Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help
Anu

Anu Krishna  |1735 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 15, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more
Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship

Hello mam, glad to find you here. Mam, I'm a female, 27 yrs, I have been in a relationship with my partner since 9yrs, but he is from different caste. We both were immature when we started our relationship but our relationship grew stronger as time passed.We have gone through ups and downs of our relationship and are still intact. When I was into 3yrs of our relationship he was doing some odd job, at that time I told my mom about us and she said 'NO' because of caste issue irrespective of his job. Another reason is that my father is an impulsive person who thinks to harm himself whenever something happens, so mom said my father might harm himself if I go forward. At the same time there were some issues in boys family and my brother met them and he said no to it.But I couldn't get away from him, so I stayed. Later I talked to my partner about his family environment and I said that I couldn't stay with them because of the negative impact. He talked to his family and confirmed that after marriage we will lead our life under different roof but maintain the sufficient relationship with his family. We both are now settled in jobs but he earns a bit less than me but we earn a handsome salary combining our both salaries. Now, it's time for my marriage and I want to marry him and he have changed alot for me without leaving his family and he understands me very well. I feel safe with him. Now the problem is my parents wants to get me married and I also want to get married to the whom I loved but my mom and brother are not yet all giving me the chance to convince them. They are trying to convince me for marriage with others but I couldn't do that, that will kill me all my life. They are saying that if I go for intercaste then they have to suffer all their life and my father might do something to himself if he finds out. I love my family dearly and that's why I have been waiting all these years for their approval. I do not want anyone to lose their life because of me. My partner have left the decision to me because of my situation at home and he is supportive of me. My transfer is nearing where I have two options, one is to opt for my home town(not Village), where I can bring my parents to town with me to stay( now my posting is in another city). Second is to opt for different city( where I have to stay with my brother who doesn't approve of my love and blames me for his career). In order for me to convince them for my marriage should stay with my family or away from them and how can I convince them? Sorry' for the long story and I hope I hear from you.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Be clear about what you want and in this process/journey, there will be a lot of highs and lows...
Also, you may not be able to have the cake and eat it too which is why you are struggling at making a decision. You want to marry the man of your dreams that your parents and brother disapprove of BUT you don't want to disappoint them by going against them...You can't have one foot in two different paths...it will tear you apart; literally...
So, decide what you want, the pros and cons of going against the family...of course there are situations where over time, parents have accepted the boy/girl but there's a lot of patient waiting.
If you are in haste, they are not going to relent and you will be left feeling disappointed...
Decide and then do whatever it takes to make that decision right...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1735 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 26, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 25, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Hi mam, actually I am having a trouble in my relationship. Me and my partner are from different castes but we love each other. Due to the fear of my parents I told him some days back that my parents will never agree for our marriage as he is one year younger than me, he is from different caste and we both are in the final stage of our professional course and have not gone for job yet. But we are unable to leave each other and keep on crying. Now I am thinking of talking about this to my parents once my exams are over in a couple of months because I'm already 24 and they will start looking for alliance for me. But my partner is like there's no problem on his side but he doesn't want me to hurt and ruin relationship with my parents due to this disclosure and says that its never going to happen with heavy emotions and teary eyes. I am also unable to control my emotions and tears. Please advise me on what to do please mam....
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, your partner is being kind and thinking for you and your relationship with your parents. It is a nice trait to have to be empathetic but it may cost him the relationship. And he has taken this stance only because you have talked him about how fearful you are of your parents.
I guess instead of giving up like this, why don't the two of you sit down as adults and discuss how to talk to your parents and make this happen. When you act against what society and family set as norms, you should have expected something to go against the fairy tale event, right?
Since you did not set this tone in mind, now it's about taking the bull by the horns and finding what's the best solution. Why give up?

All the best!

..Read more

Kanchan

Kanchan Rai  |644 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 14, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
I have been in a relationship with a guy since 10th grade its been 11 years now so we decided to tell our parents his family had no issues and he is currently in canada as a music student he has even started his own event management company but its still just beginning. My parents reacted in a healthy manner but the moment they came to know about inter caste and his financial status( not upto the mark) they had straight forwardly said no with alotbof drama and foul words even. Its been 9 months now im still waiting for them to agree but they are insisting me to move on and go for arrange marriage. I on the other hand belong to business family and has never done any job. But all this while i have cane to know i cant live without my parents or my bf and definitely not get marriaed to someone else. Please help me out what to do!
Ans: First, acknowledge that this situation requires careful navigation. Your relationship has stood the test of time, and clearly, you have strong feelings for your boyfriend, especially given that you've been together for 11 years. His dedication to pursuing his dreams in Canada and building his career in music and event management is admirable, even if his financial situation isn't yet stable. What you need to assess is whether you're willing to stand by him as he grows and whether you share the same vision for the future.

