps lending money from relatives or friends to pay the EMI I Have instructed multiple times that we have to do something but ignoring me the Loan has been increased by 13Lakhs just to pay the EMI's. Just keeps looking for new loans every month and this cycle repeats until every 1-10th of the month. Then ignoring till the deadline or EMI Date at which time i manage money through my friends which i have stopped doing now as I don't think it is good. Also yesterday he tried to apply for Bajaj Finance Cash Credit of 10Lakhs which hopefully got rejected and also he made a new account of SBI Cash Credit-3.5Lakh Rs Also Took a gold loan of 2.7Lakh In January I am explaining this everyday that we have to take some action against it so that it will become stable but my parents just wait for some miracle to happen without taking any action just calling for loans, trying for secure loans,etc.
Ans: Your concern is valid and timely.

» Selling Asset vs Taking New Secured Loan
– Waiting for a secured loan approval is no longer practical; banks are rejecting due to high unsecured exposure and rising monthly stress, not just CIBIL
– Taking a secured loan from an unknown finance company is risky and can worsen the trap with higher interest and strict recovery
– Using one loan to pay another has already increased debt sharply and must stop

» Which Land to Consider
– Selling the smaller agricultural land first is the wiser step to immediately reduce high-interest unsecured loans
– Clearing a large portion of unsecured debt gives breathing space and prevents further damage

» What Must Stop Immediately
– No new loans, cash credit, gold loans, or borrowing from relatives
– Ignoring the problem will only increase loss

» Final Insights
– Asset sale is damage control, not failure
– Reducing debt is more important than waiting for miracles

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Sir, I am 46yr old and have annual package of Rs 50L. I have two questions: 1) I am planning to invest monthly in SIP. Please advice on how can I do this so as to have a substantial fund in the next 10yrs. 2) I am having a home loan of Rs 39L from HDFC. During the loan agreement, they made me to take insurance cover for the entire loan amount (Rs 45L) for a period of 20yrs for which I am paying premium of Rs 72K annually in two parts for a period of 10yrs (premium return option). Please advice whether it is beneficial to continue with such policy and paying Rs 72K annually.
Ans: Your income level, age, and intent to plan early give you a strong base. With the right structure and discipline, the next 10 years can meaningfully strengthen your financial position.

» Understanding your current position
– At 46, you still have a healthy time window for growth-oriented investing
– Annual package of Rs 50L gives good monthly surplus potential
– Having a running home loan and insurance already shows responsibility
– Now the focus should be on clarity, efficiency, and alignment of investments

» Building a strong SIP strategy for the next 10 years
– For a 10-year horizon, mutual funds are suitable, especially when investments are done through SIP
– SIP helps in managing market ups and downs and builds discipline
– The goal here should be wealth creation, not just saving

Key approach to SIP planning
– Divide investments across equity-oriented and hybrid-oriented mutual funds
– Equity-oriented funds help in growth and inflation protection over 10 years
– Hybrid funds add balance and reduce sharp volatility
– Avoid keeping everything in one style or one category

Allocation guidance
– Majority portion can go towards equity-oriented mutual funds since your income is strong and time horizon is 10 years
– A smaller portion can be in hybrid-oriented funds for stability
– Avoid frequent changes; review once a year
– Increase SIP amount gradually as income grows

Important behavioural aspects
– Do not stop SIP during market corrections
– Market volatility in between is normal and temporary
– SIP works best when continued with patience

Tax understanding (only for awareness)
– Equity mutual funds held for more than one year attract LTCG tax above Rs 1.25 lakh at 12.5%
– Short-term gains are taxed at 20%
– This should not stop you from equity exposure, but should be planned smartly

» Review of home loan linked insurance policy
– You were made to take an insurance cover of Rs 45L linked to the home loan
– Premium of Rs 72K annually for 10 years is a high commitment
– The policy has a premium return option, which often looks attractive but needs careful evaluation

Key observations
– The primary purpose of insurance is protection, not return
– Loan-linked insurance policies are usually expensive compared to pure protection options
– Premium return feature does not mean free insurance; cost is built into premiums
– Coverage is tied to loan, not to your family’s full financial needs

Concerns with continuing this policy
– Rs 72K per year is a significant cash outflow
– Insurance cover reduces as loan reduces, but premium usually remains same
– Returns from such policies are often low when compared to long-term mutual fund investing
– It limits flexibility

Better way to think about insurance
– Insurance should be simple, adequate, and cost-efficient
– Investment and insurance should ideally be kept separate
– This allows better transparency and control

Whether to continue or not
– If the policy has already completed many years, surrender value and penalties must be reviewed before taking action
– If still in early years, continuing purely for premium return may not be efficient
– A detailed policy review is needed before deciding to continue or exit

» How SIP and insurance decisions should work together
– Money saved from high-cost insurance premiums can improve SIP strength
– Better cash flow gives better flexibility
– Protection should cover family responsibilities, not just loan amount
– Investments should work for growth, not lock-in

» Other important points for a 360-degree view
– Keep adequate emergency fund separate from SIPs
– Health insurance should be sufficient and independent
– Avoid mixing insurance products with investment goals
– Review plan annually, not frequently

» Finally
– Your intention to plan now is timely and sensible
– A well-structured SIP plan over the next 10 years can create a meaningful corpus
– Insurance decisions should be based on protection value, not returns
– With clarity and consistency, you can comfortably balance loan obligations, protection, and wealth creation

