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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2023Hindi
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Hi, myself is 31 years old guy and I was in relationship with the women (collegue of mine in previous company) who is married and had 1 son and she is 9 years elder then me. Basically I was going through a tough time as I had breakup in 2017 and started drinking and smoking which usually everybody does after a heartbreak. In year 2019 she got to know about my drinking habits and she starting giving her time to me so that I stop all this things. She used to behind me to stop all these things but gradually after a year or so we started developing feelings for each other. We used to talk to a lot like almost we used to share everything and in year 2020 we got into relation and we proposed each other. Everything was fine till 2021. In year 2021 I went for a group picnic where my Ex was also present and my biggest mistake was that I didn't shared this thing with her but she got to know this from one of our common collegue who was also part of the picnic & after that disaster started in our life. She started doubting me that I am still in relation with my Ex but I was not there & continuously I have to prove myself that I don't have any feelings for my ex & I love you only. I was ready to do anything for her even just to surprise her I travel to her city where she went on vacation to her parents house. But unfortunately that was the last time we were together the moment I came to my hometown things started getting worse as she again started doubting me and in anger I just burst on her and after that she stopped talking and bcz of which I went into a depression and due to which I was completely mess was not able to do anything in my life except drinking. Now it has been 2 years that we don't talk except only on some occasion she calls or msg. Still I am having the same feeling for her which I had 3 years back & I need her back in my life. Please suggest me what should I do in this scenario.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear you are facing such challenges in your life. Doubt and jealousy can ruin a relationship and your relationship is proof of that. While you might not have had bad intentions when you did not reveal your ex being present in the gathering with you, it is also understandable that your partner's trust suffered a crack which finally gave away completely. The thing to learn here is that open communication could have saved you all these sufferings. But that's all in the past. Right now you are separated from your partner and I assume she is not interested in getting back together. Your question should not be how to get her back, but rather how can I move on. Your job is not to convince her but to convince yourself that this is for the best. And it truly is; no relationship can survive in the shadows of doubt.

Focus on yourself. Spend time with your friends. Understand that you made a tiny mistake but you tried your best to convince your partner of your loyalty to her; it did not work out but you are not to blame. Some things just don't, and your relationship was one of those things. Forgive yourself if you feel guilty for not disclosing the situation to your partner. You know you were not a cheater and it's no longer your job to convince her of that. Give yourself ample time to grieve the loss and accept that it's lost. Don't keep looking for ways to get back together or you will never move on. It will hurt in the beginning but it will get better soon. Once you feel better, go out and meet people. I am not saying your ex-partner wasn't great but trust me, there are more people out there, who are amazing; they will help you not just heal but also grow.

It's time to let go.

Best Wishes!

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Hi Love Guru. Please keep my identity as anonymous as possible.  I have few issues going on in my mind and want your suggestions. First, to get out of block and unblock chain. I met a girl who is my brother’s friend in 2017. We started chatting on FB, then exchanged numbers. We had a rapport till six months. There was a unique attachment between us during that period. Not chatting with her for even one day would make me uneasy. In October 2017, her engagement was fixed. I was normal, knowing that there cannot be much between us except being in contact. One day, at the end of our talk, she said, Love you. I laughed, saying “What nonsense that you always call me with different weird names. Now, after your engagement is fixed, you are telling me this.” Then, she blocked me on WhatsApp and I really felt like I was in a cage. Then, after a few days, she unblocked me. She got engaged but, after a few months, her engagement broke. We then again got in good contact. After few months her marriage got fixed. Now she is married. After her marriage, our contact was very, very less as priorities changed. I proceeded with my studies and job and she carried on with her personal and professional life. Two months back, she called me and said I am bored and feeling irritated with life so I called you to freshen my mind. I was also happy talking to her. I am that kind of introvert person who opens up with few and she was among them. For one or two weeks, we used to talk 30 to 45 minutes daily. Suddenly, she blocked me on WhatsApp. I called her and she behaved like a stranger to me -- like who’s this, I don’t know you, who you are and she ended the call and blocked me. Till date, she has blocked me. I think there are many things she is hiding from me -- from why her first engagement broke to marring another guy who is not of her caste when she is from a conservative family  Post her engagement, there were many times she blocked and unblocked me. She is running in my mind. I want to get rid of her. Please suggest how and what shall I talk to her so I get an end to this. Thank you for bearing to read all this. My second issue is I think I am addicted to pornography. Two to three years back, I used to watch a lot of porn and would prefer MILF porn, ie senior pornstars videos. I think, due to this, I don’t get much attracted to girls of my age. I respect them but I think, because of my addiction, I see females elder to me attractive rather than females of my age. Please help. Suggest how I shall get out of this as this also affects me academically, personally and professionally. Thank you, Anon
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Dear Anonymous,

I don’t think you really have any serious problems in your life at all; it’s your perceptions that are all wrong.