On the other hand, your parents’ concerns seem to stem from their desire for you to have a secure future, especially given your family's business background. They are likely looking for someone who fits into their worldview of stability, and this has led to their reaction when they learned about the inter-caste relationship and your boyfriend’s current financial situation. Their opposition is likely based on their love for you, but the drama and foul words, while hurtful, might reflect their frustration at feeling like they're losing control over your future.

You’ve expressed that you don’t want to lose either your parents or your boyfriend, and that’s where the conflict lies. In this case, the solution isn’t simple, but it can start with communication. It might be helpful to have an open, calm conversation with your parents—not to argue or change their minds immediately, but to help them understand your feelings. Let them know how much you value their opinion, but also explain why you love your boyfriend and why you believe in his potential. Sometimes parents need time to understand that relationships aren't only about caste or financial standing, but also about trust, love, and shared dreams.

At the same time, you might need to have a serious conversation with your boyfriend about your future together, especially given that he's still in the early stages of his career. Be honest about the pressure you're feeling from your family and make sure you're both on the same page about your long-term goals, including how you might handle financial challenges.

It's also important to remember that this decision is yours to make. You are in a unique position, being part of a business family, which means that you've likely been sheltered from certain financial realities. If you do choose to marry your boyfriend, the lifestyle may not immediately match what you’re used to. But if you're confident in his ambition and in the strength of your relationship, then that’s something worth considering as part of your future.

Lastly, while it’s painful to feel like you have to choose between two important parts of your life, it’s possible to work towards a solution that doesn’t leave you with regrets. Give your parents time to see your perspective, but also recognize that their acceptance might take longer than you’d like. In the meantime, staying true to what you value most in life—whether that’s love, security, or family harmony—will guide your decision-making process.

You might also benefit from seeking guidance from a neutral third party, such as a counselor or mediator, who can help you navigate these conversations with both your parents and your boyfriend. This way, you can approach the situation with emotional clarity and respect for everyone involved, including yourself.

..Read more

Latest Questions
Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |10852 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2025Hindi
Money
HI Sir, I am a retired person and looking to decrease my taxable income to below surcharge applicability level. Currently all funds are in fixed deposits. Can you help me identify any tax free investments like government bonds with high security since I cannot take risk of mutual funds.
Ans: You want to reduce your taxable income.
You also want to keep your savings secure.
Your savings are now in fixed deposits.
FD interest is fully taxable.
This increases your taxable income.
This may push you above surcharge levels.
So you want alternatives that give safety and tax benefits.
This is a very fair expectation for a retired person.
You need stability first.
Return comes second.
Tax efficiency comes third.
Your plan must support all three.

» Why safety should be your first filter
At your stage, protecting capital is important.
Taking high risk is not needed.
You only need safe and steady instruments.
You must avoid drastic changes.
Your savings must last long.
So the instruments we choose must be:
– Government-backed
– High security
– Predictable income
– Low volatility
– Easy to track

These qualities matter more than chasing high return.

» Why pure fixed deposits may not suit you now
FDs are safe.
But they hurt you in taxes.
All interest is taxed as per your slab.
This pushes your taxable income up.
It reduces post-tax interest.
If FD rates fall later, your income also falls.
You also cannot lower tax liability much with FDs.
So FDs alone cannot solve your need.

» Understanding tax-free investment options
You asked for tax-free instruments.
Tax-free options are limited in India.
But some choices still help you.
There are two types:
– Fully tax-free income
– Tax-saving instruments under Section 80C
Both can reduce your taxable income.
Both also suit low-risk profiles.

» Tax-free bonds (from past issuances)
Tax-free bonds were issued earlier by some government entities.
They offered tax-free interest.
They were backed by strong institutions.
They carried high security.
They gave steady returns.
Even today, you may buy them in the market.
But there are points to note:
– They trade in the secondary market
– Price may be higher or lower than face value
– Buying at high price reduces your effective yield
– But interest remains tax-free

These bonds are safe because the issuers are strong.
But you must check the yield before you buy.
Still, they are one of the safest tax-free avenues.

