I am 61 YO,energetic,fullnof life n very demanding.I yearn fir sex with my spouse,shes 58,to whuch she refuses bluntly.I have no other option but to masturbate. Is it okay at this age? I hv never stepped out of my marital life.plz suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that your situation is challenging and can be emotionally difficult. It's important to approach such matters with sensitivity and communicationTalk to your wife openly and honestly about your feelings and desires. It's crucial to have a calm and non-confrontational conversation. Express your needs and concerns while also being empathetic to her perspective. Menopause can lead to changes in a woman's libido due to hormonal shifts. It may be beneficial for your wife to consult with a healthcare professional to discuss her symptoms. There could be medical interventions or lifestyle changes that may helpWhile sex is an important aspect of a relationship, intimacy can take many forms. Explore other ways to connect emotionally and physically that don't necessarily involve sexual activity. This may help strengthen your bond with your wife If you find it challenging to cope with your own feelings and desires, seeking individual counseling for yourself could be beneficial. A counselor can provide support and help you navigate your emotions. If both you and your wife are open to it, you might discuss the possibility of finding a solution that respects both of your needs and boundaries. This could involve finding a compromise or an arrangement that works for both parties Remember, every relationship is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. The key is to communicate openly, seek understanding, and work together to find a resolution that respects both partners' feelings and needs.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Congratulations! Most couples wean off from sex citing old age and other health issues due to ageing...
The act of sex/lovemaking increases heart rate, blood pressure and respiratory cycles and that is the only thing that you need to be watchful of especially if you are under medications for any lifestyle ailments. This doubt can be cleared with your doctor who can advise you accordingly; other than this sex is the most beautiful sport to indulge in at any age and also it keeps a couple together emotionally as well. So, enjoy...

All the best!