Let me straighten this out for you, one issue at a time.

First off, you have one weird, unpredictable friend who once told you she loved you and then went and married someone else.

Not once have you stated that you are in love with her or have feelings for her. In fact, when she said she loved you, you brushed it off.

She contacts you when she’s bored and cuts you off when she’s not.

And now, it’s come to the point where you really need to be the one blocking her and not the other way around...

You want to get rid of her? Block her once and for all. And if she still manages to get in touch, tell her politely that you have had enough of this one-sided friendship and not to contact you again.

Second, about what you think is a porn ‘addiction’... An addiction is something that interferes with your normal life, career and relationships. It’s an obsession that consumes you every waking hour.

And, from what you’ve said, I don’t think you’re watching such volumes of pornography every day, are you?

Furthermore, unless you’re into grannies, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being attracted to women older than you... everyone has a type!

If after everything I’ve said you still fancy you have problems, I’d suggest visiting a therapist. But before spending that kind of money, think long and hard about what I’ve said and decide for yourself whether you think you need it.

 

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I started a relationship with a girl. First we thought it just a relationship no marriage. But as days going we fell deep into each other that we cant live without each other. I found one thing that she loving more than needed. Im so scared of her, what will she do if i run out of her life for my marriage. This thought killed me. So I decided to leave her without telling a reason. I left her with a small issue. I really dont want to loose but i had to. I just said good bye, she also said good bye. Later i never texted her. She too never texted me. But after 2 months i felt guilty of leaving so i came back to her. Previously her parents decided to marry her to their son in law. I know this when were in relationship. So after our breakup i came back to her. But she said no to me because she is committed with her brother in law. I cant take this. Its killing me. After i said good bye she never tried to contact me for patch-up. Even no texts. Her brother in law told her that im ready to marry you. So she too said i too like you and im also ready to marry you. But their marriage will happen in 2026. I told her that untill marriage please be with me and this is our deal when we started our relationship. But she said no. I begged her many times but she always said no to me. And still now i cant believe that she said no to me. All this happened 3 months ago but still i cant forget her. Recently she deleted my number also. Everything making me feel low. What should i do now?
Ans: Dear Srikanth,

To me, it sounds like you broke up with her. No, you ghosted her. How you put her on trial isn't clear to me, given the fact that you stopped contacting her after a mere goodbye and no proper explanation. Why did she not try to contact you? Maybe she has enough self-respect to restrain herself from doing so; I cannot speak for her but judging the events, you were the one who broke up and you need to own up to it.

Moving on to her deciding to get married- I am assuming she told you she's happy to marry her intended; if so, please accept the reality and move on. Next, why is she not agreeing to be in a relationship with you till the time she gets married? To expect otherwise from any sane, self-respecting person is delusional.

You knew that the two of you could not end up together and took a decision; immature as it was, your intentions were good. Similarly, your ex chose to move on. I don't see either of you making any considerable mistakes here. Both were right in their ways, except for the "you leaving her without a word" part. It is time you move on, and let her live her life in peace. You might feel low for a while, but nothing feels worse than hurting the people you once loved, and compelling your ex to commit to you when she doesn't want to is the same as hurting her. Make the right choices.