» Government-backed senior citizen schemes
These schemes give safety and stable income.
They also help in tax planning.
You can use them to reduce the taxable portion of your total income.

– Senior Citizens Savings Scheme (SCSS)
This scheme suits retired people very well.
The government backs it.
It gives steady interest.
Interest is taxable.
But the principal investment is eligible for deduction under Section 80C.
This lowers your taxable income.
You can invest a good amount in this.
It is safe and predictable.
It gives quarterly payout.
It also keeps your capital protected.

– PPF (if you open extension)
You said your earlier PPF matured.
You can extend it for five years at a time.
PPF interest is tax-free.
This gives safety.
This reduces tax burden.
You can use it again if you like long-term stability.
Liquidity is limited.
But tax reduction is strong.
PPF gives complete safety due to government support.

– 5-year tax-saving FD
It gives 80C benefit.
But interest is taxable.
It still reduces your taxable income for that year.
It suits low-risk investors.
But lock-in exists for five years.

» RBI Floating Rate Savings Bonds
These are government-backed bonds.
Very high security.
Interest rate resets every six months.
Interest is taxable.
But they help you shift money from FD to a safer base.
This also gives stable income.
This protects capital.
You reduce overall exposure to fully-taxable FD interest by diversifying.

» State Development Loans (SDLs) through RBI
SDLs are safer because states issue them.
They come with strong backing.
They give higher safety than corporate bonds.
Interest is taxable.
But you get predictable returns.
They suit investors who want security.
But you must buy them only through safe platforms.

However, they are not tax-free.
Still, they offer high-grade safety.

» Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs)
SGBs are backed by Government of India.
They give 2.5% interest.
Interest is taxable.
But capital gains after 8 years are tax-free.
This is a strong tax advantage.
This supports long-term planning.
This also lowers future taxable income.
There is no mutual fund risk here.
This is purely sovereign-backed.
But price moves with gold rates.
You must be comfortable with that.
But capital guarantee is not applicable.
So only take a small portion.

» Adding mutual fund debt funds for tax deferment

Debt mutual funds give an important advantage.
They defer tax until redemption.
Tax is not paid each year like FD interest.
This gives better control over taxable income.
You can redeem when your income is lower.
This helps in surcharge management.
Debt funds also give better liquidity than FD.
Volatility is mild.
You must choose high-quality portfolios only.
These funds suit retired people for tax timing benefits.
You will still keep risk low.
Debt funds support the “tax control” part of your plan.
This is a major advantage over FDs.
FDs force you to pay tax every year.
Debt funds let you choose when to pay.

» Adding active income–arbitrage category for tax advantage

Arbitrage funds hold equity positions, but risk is low.
They use hedged positions.
They behave like very low-risk debt instruments.
Their taxation follows equity rules.
This gives a smart tax advantage.
This can help reduce your taxable income legally.
Long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh get taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term gains are taxed at 20%.
This is better than being taxed at your full slab each year like FD interest.
Arbitrage funds also give good liquidity.
They help control yearly income.
They suit conservative retired investors very well.
They give safety, flexibility, and tax efficiency.
This is a strong tool for reducing the effective tax load.

» Why mutual funds are still optional
You said you want safety.
You can still avoid equity mutual funds.
Debt and arbitrage funds keep risk low.
They help reduce yearly taxable income.
So they work well for your goal.
You remain in a safe zone.
You also gain tax control.
This combination supports your retired life.

» How to stay below the surcharge level
You can reduce taxable income in these ways:
– Shift part of FD money into SCSS
– Use PPF extension for a portion
– Use 80C fully with SCSS + PPF + tax-saving FD
– Reduce annual taxable interest by shifting part to debt funds
– Use arbitrage funds for equity-tax advantage with low risk
– Add some tax-free bonds for tax-free flow
– Add SGBs for long-term tax-free capital gain
– Reduce yearly FD interest load

Each step lowers taxable income safely.

» Income planning structure (concept only, without numbers)
A simple structure may work like this:
– Some part in SCSS for stable quarterly income
– Some part in PPF for tax-free long-term growth
– Some part in tax-free bonds for tax-free interest
– Some part in SGBs for future tax-free gains
– Some part in debt mutual funds for tax deferment
– Some part in arbitrage funds for equity-tax advantage with low risk
– Some part in short-term FD for liquidity

This keeps income steady.
This keeps taxes low.
This keeps capital safe.
This reduces FD dependence.
This spreads risk across government-backed and low-risk options only.

