Namasthe Dr. I am 72. My menopause passed off very coolly without any hickups. Myself and my husband who is six years elder to me in age have been having regular sex once a week and we both enjoy the act. Is that normal or should we refrain from the act? I get arousal normally. Kindly suggest as I sometimes get a doubt whether sex at this age may not be good.

Ans: Dear Abhishek,
What number game are you playing? And why does she have to agree for 6 times a month? How did you arrive at that magic number?
Jokes aside; the less you focus on sex, the more it naturally might have a chance to happen. Sex frequency and quality changes with age and phases of life; the sooner you understand this, the more you will enjoy the times you actually get intimate.
- Spend a lot of quality time together
- Bring back the spice by becoming friends all over again
- Go on dates and have fun at social circles
To expect the same duration and frequency of sex maybe unrealistic; why not instead focus enjoying your time together, living the moment fully? That in itself will let you de-stress you way into the spicy moments.

Best wishes!

Ans: Dear Chaman,
As men and women age, they vary in terms of sexual interest.
She may not be interested as she does not feel the urge anymore. It could be because of natural physiological changes in a woman AND/OR a belief system that she holds which tells her that as people become OLD, sex is taboo!
Which means if you keep insisting, she will keep refusing. Have a chat with her about it without intense focus on sex but more with an intent of reconnecting with her in love.
I can't promise you that she will be ready BUT you can try. And if it comes to a place where she absolutely does not want sex, then you will have to respect it. Old beliefs are hard to drop!
Age is a number; but not everyone thinks of it this way! Aim to reconnect with her first...

All the best!

Ans: It's normal. It's good.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This happens with many couples and YES it is okay for you to masturbate whatever your age...Safe option with no complications! Stepping out of marital life is choice when made leads to a lot of 'headaches' and stresses...so, go for your safe option as suggested...

All the best!

Ans: Dear Nirmalya,
As long as your body supports your sexual activity, why not?
But of course, all the physical ailments that you mentioned and lifestyle ailments and working out or some work of exercise other than sex can help keeping it within the prescribed range.
It's very rare that a couple share the same level of interest and ability in sexual intimacy. So, enjoy this BUT health is important as well. So, do take care of your health as a priority.

All the best!