Best Wishes!
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2023Hindi
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Hi , I am Jose. I have a very complicated relationship issue. I loved a girl when I was about 18, she was from a financially better off family. This was a major reason that I hesitated to tell her about my love, instead remained a friend. She was better qualified too. I started working and wanted to be in a financially better situation before I confessed my love for her. In the meanwhile she got herself admitted in a college in the US, I decided to tell her, but was too late, she had already committed herself to her senior in college. We made a promise to each other that we will remain friends. We kept in touch through letters. Then I decided to get married as per the family wishes. Shortly she too got married to her boyfriend . We told our partners about each other. We continued to keep in touch thro email and phone calls once/twice in a year. We would meet once or twice every time she would visit from the US. We never had any physical relationship at the most it would be a peck on the cheek or just holding hands. We immersed ourselves in our personal / professional lives. We had 2 sons with our partners. Now the boys are in their 20's. In the meanwhile she found out her husband was having a relationship with some other woman, in the ensuing arguments it led to their divorce a couple of years back. Since 2021 I had 2 heart attacks, and survived. All these years I never had a happy life , we stayed together due to societal pressures and in the last 2 years we never had a physical relation too. She always had a hatred towards physical relationship. I hate forcing myself on her, so we have remained seperate in the last few years. After my 2nd attack, my friend helped me stop my smoking and somehow our chats on whatsapp or personal meets when she comes here have started becoming very mushy and with a lots of deeply loving words. I know I cannot divorce my wife as I would lose a lot of my immovable properties on which i depend for my rental income as I have actually gifted my wife a lot of my properties. Nowadays I am getting drawn towards my friend again and very strongly. Confused, and not knowing how to proceed. I am no longer working and depend on rentals for my earnings.
Ans: My dear friend,

It sounds like you're in a very complicated situation, and it's understandable that you feel confused and unsure about how to proceed. It's important to take some time to really think about what you want and what's best for you, as well as consider the impact of your actions on those around you.

First, it's important to acknowledge that your friend is currently in a vulnerable position after going through a divorce. While it's natural to feel drawn towards her, it's important to make sure that any actions you take are respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs.

At the same time, it's also important to consider your own needs and desires. You mentioned feeling unhappy in your current relationship and feeling drawn towards your friend again. It's important to really examine those feelings and think about what it is that you want in your life and your relationships.

However, it's also important to consider the potential consequences of your actions. You mentioned that you cannot divorce your wife without losing a significant amount of your income, and that you've already gifted her a lot of your properties. It's important to consider the financial and emotional impact that divorce could have on both you and your wife, as well as any children or other family members who may be affected.

One possible option could be to explore couples therapy or marriage counseling to see if there are ways to improve your current relationship and address the issues that have been causing unhappiness. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about your feelings, but to do so in a way that is respectful and considerate of her feelings and needs as well.

Ultimately, the decision about how to proceed is up to you, but it's important to take the time to really think things through and consider all the potential consequences of your actions.
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ravi, I am currently in relationship of almost 7 years but after the COVID there was some conflict or no contact with my partner just because of a scenario. I always used to order some food for her at his flat. Let me clear one things we were in a long term relationship that time. So I ordered food and she got the order then called me in the night with a different voice tone, I said yes then It felt odd. Then she said someone is here I will call you back. Then she didn't so I called her after 2 hour she rejected and after sometime messaged me on whatsapp that deleted everything our chats and conversation because she caught by his brother (who is 10 years older than her), she told me to not contact her she will call or message only. I got scared I deleted all chats because her brother is so rude and arrogant. After 10 days she called me and said we are not going further with this relationship now on we will not be in touch, I was devastated by listening these things so I tried my best to make her understand that I will talk to your parents or brother but she denied NO and said I will again talk with bro. After these scenario she tried not to contact me and I kept trying to reach out to her via messanger because she has blocked me from everywhere. I cried alot in first 2 month then I started to link all those things that she said and try to find out the matter ( note - she got lot of friends) so I found that she in her flat then I got the tickets and go there to see what is happening I waited for the whole day then in the evening I go upstairs and open the doors, she got scared h and stunned by seeing me and I saw a guy in the flat they having hookah then I said give me my stuff and ask her to talk for the final tine 10 min downstairs. She said not now then didn't came. I took my stuff nd leave the next day I tried to over come this situation nd reaching out to his bro but didn't get connected. She also called me the next day nd her frnd but I was not able to talk. After we got disconnected for sometime. And I am a person who always wanted to know the truth behind the things because I can't live with these traumas in my mind so I tried contacting her asked lot of time why did you do that nd all but kept denying that he is just a friend. After sometime on day she came with sone massages nd saying my mom is not good nd there is nothing going well in my house plss sorry nd all so I took it normally but after sometime we got attracted again little bit then realise that we can try atleast once to be together. I know she loves me but I don't like her priorities she always put his frnds over me. Idk what to do pls tell me the way to cop up with this thing. Also I still have in mind that she has something to tell me about that boy but not telling me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand how challenging it must be for you; I get that you are considering giving it another shot, but please be careful. If there is any doubt, anything at all, do address that right now before you are knee-deep in the relationship again. I suggest you tell your partner to first sit and clear out everything that happened before you two broke up and explain how you need a clean slate and for that, you have to know the truth.