» Liquidity planning for retired life
Liquidity is important.
You must always hold some money ready.
You cannot lock all money for long.
But you also need tax relief.
So you need layers:

– Very liquid layer: short-term FD
– Semi-liquid layer: SCSS and debt funds
– Tax-advantage layer: arbitrage funds
– Long-term safe layer: PPF and SGBs
– Tax-free layer: PPF and old tax-free bonds

This gives 360-degree stability.

» Behaviour and discipline
As a retired person, peace is important.
Your plan must be simple.
Your plan must be stable.
Your plan must not need fast changes.
Your plan must reduce taxes quietly.
Your plan must protect capital always.

Your job is only to review once a year.
Nothing more.
This reduces stress.
This keeps life calm.

» Common mistakes you must avoid
– Do not put too much in FD
– Do not depend only on taxable interest
– Do not chase high returns
– Do not buy risky bonds
– Do not pick corporate bonds with low ratings
– Do not mix too many options
– Do not ignore 80C benefits
– Avoid high-risk equity funds if you are not comfortable

These small steps protect your wealth.

» Importance of understanding tax impact
Taxes reduce income for retired people.
So planning must be smart.
You need a mix of tax-free and tax-friendly choices.
You need government-backed safety.
You need deferred-tax instruments like debt funds.
You need low-risk equity-tax category like arbitrage funds.
This is possible without taking high risk.
Your plan must reduce repeated taxable interest.
Your plan must build tax-efficient long-term sources.

» Why some earlier tax-free instruments are best for you
Earlier tax-free bonds remain one of the best low-risk options.
They offer:
– Zero tax on interest
– Government-backed security
– Predictable payouts
– No market volatility like equity

You can buy them carefully through reputed brokers only.
The yield must be checked.
Even then, they suit your nature very well.

» How to avoid surcharge
Surcharge applies on income above certain limits.
So you must:
– Reduce taxable interest
– Increase tax-free sources
– Use 80C fully
– Shift from FD to safer government schemes
– Use debt funds for tax deferment
– Use arbitrage funds for low-risk equity tax treatment
– Use structured layers of income

This keeps taxable income in your chosen range.

» How to manage income flow
You should break income into two parts:
– Taxable income
– Tax-free income

You cannot eliminate tax fully.
But you can balance both.
This helps you stay in the correct bracket.
You will enjoy peace and safety.

» Your money should serve your retired life
Your money must support comfort.
Your tax planning must support health needs.
Your interest must support monthly expenses.
Your capital must stay safe.
Your stress must stay low.
Your plan must last for your lifetime.
Safety and tax reduction go hand in hand here.

» Finally
You can reduce your taxable income safely.
You can shift part of your money into government-backed schemes.
You can use SCSS, PPF, tax-free bonds, SGBs, and 80C-based options.
You can now also use debt mutual funds for tax deferment.
You can also use active arbitrage funds for equity-tax benefit with low risk.
Each of these gives security.
Each reduces dependence on taxable FD interest.
Each protects your lifestyle.
Your plan will stay safe, simple, tax-efficient, and stable.
This gives you 360-degree peace in retired life.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

Reetika

Reetika Sharma  |375 Answers  |Ask -

Financial Planner, MF and Insurance Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2025

Money
Hope you are doing great. I am 32 years old. I earn roughly 1.1lkh per month. My PPF portfolio is around 19lkh(started in 2018) giving 12.5k per month(From next year 80CC tax benefit will be of no use) lock in till 2033, I also have SIP of 30k (Axis Index- 5k, Axis Midcap-5k & SBI Small cap-20k(Since-2022 & add lumpsum sometimes))- Invested Value Now Rs 12.26lkh & Return- Rs 15.84lkh. I Invest in mostly blue chip equity stocks time to time from 2021 & have invested round about 10lkh & return is 15lkh. My monthly spend is around 30k. I have stacked emergency fund in India Post & Liquid fund. I can invest max 30k if PPF continues & 42.5k if PPF doesn't continue after the lock in is over. With 5% step up annually. I have a few questions: 1. Since PPF will not contribute to my tax savings from next year what should my approach be? Stop PPF & wait till 2033 for it to mature. And invest 12.5k SIP in MF? If yes where should I & in what ratio. 2.I want to reach the goal of 4-5cr in the next 15 years. Kindly guide me. Thanks in advance. Regards
Ans: Hi Subho,

There is no benefit of continuing your PPF investments for tax benefit. Redirect extra 12.5k per month to mutual funds.
But you cannot close your PPF account before 2033, hence contribute only 500 per year to keep the account active.