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hi Gurus. I am 33 years Old, IT professional, having ~ 10 years of experience. Due to some bad decision and addiction got trapped in huge debt. I am in debt of ~35Lakhs. Loan 1 - 450000 (Completed by Aug 2027) Loan 2 - 130140 (Completed by Jan 2027) Loan 3 - 117816 (Completed by Jan 2027) Loan 4 - 180000 (Completed by Aug 2028) Loan 5 - 350000 (Settlement Amount) Relative Loan - 21 lakh Monthly Income - 1.6 lakh Married in April 2025. No Savings Yet. Only Some EPFO balance will be there ~ 4 lakhs Can anyone please help me getting financial freedom and have some corpus for my future. Monthly Expenses :- Own Expenses ~ 30K EMI :- Loan 1 - 27657 Loan 2 - 10845 Loan 3 - 9818 Loan 4 - 8670 Please guide me how to become debt free as quick as possible. How to save for my future.
Ans: Hi Neeraj,

You are badly trapped in a debt cycle.
Your monthly income - 1.6 lakhs; Expenses - 30k; EMIs - 57k per month and another outstanding loan of 21 lakhs.

I would like to know if your spouse also earns? If she can help in any way financially to get rid of these loans faster.

If no, you can start following this strategy.
You are still left with 60k in hand after all expenses and emis.

We will use 40k from the balance 60k for prepaying laons and 20k for building a future safety net.
>> Try and finish loan 2 first by paying 40k additional for 2 months. Will be done by May month.
> Once it is done, you will have free emi of 10845 and 40k - total 50k per month. Use this amount to finish loan 3.
It will be done by July.
>> Now you have 50k + 10k from loan 3 emi - total 60k. Close loan 4 and 1 as well. Once all these loans are done, by 2027 maximum, you wil have 57k + 40k. Use this entire amount to pay relatives loan every month.
You will br debt free in another 2 years.

From remaining 20k, start building an emergency corpus. Park 20k in FD for 10 months. You will have 2 lakhs as your emergency fund.
Once this is done, start investing 20k per month in equity mutual funds for your secured future.

This way, you can finsih off your loans fast and wisely.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 04, 2026Hindi
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Respected Sir I need some clarity on where to invest and how much percent should i in each division like FD, MF although i know it depends on each ones risk ability but if you could just suggest. I am an NRI I have around 13-15 L in FD Around 10-12 L as Balance Around 2- 3 L in MFs Around 50 -60 k in stock market No LICs No term insurance yet No property investment Apart from this I have about 35L worth of funds in my foreign account. I'm 35 and lone breadwinner and having 2 children aged 7 and 3. Please can you guide me the path so that education gets a bit relieved with whatever I invest in. Thanks in advance Sir
Ans: Being an NRI, a single earning member, and a parent of two young children, you are already thinking responsibly. Your current savings show discipline. With the right structure, education goals can become much lighter and stress-free over time.

» Current Financial Snapshot Assessment
– You have strong liquidity across FD, bank balance, and overseas savings
– Equity exposure is currently low compared to your age and long-term goals
– Having no high-cost insurance products is a positive starting point
– Overseas funds give flexibility but need alignment with Indian goals like children’s education

» Priority One – Protection Before Investment
– As a lone breadwinner, term insurance is non-negotiable
– Adequate life cover ensures children’s education continues even if income stops
– Pure term insurance is cost-efficient and simple
– Health cover should be ensured for family, even if employer cover exists abroad

» Emergency and Stability Bucket
– Keep emergency money equivalent to 6–9 months of expenses
– This can stay in FD and high-liquidity options
– Your existing FD and bank balance are more than sufficient for this need
– Avoid using this portion for market-linked investments

» Suggested Asset Allocation Direction
– At age 35, long-term goals allow meaningful equity exposure
– A balanced direction could be:

Around 30–35% in stable instruments like FD and similar options

Around 60–65% in well-managed equity-oriented mutual funds

Around 5% for direct stock exposure only if you track markets regularly
– Overseas funds can be aligned in similar proportion, not left idle

» Mutual Funds for Children’s Education
– Education is a long-term goal with rising costs
– Equity-oriented mutual funds suit this goal better than fixed options
– Start separate investments mentally for each child
– Use staggered investments instead of lump sum to manage market swings
– Stay invested till the goal is near, then gradually reduce risk

» Use of Overseas Funds
– Do not rush to bring all foreign money into India at once
– Part of it can be invested gradually in India through proper NRI channels
– Another part can remain abroad for currency diversification
– What matters is goal alignment, not location of money

» Review of Current MF and Stock Exposure
– Current MF allocation is too small to make a long-term impact
– Increase mutual fund contribution steadily, not aggressively
– Direct stocks should remain limited unless you actively monitor them
– Focus more on professionally managed funds for consistency

» Tax Awareness for Mutual Funds
– Equity mutual fund gains beyond Rs.1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5% for long term
– Short-term equity gains are taxed at 20%
– This makes long-term holding more rewarding and predictable

» 360-Degree Education Planning View
– Combine insurance, disciplined investing, and time
– Do not mix education money with short-term needs
– Review allocation once a year as income and responsibilities change
– Stay simple and consistent rather than chasing returns

» Final Insights
– You are well placed financially, the structure just needs refinement
– Increasing equity exposure gradually will ease future education pressure
– Protect income first, then grow money patiently
– With discipline and timely reviews, children’s education can be comfortably managed

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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