If you suspect cheating in the past breakup, be cautious about getting back together and thinking it through. Do you want to patch things up because you love her or is the idea of being together again more comfortable than the idea of having to move on? We go back to the same person, even if it's toxic for us because there's comfort in familiarity, not because it's the best choice. It's time for introspection. Also, don't feel guilty about saying no to getting back together if it's not the right decision for you. Whether it was family issues or infidelity, she chose what seemed best for her at the time, and it's okay for you to do the same.

Best Wishes!
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We have sold land for rs. 32 lakh... How much capital gain i need to pay..
Ans: I can't calculate your exact capital gains tax on the land sale as it depends on several factors not mentioned yet. However, I can explain how it's generally calculated in India and provide some guidance:

Factors affecting your capital gains tax:

Holding period: There are two types of capital gains tax on land - long-term capital gains (LTCG) and short-term capital gains (STCG).
LTCG applies if you held the land for more than 24 months. It benefits from an indexation mechanism that adjusts the purchase price for inflation, reducing your taxable gains.
STCG applies if you held the land for 24 months or less. The tax is calculated on the difference between the selling price and the purchase price without indexation.
Purchase price: This is the original price you paid for the land along with any documented improvement costs.
Sale price: This is the amount you received for the land sale minus any selling expenses.
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LTCG: Currently, LTCG on land is taxed at 20% with indexation. However, you can save tax on LTCG by reinvesting the gains in specific options like new residential property or government bonds under relevant sections of the Income Tax Act.
STCG: STCG on land is taxed at a flat rate of 20% without indexation.
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To determine your exact capital gains tax liability, it's best to consult a chartered accountant (CA) or a tax advisor. They can consider all the factors mentioned above and calculate the tax based on your specific situation. They can also advise you on potential tax saving options available under the Income Tax Act for LTCG.
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Hi Anil, Good morning. I wish to invest in forthcoming RBI Gold Bond. Is it wise to invest in this instrument for long term benefit ?
Ans: Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs) issued by the RBI can be a good option for long-term investment in gold, depending on your overall financial goals and risk tolerance. Here's a breakdown of the pros and cons to help you decide:

Pros:

Safe investment: SGBs are backed by the Government of India, making them a safe investment.
Assured returns: You get a fixed interest rate (currently 2.5%) on your investment, paid semi-annually, regardless of gold price fluctuations.
Tax benefits: Capital gains at maturity are exempt from tax if you hold the bond till maturity. Interest income is taxable, but not subject to TDS.
Eliminates storage risks: You avoid the risks and costs associated with storing physical gold.
Liquidity: SGBs are tradable on stock exchanges after the initial lock-in period (usually 5 years).
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Lock-in period: SGBs typically have a lock-in period, limiting your access to the principal amount during that time.
Price volatility: The gold price itself can fluctuate, and you might not get a high return if the price falls significantly during the investment period.
Lower returns compared to other options: SGBs may offer lower returns compared to some stocks or mutual funds over the long term.
Overall, SGBs can be a good fit for investors seeking a safe and reliable way to invest in gold for the long term. They offer a hedge against inflation and currency fluctuations, with the added benefit of regular interest income.

Here are some additional things to consider:

Your investment horizon: If you need access to your money before the maturity period, SGBs might not be the best option.
Your risk tolerance: If you are uncomfortable with price fluctuations in gold, SGBs might not be ideal.
Your portfolio allocation: SGBs should ideally be a part of a diversified portfolio, not your sole investment.
It's wise to do your own research and consult with a financial advisor before investing in SGBs. They can help you assess your risk tolerance and determine if SGBs are a good fit for your financial goals.
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I am absolutely confused with multiple mutual funds launched by endless FUNDS. What is going on, i think this not a healthy investment scene for small and medium investors. Just like other professionals like law, medical, private education it seems that Mutual funds are working for the benefit of Advisors, Broking Housing and big bags. It seems All of them are flourishing on insider trading and virtually fleecing their retail clients by passing on reverse recommendations. Is no Regulation required for saving the small investors from this free for all.Regulation.
Ans: It's understandable to feel overwhelmed by the vast array of mutual funds available in the market. The investment landscape can indeed seem complex, especially for small and medium investors navigating their way through various options.