Total new monthly contribution in MF - 42.5k.
Current selection of funds is not recommended. Your overall contribution in small cap is way too much to continue. Distribute equally in all 3 funds from now on. And can add a flexicap fund of 10k per month in your portfolio.

Try to increase your SIP whenever possible. As with current allocationand contribution, you will get 3.4 crores after 15 years. Where as if you do an annual stepup of 10%, you can get 5 crores after 15 years which you want.

Also as your portfolio size is big, taking a professional advisor's help is recommended. And avoid investing in direct stocks. Reinvest the stock money into mutual funds for a consistent and safe growth.

Hence do consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

...Read more

Reetika

Reetika Sharma  |375 Answers  |Ask -

Financial Planner, MF and Insurance Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 17, 2025Hindi
Money
Hi, I'm sorry in advance for a lengthy read and numerous questions. I'm 38 years old and would like to retire in next 10 years or less and I would like to reach portfolio worth 4 CRs and then retire. I already have a term insurance of 2 CR and gold of around half a KG. I currently have 20Lkh (15 for investment and 5 as emergency fund) that I would like to invest in lumpsum. My current portfolio (around 1 year old) is as follows and their Current value: SIPs were stopped in Jan 2025 due to financial reasons. 1. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund : 181920 (+9.93%) 2. Quant Small Cap Fund: 166550 (-1.74%) 3. Motilal Oswal Midcap Fund: 1,66,193 (+1.03%) 4. Nippon India Large Cap fund: 157025 (+8.67%) 5. HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund: 132040 (+6.06%) 6. Nippon India Nifty 500 Momentum 50 Index Fund: 84714 (-15.30%) 7. Stock portfolio: 810000 (+6%) I need help with a few of things. 1. Investing the large sum of 15 lkhs: which MFs should I invest this amount in, now? If so, should I spread that amount in the MFs I already have or go for new and at what proportion? Or is it not the right time to invest the bulk amount? 2.SIP: I would like to reinstate SIP of 1.3 lkhs: which MFs should I invest this amount in, now? If so, should I spread that amount in the MFs I already have or go for new and at what proportion? 3. 5 lakh emergency fund: Which specific asset class/MF should this be invested so that I can make a decent return better than savings account while this amount is easily accessible for emergencies. Please suggest specific fund even if it is debt/liquid/hybrid fund. Thank you for your help in advance.
Ans: Hi,

It is great that you are taking a step forward towards your early retirement after 10 years. Let us analyse things one at a time.
1. Emergency Fund - You want to put 5 lakhs as emergency fund for you. It is a good amount and you can park in liquid mutual fund. Go for ICICI or HDFC liquid funds for this.
2. Term Insurance - 2 crores cover is good enough. If you share monthly income, would be able to calculate exact amount more accurately.
3. Health Insurance - Take one with a minimum cover of 15 lakhs to cover yourself and family.
4. Current MF - currently around 8.5 lakhs value. Good funds. Continue this amount in these.
5. Stocks - current value of 8.1 lakhs. Direct stock investment is very risky and nor recommended as it requires complete tracking and knowledge. You can consider shifting the entire amount in mutual funds for your retirement.

You want to invest a lumpsum of 15 lakhs and start a SIP of 1.3 lakhs again. You can choose to invest 15 lakhs in equal proportion in your current mutual funds and start SIP in the same funds as well.
However, you can also consider consulting a professional advisor who can build a portfolio for you for all your investments. An advisor guides you with right investment throughout and monitors all investments periodically to cater the requirement and market movements.

Your goal is to reach a corpus of 4 crores in 10 years. With current investments you can only get 3.5 crores in 10 years. You need to increase your SIP by 10% each year to get 5 crores.

Also make sure you have no financial liability left when you retire. And have a dedicated fund for other major goals such as kids education, travel, their marriage etc.

Hence do consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

...Read more

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x