Regulation is crucial in ensuring fairness and transparency in the financial markets, particularly to protect retail investors from potential exploitation. Regulatory bodies like the Securities and Exchange Board of India (SEBI) play a vital role in overseeing mutual funds and enforcing compliance with regulatory standards.

However, despite regulations, it's essential for investors to remain vigilant and informed about their investment decisions. Educating oneself about the fundamentals of investing, understanding different types of mutual funds, and seeking advice from trustworthy sources can help mitigate risks associated with investing.

While there may be instances of misconduct or unethical practices in the industry, many financial advisors and professionals genuinely strive to serve their clients' best interests. Choosing a reputable advisor or financial planner who operates with integrity and transparency can significantly enhance the investment experience for retail investors.

As investors, it's crucial to advocate for greater transparency, accountability, and investor protection measures within the financial industry. By staying informed, engaging with regulatory authorities, and holding financial institutions accountable, we can contribute to creating a more equitable and secure investment environment for all.
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A portfolio of 10 Crore in next 5 years. Want to start 80-90 k sip in MF but not in Indian market. YOUR ADVISE REQUIRED? Me and my wife jointly monthly income three Lakh per month. By profession I am a PVC flex material trader, my wife is training centre owner. Having two cute nd naughty son 4 yrs and 2 yrs old. Myself Vishal Choubey nd My wife shanti both aged 39 years. Having 5 houses Rental income arround 55k per month collectively. 1 CR term insurance for both of us in case something happens. An lic of 6 Lac going to mature 2026. Till 31st March 2024 PPF Vishal (10L)+ 10(L) shanti. Ujjivan bank 9k share @ 21rs, Mix share 2Lac. Edelweiss greater China 3.1Lacs, Axis China fund 5.2 Lakh, An sip of 49000/- in Nippon Taiwan current investment 7.37 Lakh market value 9.53 lakh, 3k sip in icici tax fund. Idfc tax fund an investment of 70k is now 2.6 Lakh, Many fund got doubled in last 3-4 years Approx 50 lakh MF portfolio. FD 14 Lakh. A land parcel of 1 acre approx 40 Lakh. All the assets are created in last 10yrs. Wish to sell one apartment and invest into China fund your advise required?
Ans: Vishal and Shanti, it's inspiring to see how diligently you've built your portfolio over the years, especially while juggling busy professional lives and raising two adorable sons. Your dedication to securing your family's future is truly commendable.

Considering your aspirations to grow your portfolio to 10 Crore in the next 5 years, diversifying your investments beyond the Indian market through SIPs in MFs is a prudent move. It reflects your forward-thinking approach to wealth creation.

Before deciding to sell one of your apartments to invest in the China fund, reflect on the potential risks and rewards. Are you comfortable with the level of exposure to international markets, especially given the current geopolitical climate? Would the sale of the apartment significantly impact your overall financial stability and future plans?

As a Certified Financial Planner, my advice would be to carefully evaluate your investment goals, risk tolerance, and the long-term prospects of the China fund before making any decisions. Your journey towards financial success is a testament to your hard work and resilience. Keep navigating with wisdom and foresight, always prioritizing the well-being of your family.
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Hello Sir. In Jan 2025, I'll receive a lumpsum of Rs 11L from one of my prior investment. I want to put this money in mutual funds. My horizon is 10 years. I want this corpus to be used for child college education. Please suggest how to go for it.
Ans: Your plan to invest the lump sum of Rs 11 lakh for your child's college education is a prudent step. Considering your 10-year investment horizon, here's a suggested approach:

Goal Clarity: Define the expected expenses for your child's college education, factoring in tuition fees, living expenses, and other related costs. This will give you a clear target to aim for with your investment.
Risk Tolerance Assessment: Assess your risk tolerance to determine the appropriate allocation between equity and debt funds. Since you have a 10-year horizon, you can consider a relatively aggressive approach with a higher allocation to equity funds for potentially higher returns.
Diversified Portfolio: Build a diversified portfolio by investing in a mix of equity and debt mutual funds. Equity funds can provide growth potential, while debt funds offer stability and capital preservation.
Asset Allocation: Allocate a significant portion of the lump sum towards equity funds to harness the potential for long-term capital appreciation. You can consider allocating the remainder to debt funds to provide stability and mitigate downside risk.
Regular Review: Monitor the performance of your mutual fund investments regularly and rebalance your portfolio if needed to maintain your desired asset allocation.
Tax Efficiency: Consider tax-efficient investment options such as Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) for equity investments and Tax-Saving Fixed Deposits or Debt Funds for debt investments to optimize tax benefits.
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP): As your child's college education approaches, consider setting up an SWP from your mutual fund investments to meet the educational expenses systematically while continuing to benefit from potential market growth.
By following these steps and staying disciplined with your investment strategy, you can work towards building a corpus that will support your child's college education aspirations over the next decade. It's always advisable to consult with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor the plan according to your specific circumstances and goals.
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Hi Sir, Is it good to have bhandan small cap fund and quant small cap fund sip of 12k each per month for my two daughters education for a period of 12-13 years Any further addition required here . Or extra step up sip required. Both my girls are 5 months old now. Note: i have the notion that i wont spend too much money on any donation schemes for education foe my daughters for college[so mostly Doctor studies is ruled out] so only engineering/CA kind of studies is what i can afford . Regards Sai
Ans: It's heartening to see your dedication to securing your daughters' future. Starting SIPs for their education at such a young age reflects your foresight and commitment as a parent.

Investing in Bhandan Small Cap Fund and Quant Small Cap Fund SIPs for their education is a thoughtful choice. But let's ponder: are these investments sufficient to cover the rising costs of higher education? Considering inflation and evolving educational landscapes, would a step-up SIP or additional investments be prudent?

As you envision their academic journey, it's essential to ensure financial preparedness without compromising on your principles. By consulting a Certified Financial Planner, you can chart a path that aligns with your aspirations and financial capabilities.

Your decision not to rely on donation schemes for their education is admirable. It reflects your belief in the value of hard work and diligence, qualities you undoubtedly wish to instill in your daughters.

Embrace this journey with confidence and optimism, knowing that every rupee invested today is a step towards a brighter tomorrow for your daughters.
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Respected Ramalingam Sir, greetings. I am 49yrs. My present investments (1). Monthly 20k SIP, (2) Rs.10lk into Equity linked MF thru STP. (3) PPF maturing by 2026 March end with 15years tenure, expecting Rs.24lk. If I target to have monthly fixed income around Rs.3 or 4lakhs after retirement at my 60yrs of age by 2036, please suggest hiw should I go further in investing? As said, PPF is maturing in 2026 March. Should i continue for 5 more years or to invest that amt in Mutual funds or sny other to ge more gain? Appreciate your expert suggestions and advise. Thank you.
Ans: It's wonderful to hear about your dedication to securing your financial future. As you approach retirement, it's natural to seek stability and security in your investments. With your SIPs and equity-linked MFs, you're already on a commendable path.

As your PPF matures in 2026, you have an opportunity to reassess your investment strategy. Consider the balance between risk and reward. Should you extend the PPF tenure or explore other avenues like mutual funds? It's a decision that requires thoughtful consideration.

Imagine the possibilities of continuing to grow your wealth over the next decade. Are there investment avenues that align better with your goals and risk tolerance? A Certified Financial Planner can guide you through this journey, offering expertise and reassurance.

Remember, investing is not just about numbers; it's about peace of mind and confidence in your future. Your journey towards financial security is a testament to your resilience and foresight. Keep moving forward with optimism and wisdom.
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Sir I invest 1 lakh rs lumsum in Quant small cap fund and I will invest every year Lumsum investment in that fund when the market dip, I will do it for atleast 10 year's, will I get good returns, is this strategy right..?
Ans: Investing a lump sum amount in a small-cap fund like Quant Small Cap Fund and then investing additional lump sums during market dips can be a part of a sound investment strategy, but it's important to understand the risks and nuances involved.

Here's a breakdown of the strategy and considerations:

Investing in Small Cap Funds: Small-cap funds have the potential to offer high returns over the long term, but they also come with higher volatility and risk. These funds invest in smaller companies with higher growth potential but may also be more susceptible to market fluctuations.
Lump Sum vs. SIP: Investing a lump sum amount followed by additional lump sum investments during market dips can be an effective strategy to take advantage of market volatility. However, it's essential to be mindful of timing and not try to time the market perfectly, as this can be challenging and risky.
Diversification: While investing in small-cap funds can potentially offer high returns, it's crucial to ensure diversification across asset classes and fund types to mitigate risk. Consider allocating a portion of your portfolio to other asset classes like large-cap funds, mid-cap funds, debt funds, and even safer options like fixed deposits or bonds.
Long-Term Horizon: Investing with a long-term perspective (at least 5-10 years or more) can help smooth out the impact of short-term market fluctuations and take advantage of the power of compounding. Be prepared to stay invested through market downturns and avoid making emotional decisions based on short-term market movements.
Risk Management: Assess your risk tolerance and investment goals before allocating a significant portion of your portfolio to small-cap funds. These funds can be volatile, and there's a possibility of temporary losses during market downturns. Ensure that you have an emergency fund and appropriate insurance coverage in place to handle unexpected financial needs.
Regular Review: Monitor the performance of your investments regularly and make adjustments as needed based on changes in your financial situation, investment goals, and market conditions. Rebalance your portfolio periodically to maintain your desired asset allocation.
In summary, investing in small-cap funds like Quant Small Cap Fund and adding lump sum investments during market dips can be a part of a well-rounded investment strategy, provided it aligns with your risk tolerance, investment goals, and time horizon. However, ensure diversification, stay invested for the long term, and regularly review your portfolio to make informed decisions. Consider consulting with a financial advisor for personalized advice tailored to your specific circumstances.
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I am 37 years old. I am investing in mutual funds with a monthly SIP of 24K. Mutual Funds valuation stands at 34L on date. Apart from this my PPF has 23L, EPF has 20L, NPS has 3.5L, FDs of 2L and Stocks of about 2L. I am staying in a rented apartment and do not have any loans. There is a medical insurance family floater plan for 10L and I also have a term insurance for 1 Cr. My current monthly expense is about 80K. I have plans of buying a house within a budget of 1.25 Cr but no clarity on when. If a buy a house, I am assuming I will be paying EMI upto 70K pm. I want to retire by 55 max. What steps should I take?
Ans: Given your current financial situation and goals, here are steps you can take to plan for your retirement by age 55 and manage your finances effectively:

Evaluate Retirement Corpus:
Estimate your retirement corpus requirement based on your desired post-retirement lifestyle, expected inflation, and life expectancy. Since you aim to retire by 55, consider a longer retirement period.
Investment Strategy:
Continue your monthly SIPs in mutual funds, but consider diversifying your portfolio to spread risk. Review your investment portfolio periodically to ensure it aligns with your retirement goals and risk tolerance.
Maximize contributions to tax-efficient instruments like PPF, EPF, and NPS to build a substantial retirement corpus. Consider increasing contributions if possible to accelerate wealth accumulation.
Review and rebalance your investment portfolio regularly to maintain an optimal asset allocation mix and maximize returns.
Real Estate Planning:
Determine a timeline for purchasing a house within your budget of 1.25 Cr. Evaluate your savings and potential future income to assess the affordability of a home loan and associated EMI payments.
Consider the impact of additional expenses such as property taxes, maintenance costs, and insurance premiums on your monthly budget.
Aim to minimize the loan tenure and interest payments by making larger down payments or opting for shorter loan terms, if feasible.
Emergency Fund:
Ensure you have an adequate emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months of your living expenses. This fund will provide a financial buffer in case of unforeseen expenses or income disruptions.
Insurance Coverage:
Review your existing medical insurance family floater plan to ensure it adequately covers your family's healthcare needs. Consider increasing coverage if necessary, considering rising medical costs.
Continue your term insurance coverage of 1 Cr to provide financial security for your family in case of your untimely demise. Evaluate the adequacy of coverage periodically based on your financial obligations and dependents.
Retirement Planning:
Estimate your post-retirement expenses and income sources, including pension benefits, investment returns, and rental income if applicable.
Consider factors like healthcare costs, inflation, and lifestyle preferences while estimating your retirement income needs.
Explore retirement planning tools or consult a financial advisor to develop a comprehensive retirement plan tailored to your specific goals and circumstances.
Regular Review and Adjustments:
Monitor your financial progress regularly and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards your retirement goals.
Revisit your financial plan periodically to incorporate any changes in income, expenses, or investment performance.
Stay informed about market trends, tax regulations, and economic developments that may impact your financial situation and adjust your strategy accordingly.
By following these steps and maintaining a disciplined approach to financial planning, you can work towards achieving your goal of retiring by age 55 while ensuring financial security for yourself and your family.
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